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Mom-in-law's cancer is back and it's now in her liver as well as her lungs. We live the farthest away (1000+ miles) yet somehow we are the ones who visit and call the most.
Sis-in-law decided to take Mom to her Dr's appointment on Saturday. Sunday morning we got a phone call from a very drunk SIL about how "Mom is dying and we don't care, and we need to call her and she's your mom dammit!" Luckily hubs didn't take the bait and argue with her. We call 2-3 times a week, every week. We visit whenever we can get time off/save up money, and we always visit and take care of her for at least 2 weeks! We're not the ones SIL should be mad at!
But still hubs is feeling bummed out - understandably. I've told him if we need to head out there we can go - kids are home-schooled now so it's not like we can't take it with us.
MIL is getting a feeding tube put in on Thursday. She already has a live in nurse with her. Her Dr wants her to move to hospice care, but she wants to stay at home.
My grandmother's Alzheimers is getting worse. Mom Sis and Gma went on their "family trip" (we weren't invited) to their Florida timeshare that mom bought instead of paying Gma's taxes. When they got back home, Gma didn't recognize her cottage - she still thought she lived in her home of 50+ years that uncle "stole" from her.
She demanded to see the lease, then argued with mom about how the bills were getting paid. Mom explained that she was paying them out of Gma's bank account for her. Gma replied that Mom was stealing her money and that she didn't trust her anymore.
Here's the part that has me pissed off. Aunt mentioned to Mom when Mom was going to give up and pay to put Gma in a nursing home. Aunt and Uncle are perfectly content letting Mom do all the work taking care of Gma and are hoping that Mom will pay for it, so they can just show up at the funeral and take their half of Gma's money and split. As far as Mom's concerned they've already gotten their half and then some. She says they should offer to pay at least half - but she knows they won't.
I know my Mom and I know she will keep on taking care of Gma until she just can't take it anymore and then Mom will pay for the nursing home/hospice care. Uncle and Aunt will laugh all the way to the bank.
Mom-in-law's cancer is back and it's now in her liver as well as her lungs. We live the farthest away (1000+ miles) yet somehow we are the ones who visit and call the most.
Sis-in-law decided to take Mom to her Dr's appointment on Saturday. Sunday morning we got a phone call from a very drunk SIL about how "Mom is dying and we don't care, and we need to call her and she's your mom dammit!" Luckily hubs didn't take the bait and argue with her. We call 2-3 times a week, every week. We visit whenever we can get time off/save up money, and we always visit and take care of her for at least 2 weeks! We're not the ones SIL should be mad at!
But still hubs is feeling bummed out - understandably. I've told him if we need to head out there we can go - kids are home-schooled now so it's not like we can't take it with us.
MIL is getting a feeding tube put in on Thursday. She already has a live in nurse with her. Her Dr wants her to move to hospice care, but she wants to stay at home.
My grandmother's Alzheimers is getting worse. Mom Sis and Gma went on their "family trip" (we weren't invited) to their Florida timeshare that mom bought instead of paying Gma's taxes. When they got back home, Gma didn't recognize her cottage - she still thought she lived in her home of 50+ years that uncle "stole" from her.
She demanded to see the lease, then argued with mom about how the bills were getting paid. Mom explained that she was paying them out of Gma's bank account for her. Gma replied that Mom was stealing her money and that she didn't trust her anymore.
Here's the part that has me pissed off. Aunt mentioned to Mom when Mom was going to give up and pay to put Gma in a nursing home. Aunt and Uncle are perfectly content letting Mom do all the work taking care of Gma and are hoping that Mom will pay for it, so they can just show up at the funeral and take their half of Gma's money and split. As far as Mom's concerned they've already gotten their half and then some. She says they should offer to pay at least half - but she knows they won't.
I know my Mom and I know she will keep on taking care of Gma until she just can't take it anymore and then Mom will pay for the nursing home/hospice care. Uncle and Aunt will laugh all the way to the bank.
all to help.
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