I really dislike Dr R at the moment, and I'm also starting to suspect she's kind of a crap doctor. My mother saw her very early on this year regarding the issues that lead to the discovery of a massive fibroid, that in turn lead to her having very unpleasant hormonal therapy in preparation for a hysterectomy (that in turn lead to complications...not Dr R's fault, but was the fault of the hospital). Mum is still experiencing the pain that lead to her going to see Dr R in the first place (I'll come back to that) and we're now getting concerned.
I also had my own experience with Dr R a few years ago...
My Experience- Poor examination, and rude comments
Not to be gross, but this does contain a snippet about my sex life (is relevant) so do feel free to skip if you wish.
I have a clicky hip. My left. It has improved over time, I think mostly down to bellydance, but in karate I always had difficulty executing sideways kicks to the left, and certain positions would cause it pain. Now, I only see my fiance once a year or so, and when i'm with him, pretty much everytime we sleep together, I have a hip problem. Particularly if I'm on top...the pain in my left hip makes it feel like the joint is about to pop right out. Its very painful and a real mood killer, I can tell you I was too embarrassed back then to ask my mum about it, so I decided to see a doctor about it. I usually see Dr M, but I have a nightmare time getting to see any doctor at this surgery (I've bitched about it before) and Dr R is also female, I figured I could see Dr R. It was the first time I had met her.
I explained the problem, and she asked me to take off my trousers and get up on the bed. She first examined my right hip, which was fine. Problem was, I couldn't physically spread my left leg because there was a bloody WALL right there. So Dr R just said "Oh never mind, put your trousers back on." Basically, I got partially undressed and then she couldn't be fucked to examine my hip properly anyway.
I said it was an issue I really wanted to sort out because it was making sex very painful, especially in that particular position. She just said very bluntly "Is your boyfriend fat?" I blinked, stammered and said "Well, he's not a small guy"* and she just quipped "He needs to lose weight then."
That was it.
My Mum's Experience
My mum never really felt "Bob" the fibroid prior to diagnosis...she said he never actually hurt her until treatment began, and she was aware of a...thing there...but it didn't hurt, and because she had had UTIs and the like in the past, she had always assumed it was related to that- especially as nurses and doctors had previously confirmed this also. What mum went to see Dr R about back in February was a very nasty pain more down in her groin area, so painful that she had found it difficult to walk. I remember finding her hobbling about with a contorted expression in Tesco shortly before her appointment, and the day of her appointment, she was in such pain that I had to go and get her to bring her home. Now, we're 12 weeks aftert he surgery now, mum should be pretty much healed. But she's been having to take time off work, her belly is still very swollen and sore...and the pain in her groin is STILL there.
Last week she went back to Dr R, who examined her again, and said there were no lumps or bumps and everything is fine. But mum is still hurting. The night before last, she and my dad went to see a comedian for my dad's birthday, and being sat in the same chair and laughing so much left her in so much pain she couldn't go to work the next day (which explains why she didn't argue when I said I'd clean the bathroom ). She's back at work today, but she's still uncomfortable, and told me last night that when she saw Dr R last, Dr R was going through all the notes on the computer and saying "Oh yes, I saw you earlier this year didn't I? Why didn't I examine that then?" She then paused and said "Oh because you had just had your cervical smear [PAP test] and I thoguht you'd been through enough."
Dear god, it better turn out that this pain is nothing (I suggested maybe it was a nerve, maybe Bob was sitting on a nerve, and its just nerve damage or something)...I will have Dr R's guts for garters if it turns out something else is wrong with mum. A 15cm fibroid is huge, but it also wasn't hurting mum until treatment for it began. She's been through so much this year. She really wants to have another scan, but also have it look at her groin, not just her abdomen.
I always felt (and mum agrees) that Dr R is just not very pleasant, lacking in bedside manner and unable to express a caring attitude (she tries, but it always fails), but now I'm wondering if in addition to that, she's also a shit doctor -_-
I also had my own experience with Dr R a few years ago...
My Experience- Poor examination, and rude comments
Not to be gross, but this does contain a snippet about my sex life (is relevant) so do feel free to skip if you wish.
I have a clicky hip. My left. It has improved over time, I think mostly down to bellydance, but in karate I always had difficulty executing sideways kicks to the left, and certain positions would cause it pain. Now, I only see my fiance once a year or so, and when i'm with him, pretty much everytime we sleep together, I have a hip problem. Particularly if I'm on top...the pain in my left hip makes it feel like the joint is about to pop right out. Its very painful and a real mood killer, I can tell you I was too embarrassed back then to ask my mum about it, so I decided to see a doctor about it. I usually see Dr M, but I have a nightmare time getting to see any doctor at this surgery (I've bitched about it before) and Dr R is also female, I figured I could see Dr R. It was the first time I had met her.
I explained the problem, and she asked me to take off my trousers and get up on the bed. She first examined my right hip, which was fine. Problem was, I couldn't physically spread my left leg because there was a bloody WALL right there. So Dr R just said "Oh never mind, put your trousers back on." Basically, I got partially undressed and then she couldn't be fucked to examine my hip properly anyway.
I said it was an issue I really wanted to sort out because it was making sex very painful, especially in that particular position. She just said very bluntly "Is your boyfriend fat?" I blinked, stammered and said "Well, he's not a small guy"* and she just quipped "He needs to lose weight then."
That was it.
My Mum's Experience
My mum never really felt "Bob" the fibroid prior to diagnosis...she said he never actually hurt her until treatment began, and she was aware of a...thing there...but it didn't hurt, and because she had had UTIs and the like in the past, she had always assumed it was related to that- especially as nurses and doctors had previously confirmed this also. What mum went to see Dr R about back in February was a very nasty pain more down in her groin area, so painful that she had found it difficult to walk. I remember finding her hobbling about with a contorted expression in Tesco shortly before her appointment, and the day of her appointment, she was in such pain that I had to go and get her to bring her home. Now, we're 12 weeks aftert he surgery now, mum should be pretty much healed. But she's been having to take time off work, her belly is still very swollen and sore...and the pain in her groin is STILL there.
Last week she went back to Dr R, who examined her again, and said there were no lumps or bumps and everything is fine. But mum is still hurting. The night before last, she and my dad went to see a comedian for my dad's birthday, and being sat in the same chair and laughing so much left her in so much pain she couldn't go to work the next day (which explains why she didn't argue when I said I'd clean the bathroom ). She's back at work today, but she's still uncomfortable, and told me last night that when she saw Dr R last, Dr R was going through all the notes on the computer and saying "Oh yes, I saw you earlier this year didn't I? Why didn't I examine that then?" She then paused and said "Oh because you had just had your cervical smear [PAP test] and I thoguht you'd been through enough."
Dear god, it better turn out that this pain is nothing (I suggested maybe it was a nerve, maybe Bob was sitting on a nerve, and its just nerve damage or something)...I will have Dr R's guts for garters if it turns out something else is wrong with mum. A 15cm fibroid is huge, but it also wasn't hurting mum until treatment for it began. She's been through so much this year. She really wants to have another scan, but also have it look at her groin, not just her abdomen.
I always felt (and mum agrees) that Dr R is just not very pleasant, lacking in bedside manner and unable to express a caring attitude (she tries, but it always fails), but now I'm wondering if in addition to that, she's also a shit doctor -_-
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