So my daughter is in kindergarten. And she's learning about "sucky people" already.
Long story short, she has this friend who she likes a whole lot better than the "friend" likes her. This kid is kind of one of "those types of girls." You know. Probably gonna grow up to be a Mean Girl. "If you don't do this, you aren't my friend" and "You can't be friends with that person", etc.
Kindergarten.
I really do not know why this child has such a hold over my daughter. My daughter has a bit of a girl crush on her. So one day my kid comes home devastated because this kid told her they were no longer friends. And this was my daughter's intro to "Nasty Schoolgirl Politics 101." She spent the night crying.
So we just had a conversion about how some kids are. About all you can really do.
So of course, they're SIX, so they made up and it happened again this week. Except this time, my kid has a better perspective on it. My kid caught her "friend" stealing, called her on it, and got the "you're not my friend" treatment.
So my kid was like "okay. Fine."
That was early in the week and my kid is holding her to that. The girl says "are we friends?" and my daughter says "No. You said we are not."
So here's my thing: This kid needs to learn how to treat people. My kid needs to learn to stand up for herself. And clearly, this kid is a bad influence. So this is good. However, they're six years old and I don't want my kid to fail to grasp the difference between "being mean" and "being firm." Does that make sense? Maybe I'm not giving my kid enough credit for understanding the difference in motive. Maybe a crying six year old just pushes my protective mom buttons, whether it's my own kid or the emotional bully doing the crying. I don't know.
So I had a conversation about it this morning with her about it. On one had, I am proud of my kid for sticking up for herself. On the other, I am unsettled. I don't like the whole "girl politics" thing and I am not comfortable with it.
Maybe I'm worrying too much about it.
Long story short, she has this friend who she likes a whole lot better than the "friend" likes her. This kid is kind of one of "those types of girls." You know. Probably gonna grow up to be a Mean Girl. "If you don't do this, you aren't my friend" and "You can't be friends with that person", etc.
Kindergarten.
I really do not know why this child has such a hold over my daughter. My daughter has a bit of a girl crush on her. So one day my kid comes home devastated because this kid told her they were no longer friends. And this was my daughter's intro to "Nasty Schoolgirl Politics 101." She spent the night crying.
So we just had a conversion about how some kids are. About all you can really do.
So of course, they're SIX, so they made up and it happened again this week. Except this time, my kid has a better perspective on it. My kid caught her "friend" stealing, called her on it, and got the "you're not my friend" treatment.
So my kid was like "okay. Fine."
That was early in the week and my kid is holding her to that. The girl says "are we friends?" and my daughter says "No. You said we are not."
So here's my thing: This kid needs to learn how to treat people. My kid needs to learn to stand up for herself. And clearly, this kid is a bad influence. So this is good. However, they're six years old and I don't want my kid to fail to grasp the difference between "being mean" and "being firm." Does that make sense? Maybe I'm not giving my kid enough credit for understanding the difference in motive. Maybe a crying six year old just pushes my protective mom buttons, whether it's my own kid or the emotional bully doing the crying. I don't know.
So I had a conversation about it this morning with her about it. On one had, I am proud of my kid for sticking up for herself. On the other, I am unsettled. I don't like the whole "girl politics" thing and I am not comfortable with it.
Maybe I'm worrying too much about it.
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