Ok, my mom is crazy. She's one of those types that got a divorce from being a housewife and never quite figured out how to take care of herself. She's only 54, but acts 80. She refuses to acquire the most basic level of technology awareness. She refuses to learn. So she keeps herself in a constant state of willful ignorance.
So, she's also been on some form of housing for the past near decade. Why? Chronic back issues coupled with "seasonal affective disorder." she uses the latter to get me to feel sorry for her/excuse irrational behavior. She's gotten very good at manipulation ove the years. Which I stopped really responding to shortly after I had my daughter.
Heres the thing... My sister lives with her. I made a poor marriage decision, so when my sister was 17 she moved with with my mom. I stayed with my dad.
About six years ago my now ex, daughter, and I moved to Texas. Fun stuff. Shortly there after my mom moved with my sister up to Spokane. In theory so my mom could be close to her aging parents, I think because she was afraid my sister would leave her if she stayed in San Diego.
My sister is now 25. She has had two jobs since high school. One, a two week long stint at some department store, where she was fired. Having worked in department store for about a decade I gotta ask, Ive seen some really bad ongoing incompetence, but the only things that I've seen people get fired for have been theft and attendance. how bad was she? People with severe mental handicaps work retail.
The last one was early this year.
My dad had a touch of cancer and had to have an emergency colon resection. Because I had work, school, kids, etc, he went up to DFW to stay with his sister after he got out of the hospital. My sister came down to help him out. My dad wanted her to stay permenitly. While she was staying there (rent free) my aunt made her get a DL and a job. She also made her help out around the house, etc.
My mom makes huge deal about it because my aunt is wealthy and should have just given my sister whatever. Wtf?
So to continue. I really don't know how hard my sister was looking for work because my aunt (supposedly) called in a favor and got her a job as hostess. And I just found this out, supposedly it was under the table.
Well, about a month or two passes and my mom guilts my sister into going back to Spokane.
Fast forward to now when We get into another argument about my sister. My mom starts going on about how my sister cant even put the hostess thing on her resume, because it was under the table. I tell her it still count as experience. Then she starts going on about how if you use the internet your identity gets stolen. I tell her to stop living in the past and stop making my sister live in the past. Her beliefs in this matter are ridiculous. My mom is fully encouraging my sister with almost no work experience being super picky about the jobs she applies to. I tell her that's not going to get her a job. And round and round we go. I get accused of being insulting and disrespectful. My mom starts crying. I hang up.
I'm starting to get seriously worried that if my sister stays with her much longer then she wind up in the exact same spot my mom is. I'd like to be able to do something to prevent it, but I I've got no idea what to do about it.
So, she's also been on some form of housing for the past near decade. Why? Chronic back issues coupled with "seasonal affective disorder." she uses the latter to get me to feel sorry for her/excuse irrational behavior. She's gotten very good at manipulation ove the years. Which I stopped really responding to shortly after I had my daughter.
Heres the thing... My sister lives with her. I made a poor marriage decision, so when my sister was 17 she moved with with my mom. I stayed with my dad.
About six years ago my now ex, daughter, and I moved to Texas. Fun stuff. Shortly there after my mom moved with my sister up to Spokane. In theory so my mom could be close to her aging parents, I think because she was afraid my sister would leave her if she stayed in San Diego.
My sister is now 25. She has had two jobs since high school. One, a two week long stint at some department store, where she was fired. Having worked in department store for about a decade I gotta ask, Ive seen some really bad ongoing incompetence, but the only things that I've seen people get fired for have been theft and attendance. how bad was she? People with severe mental handicaps work retail.
The last one was early this year.
My dad had a touch of cancer and had to have an emergency colon resection. Because I had work, school, kids, etc, he went up to DFW to stay with his sister after he got out of the hospital. My sister came down to help him out. My dad wanted her to stay permenitly. While she was staying there (rent free) my aunt made her get a DL and a job. She also made her help out around the house, etc.
My mom makes huge deal about it because my aunt is wealthy and should have just given my sister whatever. Wtf?
So to continue. I really don't know how hard my sister was looking for work because my aunt (supposedly) called in a favor and got her a job as hostess. And I just found this out, supposedly it was under the table.
Well, about a month or two passes and my mom guilts my sister into going back to Spokane.
Fast forward to now when We get into another argument about my sister. My mom starts going on about how my sister cant even put the hostess thing on her resume, because it was under the table. I tell her it still count as experience. Then she starts going on about how if you use the internet your identity gets stolen. I tell her to stop living in the past and stop making my sister live in the past. Her beliefs in this matter are ridiculous. My mom is fully encouraging my sister with almost no work experience being super picky about the jobs she applies to. I tell her that's not going to get her a job. And round and round we go. I get accused of being insulting and disrespectful. My mom starts crying. I hang up.
I'm starting to get seriously worried that if my sister stays with her much longer then she wind up in the exact same spot my mom is. I'd like to be able to do something to prevent it, but I I've got no idea what to do about it.
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