I have an aunt L who we all think is clinically depressed but there are other issues in play as well (fibromyalgia, definitely SAD, serious type A, prone to irrational outbursts, some other things). She always has to be the one to do the holiday cooking by herself (food for an army, when her mom was alive she would recruit everyone she could fit in the kitchen even if that meant calling relatives in the next town and some prep spilled into the living room), refuses any help and then yells at the closest targets when she gets overwhelmed (implying that we don't want to help...well you've made it crystal clear that don't want us to). It's gotten so that we don't even like being in the house anymore when she's cooking which is a shame as that used to be a lot of fun. Her mom's health went downhill in that house, she's done very little in terms of changing anything and the vibes in that place are just off.
So it's time when everyone is sending everyone else their Amazon wishlists...for ideas only. Nobody has to buy gifts if they can't do so which has been in place for a few years (L knows this). A few of us like spoiling people (especially my 3-year-old niece) within reason. A few of us do our Christmas shopping all year and want to give people neat stuff. No expectations.
So L starts the list-posting and I innocently throw mine in the ring, as usual. Which almost immediately results in a fairly vitriolic group reply from L, all caps and colored fonts, reiterating that nobody has to buy anything...included in there is a political mini-rant (Fratching territory, but involving the goings-on with SS/Medicare/etc) along with "Maybe just buy me a gun. I don't even think I'm kidding."
*recordscratch*
Whoa, whoa, WHOA. Where the did that come from?! It's the holidays, and dad and I are going to be in your house for a week. Don't even joke about shit like that, especially not you. Even mom who knows how moody and weird L can be--and tolerates it in small doses--was appalled when I showed her the email.
I'm tempted to reply to the list with something along the lines of "Cool it. It's the holidays, family time, we're all going to get together and visit and have fun, we all know the national situation and dislike it as much as you do so can we leave politics out of everything for a few days?" Or I'm also tempted to not reply to her at all...this is just too weird.
So it's time when everyone is sending everyone else their Amazon wishlists...for ideas only. Nobody has to buy gifts if they can't do so which has been in place for a few years (L knows this). A few of us like spoiling people (especially my 3-year-old niece) within reason. A few of us do our Christmas shopping all year and want to give people neat stuff. No expectations.
So L starts the list-posting and I innocently throw mine in the ring, as usual. Which almost immediately results in a fairly vitriolic group reply from L, all caps and colored fonts, reiterating that nobody has to buy anything...included in there is a political mini-rant (Fratching territory, but involving the goings-on with SS/Medicare/etc) along with "Maybe just buy me a gun. I don't even think I'm kidding."
*recordscratch*
Whoa, whoa, WHOA. Where the did that come from?! It's the holidays, and dad and I are going to be in your house for a week. Don't even joke about shit like that, especially not you. Even mom who knows how moody and weird L can be--and tolerates it in small doses--was appalled when I showed her the email.
I'm tempted to reply to the list with something along the lines of "Cool it. It's the holidays, family time, we're all going to get together and visit and have fun, we all know the national situation and dislike it as much as you do so can we leave politics out of everything for a few days?" Or I'm also tempted to not reply to her at all...this is just too weird.
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