Well, I know I'm crazy, that has been established
More specifically, am I crazy in feeling this way in this specific case.
I am right now living in my grandma's old house, I'm renting it from my mom, aunt, and uncle. It is a nice enough house (3 bed, 2 bath, about 1400 square feet not including the two covered porches, detached garage, washer/dryer in house, along with a clothes line in the yard, which I actually prefer to the dryer when I can use it, decent quality appliances, and mature landscaping) and not in a horrible neighborhood (crime is fairly low, traffic isn't bad*, and it is one of the places in the value with an unobstructed view of both the Lady Rose on Mount Rose and also of Mount Davidson... however, according to walkscore.com the walkability score of this neighborhood on a scale of 1 to 100 is 5... we are quite literally in the middle of nowhere, there is literally nowhere we can go that doesn't require a car or a walk long enough to be counted as your daily workout plus some).
Now, here is where I'm apparently crazy, I am keeping my eyes open on places that I can buy. As much as I like the house, it is as I mentioned at the intersection of Middle and Nowhere, but more relevantly I am renting my grandma's house. On two levels makes me want to change the situation... one, I really want something that is mine. I want something that is permanent. I doubt that my family is going to sell the house out from under me, but at the same time, no matter how much trust and faith that I have in them will never change the fact that they could if they so desired. I know that banks can screw you in many ways, but at least there is legal recourse most of the time when that happens. And frankly, as an investment, your own home is a good one... yes it can lose value, as we've learned recently, but as long as what you pay in interest, plus the loss in value, plus any repairs that may be needed while you live there is less than what you would have paid in rent, then you've come out ahead.
Second, and this is where it seems like I'm crazy... it's grandma's house. I was talking to my mom yesterday, and not once in the conversation did we refer to it as "my house"... I routinely referred to it as grandma's house, she referred to it as mom's house. I'm having doubts on whether or not somewhere can truly be a home when even after a year of living there you can't bring yourself to call it your home... I know it's possible that if I were to actually buy the house (it isn't FHA compliant, and I know I can't afford the down payment on a conventional loan, but I might be able to negotiate a lease to own situation), it might give me a better sense of ownership, but I don't think I can feel that for a rental.
Am I crazy for wanting to buy my own place? Should I be happy to be living in my grandma's old home? I know that there is a value to keeping a home in the family and it used to be the norm to live in ancestors' homes, but I'm not sure if that is me. I guess I'm asking for a second opinion, am I being unreasonable thinking about buying a house rather than continuing to rent from my family?
More specifically, am I crazy in feeling this way in this specific case.
I am right now living in my grandma's old house, I'm renting it from my mom, aunt, and uncle. It is a nice enough house (3 bed, 2 bath, about 1400 square feet not including the two covered porches, detached garage, washer/dryer in house, along with a clothes line in the yard, which I actually prefer to the dryer when I can use it, decent quality appliances, and mature landscaping) and not in a horrible neighborhood (crime is fairly low, traffic isn't bad*, and it is one of the places in the value with an unobstructed view of both the Lady Rose on Mount Rose and also of Mount Davidson... however, according to walkscore.com the walkability score of this neighborhood on a scale of 1 to 100 is 5... we are quite literally in the middle of nowhere, there is literally nowhere we can go that doesn't require a car or a walk long enough to be counted as your daily workout plus some).
Now, here is where I'm apparently crazy, I am keeping my eyes open on places that I can buy. As much as I like the house, it is as I mentioned at the intersection of Middle and Nowhere, but more relevantly I am renting my grandma's house. On two levels makes me want to change the situation... one, I really want something that is mine. I want something that is permanent. I doubt that my family is going to sell the house out from under me, but at the same time, no matter how much trust and faith that I have in them will never change the fact that they could if they so desired. I know that banks can screw you in many ways, but at least there is legal recourse most of the time when that happens. And frankly, as an investment, your own home is a good one... yes it can lose value, as we've learned recently, but as long as what you pay in interest, plus the loss in value, plus any repairs that may be needed while you live there is less than what you would have paid in rent, then you've come out ahead.
Second, and this is where it seems like I'm crazy... it's grandma's house. I was talking to my mom yesterday, and not once in the conversation did we refer to it as "my house"... I routinely referred to it as grandma's house, she referred to it as mom's house. I'm having doubts on whether or not somewhere can truly be a home when even after a year of living there you can't bring yourself to call it your home... I know it's possible that if I were to actually buy the house (it isn't FHA compliant, and I know I can't afford the down payment on a conventional loan, but I might be able to negotiate a lease to own situation), it might give me a better sense of ownership, but I don't think I can feel that for a rental.
Am I crazy for wanting to buy my own place? Should I be happy to be living in my grandma's old home? I know that there is a value to keeping a home in the family and it used to be the norm to live in ancestors' homes, but I'm not sure if that is me. I guess I'm asking for a second opinion, am I being unreasonable thinking about buying a house rather than continuing to rent from my family?
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