Online dating sites

TTAZ · #1 06-13-2008, 04:44 AM

A question for you all- what is your opinion on online dating sites/personals? Any success stories? Any horror-filled tales? Any advice?

Jester · #2 06-13-2008, 04:53 AM

Lately I've been giving said sites a try. And my personal opinion is that so far as I can see, they are pretty much garbage. Too many of the "people" I find on there, or who find me, are nothing more than fronts for pay or adult sites, rather than actual people who want to meet and possibly date.

Now, I admit that part of my problem may be the fact that I live down here at Land's End, away by a good degree from any major metropolitan area. But it still seems, at least to me, that these sites, or at least the ones I have been trying, are just a load of hooey.

marasbaras · #3 06-13-2008, 06:57 AM

My experience with the dating sites is that the women there are typically spoiled and bratty. They get TONS of attention and it goes to their head.

Gravekeeper · #4 06-13-2008, 12:08 PM

Depends on the site. There's a couple of big main stream ones that you may have a chance on. But then there's 9832472572 smaller ones full of psychos and spam. -.-

That said my ex was off one such site and we worked out for 8 or 9 months.

protege · #5 06-13-2008, 01:24 PM

They're a crock of shit, IMHO. I dumped my memberships after not hearing from anyone in several months--I get enough of that in real life. Usually, it went something like this--someone would click on my profile, we'd chat a bit, and then I'd never hear from them again. No emails, nothing. The last one went a bit further--we talked via phone for a bit once...and then nothing. Maybe the message I left her about the traffic jam (she'd mentioned how she drove to work) was a bit too much. I mean, heaven forbid I do something nice... Needless to say, she quit talking to me after that

Nashida · #6 06-13-2008, 04:21 PM

I think they're nothing but a hot cup of BS. I tried once to get into one of the big ones, where I could view my matches for free, but I couldn't look at anything unless I made a name for myself. I spent 11 MINUTES just trying to come up with a name for myself that somebody else didn't already have.

IMHO, nothing beats meeting someone face-to-face by chance. If you're really lucky, a small chat at a cafe turns into a full-blown, 3-hour long conversation, with visits afterwards.

blas · #7 06-13-2008, 04:41 PM

I won't do the online dating thing again. Never actually paid for anything, never went really beyond the piddly sites, although I made lots of friends off of Myspace. Yes, I was a naughty girl and met people off myspace, but some of them are friends for life now. But the one guy I met for a date had a fake picture and he was just ugly and disgusting and he tricked me and I learned a lesson.

~~ditchdj~~ · #8 06-13-2008, 05:16 PM

Yeah but why then would you meet someone in a bar? To me it's no different. And many people know what kind of trouble you can find in a bar. But my brother met his wife of 20 years there and they're doing just fine together. I ended up meeting my wife in a Yahoo! chat room and I wasn't even looking for someone to meet. I was just trolling the chat room with nothing to do. We've been together for eight years now. I did try one of those Yahoo! dating ads and met some woman that I went over to her house and slept with right after my divorce but that was pretty much it. Talked to some other girl for about a year but she wouldn't agree to meet me in person.

Jester · #9 06-13-2008, 05:45 PM

I have met both great and horrible women in the bars, and online. Every medium has its ups and downs.

TTAZ · #10 06-13-2008, 07:33 PM

Okay, so which ones seem decent to try, and which ones should be avoided at all costs?

P.S.- getting so much attention from guys that it goes to my head? Throw in a white russian, and the latest Doctor Who, and I'm set!