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  • I don't like being the bad guy, but didn't really have a choice

    The company I'm contracted with has a very, VERY strict anti-harassment and misconduct policy, and it is reviewed yearly. I know close groups of employees will (usually) harmlessly shoot the breeze while working, or at least save the questionable stuff for when they're alone. But this past week I had to report 2-people. Even being contracted, we're bound by their rules. The first incident, I wasn't personally insulted, but seeing that half the workplace population is of Hispanic origin, they're probably lucky that I'm the one that heard it! In the second instance, there was no call for what was said in clear earshot of an entire shift on lunch break.

    First, a couple of the cleaning guys were dragging a huge plastic bin. It was making a gods awful, ear-splitting, squeal. I was walking by and commented "Geeze, sounds like a tortured donkey!" One of the guys cracked "Yeah, we're having one of those Mexican sex parties back here!" I was sort of shocked and said that wasn't right to say and moved on. I let my boss and his know, but told them I just wanted him to remember that other people could have heard him and been really upset.

    Second, in the kitchen of the cafeteria, it was mostly clear except for woman A, woman B, myself and a man who walked in at the tail-end. The women were talking about football and in a loud carrying voice woman A said "Oh I HATE the Giants, they're all Homo!" I was really shocked; that's not something you expect to hear here. I told my boss ASAP because I didn't know the name of the woman and to make sure that this was not some football term that I wasn't familiar with. He assured me it wasn't and we went to HR.

    I'm afraid that people will think I, or Security, is out to get them, when in reality had these things been overheard by another employee, these people would be getting fired instead of just written up. I know things slip, or come out not sounding the way you intended them to, but in the 2nd case I think what she meant was pretty clear. And if I didn't report the conversations, and someone else did, I could have been accused of being involved in them. I feel like I caused the first incident; I should have made another analogy, but it REALLY did sound like a donkey.
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  • #2
    I'm not sure I see a connection between "tortured donkey" and "Mexican sex party" that isn't seriously disgusting, so if your mind operates anywhere in the "sane" range, I doubt you could have anticipated that conversational leap.
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    • #3
      Even if their minds did leap there, it didn't have to come out their mouths. We all have errant thoughts; it's how we respond to them that counts.
      "Is it hot in here to you? It's very warm, isn't it?"--Nero, probably

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      • #4
        Quoth LillFilly View Post
        I was walking by and commented "Geeze, sounds like a tortured donkey!" One of the guys cracked "Yeah, we're having one of those Mexican sex parties back here!" I was sort of shocked and said that wasn't right to say and moved on. I let my boss and his know, but told them I just wanted him to remember that other people could have heard him and been really upset.
        Quoth Seanette View Post
        I'm not sure I see a connection between "tortured donkey" and "Mexican sex party" that isn't seriously disgusting, so if your mind operates anywhere in the "sane" range, I doubt you could have anticipated that conversational leap.
        I've heard that there's a stereotype of live shows in Tiajuana that involve a donkey, so that could be the connection between donkeys, sex, and Mexico. As an aside, this incident also demonstrates the decline in society's standard of literacy - people using the term "sex party" because they (or, in the case of porn video titles, the potential customers) don't understand what "orgy" means.
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        • #5
          Quoth Food Lady View Post
          Even if their minds did leap there, it didn't have to come out their mouths. We all have errant thoughts; it's how we respond to them that counts.
          This, this, this. As someone who constantly suffers from foot-in-mouth, even I know this ^_^
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          • #6
            Quoth Seanette View Post
            I'm not sure I see a connection between "tortured donkey" and "Mexican sex party" that isn't seriously disgusting, so if your mind operates anywhere in the "sane" range, I doubt you could have anticipated that conversational leap.
            NSFW I suppose:

            http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donkey_show

            Depending on what movies you've seen (looking at you, Clerks II), it can be fairly well-known term.


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            Last edited by Lachrymose; 01-14-2015, 06:10 PM.

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            • #7
              HR told me they gave a write-up to the woman who made the 'homo' comment and that she said she was sorry, she didn't mean to be offensive, but her reasoning is she hates the giants and that's what she called whatever player it is, Tony Romo, that she hates the most, because it rhymes with his name; but that she didn't mean anything against people like that....

              I don't know, seems like you do mean something if you refer to a guy you hate by that word...
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              • #8
                Quoth LillFilly View Post
                HR told me they gave a write-up to the woman who made the 'homo' comment and that she said she was sorry, she didn't mean to be offensive, but her reasoning is she hates the giants and that's what she called whatever player it is, Tony Romo, that she hates the most, because it rhymes with his name; but that she didn't mean anything against people like that....

                I don't know, seems like you do mean something if you refer to a guy you hate by that word...
                Yeah, that's a pretty stupid excuse. It just means she thinks of that term as an insult - not a very nice attitude in and of itself. But you'd think she would have enough brains not to make comments like that at work.
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                • #9
                  Quoth Lachrymose View Post
                  NSFW I suppose:

                  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donkey_show

                  Depending on what movies you've seen (looking at you, Clerks II), it can be fairly well-known term.


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                  Or what music you listen to.

                  NSFW LIKE SERIOUSLY
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                  • #10
                    Ugh, that happened at work but it was customers. I was off the clock and leaving and they were in front of me in line. Just such a hateful word. And Tony Romo plays for the Cowboys

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