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I hope you can all bear with me on this.
I have a friend I've known for about 15 years now. In the time I've known him, he's done a lot for me. I mean, a lot. He's listened to my problems, he's helped me professionally, etc.
In January, he called to see how I was. I was feeling very low, so I spilled my guts to him - money worries, low self-esteem, and a lot more. He volunteered to lend me some money.
Let me emphasize that I didn't ask him to lend me money. He offered.
So he lent me the money, and I was able to make some VERY necessary payments.
Then he found out that I had some money saved up in an account. Oh, did he blow up. I could understand if it had been a huge amount, but it wasn't. I started the account when I still had a steady job, and it was with the aim of eventually buying property. A small sum went into the account every month.
He didn't know how much was in the account, but he jumped to the conclusion that I had an enormous sum in it, more than enough to live on. I told him just exactly how much was in it, adding that, because of unexpected expenses, I was going to have to use it. I didn't tell him this, but it only makes sense to me to have an emergency stash somewhere, because you never know what will happen.
Evidently, it was just unforgivable of me to borrow money when I still had some in the bank. The sum I borrowed was one month's rent. And this person offered just that sum. I still needed to be able to buy food for myself and my cat; to ride public transportation; to meet other expenses.
He accused me of fraud. I guess you're only supposed to borrow money when you're flat broke.
This guy has some serious issues. He's been seeing a therapist for some years now, and he's been prescribed at least three different types of medication. My guess is that he's off the meds now. I've dealt with this before - when he's off his medication, he becomes paranoid and throws out wild accusations. I don't know what his mental illness is, but whatever it is, he's still well able to hold down a steady job and make a truly huge amount of money. He lives quite well, and he travels frequently.
When he's not taking his medication (and I don't know why he decides to do it; maybe he thinks he's "cured" and doesn't need it), he's simply impossible. Over the last year, we've made many plans to meet, and he has canceled every single damn time. I saw him once last year; that's it (and not for a social reason).
Now, I just discovered that he's removed me from his list of Facebook friends. I think that really says it all. I have every intention of repaying him, and once I've done so, I don't plan to have any further contact. I'm just worn out. I can't handle the drama of him when he's unmedicated. By now, I'm not even sure who he is. Is he the person on medication, or off medication?
It's hard. It's really hard. And I can't do it anymore.
I have a friend I've known for about 15 years now. In the time I've known him, he's done a lot for me. I mean, a lot. He's listened to my problems, he's helped me professionally, etc.
In January, he called to see how I was. I was feeling very low, so I spilled my guts to him - money worries, low self-esteem, and a lot more. He volunteered to lend me some money.
Let me emphasize that I didn't ask him to lend me money. He offered.
So he lent me the money, and I was able to make some VERY necessary payments.
Then he found out that I had some money saved up in an account. Oh, did he blow up. I could understand if it had been a huge amount, but it wasn't. I started the account when I still had a steady job, and it was with the aim of eventually buying property. A small sum went into the account every month.
He didn't know how much was in the account, but he jumped to the conclusion that I had an enormous sum in it, more than enough to live on. I told him just exactly how much was in it, adding that, because of unexpected expenses, I was going to have to use it. I didn't tell him this, but it only makes sense to me to have an emergency stash somewhere, because you never know what will happen.
Evidently, it was just unforgivable of me to borrow money when I still had some in the bank. The sum I borrowed was one month's rent. And this person offered just that sum. I still needed to be able to buy food for myself and my cat; to ride public transportation; to meet other expenses.
He accused me of fraud. I guess you're only supposed to borrow money when you're flat broke.
This guy has some serious issues. He's been seeing a therapist for some years now, and he's been prescribed at least three different types of medication. My guess is that he's off the meds now. I've dealt with this before - when he's off his medication, he becomes paranoid and throws out wild accusations. I don't know what his mental illness is, but whatever it is, he's still well able to hold down a steady job and make a truly huge amount of money. He lives quite well, and he travels frequently.
When he's not taking his medication (and I don't know why he decides to do it; maybe he thinks he's "cured" and doesn't need it), he's simply impossible. Over the last year, we've made many plans to meet, and he has canceled every single damn time. I saw him once last year; that's it (and not for a social reason).
Now, I just discovered that he's removed me from his list of Facebook friends. I think that really says it all. I have every intention of repaying him, and once I've done so, I don't plan to have any further contact. I'm just worn out. I can't handle the drama of him when he's unmedicated. By now, I'm not even sure who he is. Is he the person on medication, or off medication?
It's hard. It's really hard. And I can't do it anymore.
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