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    Well, my case is still shambling along like a zombie. Actually, that's a good analogy, since this thing is pretty much dead already. I don't think I can get too specific, but I FINALLY got my case file from the DA's office. They have no evidence whatsoever. In fact, part of their file against me includes doctor's notes from our family physician that there were no marks or anything on the kids after the alleged abuse took place.

    What I think I can say about the most of the testimony is that it is wildly contradictory. My ex's, of course, paints me out to be a monster. My kids all start out by basically saying what mommy likes to hear, but when directly asked about it, they say I don't hit them.

    So my attorney is wondering why they're wasting everyone's time with this. My preliminary hearing was set for the first part of this month, then, of course, moved to next month. So we're still waiting to get this over with. I'm really not even worried about it now, just really annoyed at the whole thing.

    On the personal side of things, been making a lot of changes. Came out for real to my mom and dad, it went..... well, better than anticipated. "As long as you don't do it in public." Yeah, we're gonna need a little more work on that issue. But I am nonetheless undeterred and have started Hormone Replacement Therapy, so out with the bad stuff and in with the sugar and spice. I'm getting ready to post an open letter on my "other" Facebook to serve as my official coming out to the world notice. I'm nervous, but I'm doing the right thing. I was kind of afraid the ARNP I consulted about taking hormones would tell me I was dealing with WAY too much right now, but this will be beneficial both in the calming/happiness effects caused by the hormones, and one of them also reduces blood pressure, which is still high. So I'm helping myself in more ways than one.

    So that's about it. As always, my legal case is stuck in limbo and I'm just waiting for them to decide I've had enough and drop it. In the meantime, I'm just trying to move on with my life in a positive direction. I wish I had more to report, thanks to everyone who's been sending good thoughts and asking what's going on. But that's where everything is so far.
    "You are loved" - Plaidman.

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    Kara, so good to have an update. Been thinking, praying, and rooting for you! It sounds like things are going to all come together.
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    • #3
      I had been wondering if you posted an update and I missed it.

      Glad to hear things sound like they're winding down.

      Best wishes with the coming out . . . that had to have been difficult.
      They say that God only gives us what we can handle. Apparently, God thinks I'm a bad ass.

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      • #4
        *Happy Dance* Yay Kara! It's annoying that they're wasting everyones time with the courtcase. On the upside, when it's all concluded in your favour, it's more paperwork to cover your rear for the future. *Big hugs* I'm glad you've come out a bit more and have started HRT, you're one very brave lady and I wish you all the best!
        Don't tempt pixies, it never ends well.

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        • #5
          I'm happy that the court case is going in your favor, though it's a drag.
          I don't get paid enough to kiss your a**! -Groezig 5/31/08
          Another day...another million braincells lost...-Sarlon 6/16/08
          Chivalry is not dead. It's just direly underappreciated. -Samaliel 9/15/09

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          • #6
            I'm glad the case is going well for you, and I'm even gladder (more glad?) that you're able to start HRT.
            The High Priest is an Illusion!

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            • #7
              Quoth tropicsgoddess View Post
              I'm happy that the court case is going in your favor, though it's a drag.
              ... was that meant to be a pun?


              (Yes, I know there's a difference between transsexual and transvestite.)
              Seshat's self-help guide:
              1. Would you rather be right, or get the result you want?
              2. If you're consistently getting results you don't want, change what you do.
              3. Deal with the situation you have now, however it occurred.
              4. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

              "All I want is a pretty girl, a decent meal, and the right to shoot lightning at fools." - Anders, Dragon Age.

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              • #8
                At least now everyone knows your ex is lying. Gotta love proof.

                Big hugs for you and good luck.

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                • #9
                  Good. Everything is finally beginning to go right.

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                  • #10
                    I am happy for you, Kara.

                    But this thing is not over. And the judicial system in this country is not always just.

                    Which is why I advise caution with your optimism. Be careful.

                    And while I would never advise someone to not be who they really are, I wonder if perhaps you should wait on the hormones until after this case is, once and for all, resolved. Delays have happened, and may happen again. Just something to consider.

                    No matter what happens, good luck.

                    "The Customer Is Always Right...But The Bartender Decides Who Is
                    Still A Customer."

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                    • #11
                      I guess that depends on what state Kara lives in.

                      Deep South, Jester has a good point.

                      California, probably OK.
                      They say that God only gives us what we can handle. Apparently, God thinks I'm a bad ass.

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                      • #12
                        If Kara doesn't mind my chiming in...

                        She lives in the Plains area, in a rather conservative town with a significant military presence. (I'm in a similar area, but I'm with all the crazies and hippies.) Even if she were in my town, though, it *could* be a problem. But it shouldn't be, and I can't imagine that this was a decision that she made lightly.
                        "Even arms dealers need groceries." ~ Ziva David, NCIS

                        Tony: "Everyone's counting on you, just do what you do best."
                        Abby: "Dance?" ~ NCIS

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                        • #13
                          That reminds me, I don't make it to your part of the state very often, but sometime I should.

                          And no, this was something that has been a long time coming.
                          Last edited by Kara; 05-19-2011, 11:32 PM.
                          "You are loved" - Plaidman.

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                          • #14
                            Well, after next week and until mid-August are the best times since it's not overrun with college students.
                            "Even arms dealers need groceries." ~ Ziva David, NCIS

                            Tony: "Everyone's counting on you, just do what you do best."
                            Abby: "Dance?" ~ NCIS

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                            • #15
                              Hmm, I haven't been in a long time, but I think I know how to get there since I had to go a few times for events when I was in Orchestra.
                              "You are loved" - Plaidman.

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