Negatives into Postives.

[Plaidman]

Gah. I really had to think on that one of homework. In anycase, I had to have a list of /bad/ things that could have had positive results to it, and to belive it. Here's my small list.

Place of Employment: Did not destroy my soul/body and belief in people. It made me realize my morality, and got me to be hardworking and responsible.

Ex: While still painful, did prove that someone outside of family could love me. Just gotta hope it wasn't the only one

High School: Being expelled propelled me to get me my GED, and hustled me to get a job, that made me more responsible in the first place.

School Peers: Their exclusion of me was on my shoulders. I only allowed past experences to taint me, and delude myself into thinking they hated me without even really trying.

Ex Manager: While still confused as to why she got rid of me, I'm now got to work twice as hard then ever before, and its slowly becoming easier. She made me the hard worker I was in the first place, and her trust in me was incredible. She's also very supportive of this school thing.


In anycase, what about you? Do any of you have a huge /bad/ thing that only made you better and stronger?

[trailerparkmedic]

My divorce. It was very painful leaving him, but I lived on my own for the first time, learned how generous my friends were, and learned from the whole marriage how to stand up for myself and my needs.

[Seshat]

My disability.

It taught me patience, and has forced me to learn who *I* am, instead of becoming who I thought I was "supposed" to be.

[Jester]

I am one of those people that firmly believes in the whole "that which does not kill you makes you stronger" thing. I believe it, and I live it. There are many examples, but perhaps the most recent strong one would be me ex-fiance, The Brit, dumping me. It was pretty much the worst day of my adult life. And while it dragged me down to a low I have only seen a few times, after the fact, it prepared me for literally anything. The experience of being with her combined with what I went through when she broke up with me made me a far stronger man than I had ever been, and prepared me mentally and emotionally to handle a lot of negative shit that would follow, including but not limited to The Worst Girlfriend Ever. Had it not been for The Brit and other negative situations that happened to me earlier in my dating life, I don't know that TWGE wouldn't have made me very, very jaded. As it was, she didn't. And speaking of the negative that was TWGE, I even took positive away from that, in that she opened my eyes to how manipulative and deceptive people can be, and made me more cautious without making me bitter.

I hope all that made sense. Mornings are not my strong suit, after all.

[protege]

Let's see now... The main 'negative' thing would have to be my depression. I've had to deal with it most of my life. Yet, for the most part...it hasn't stopped me from doing what I need to. In fact, it's actually made me *stronger* and probably explains the "bring it on" attitude I have towards difficult things. As Yoda would say "Strong with the Force, this one is"

[Teysa]

I'd say losing my home in a flood as a kid was one of the hardest things that happened. True, it was a crappy falling apart mobile home with no electricity but it was still home. The fact that this happened on the heels of my parents' divorce did not help any. For many years afterwards, I panicked everytime it rained hard for more than three days in a row.

However, I'm at the point in my life where I realize that losing the place was more of a blessing than a curse. We ended up in a much better trailer and it wasn't too long after that that my dad finished his degree and moved into a better position at his job. I also know now that if something happened, I could start completely over.