I have always thought my parents were pretty awesome. They get on my nerves sometimes, especially my mom, but all in all they are great parents. Now for the longest time I assumed that my parents were typical, and my grievances were normal as well. But the more feedback I get from friends, the more I am beginning to think that I am SPOILED! So I thought I would just give a list of some of my interactions with my parents to find out if I'm spoiled, a spoiled brat, or typical. I am also including some stuff my parents have done for my brother to offer a comparison.
Some Background: My father is the main breadwinner in the family. My mother hasn't worked since she was hospitalized when I was 9. Despite being unable to work due to health problems, her doctor never gave her what she needed to get disability so my father supported a family of 4 on his own. He made okay money. I won't give you the numbers, but it was at the higher end of 5 figures. His company shut down in September 2011 so he was forced to take retirement. He currently lives on retirement benefits and a parttime security guard job. As of his birthday, today, he will be able to get old age pension. My mother started recieving early goverment pension in March of 2012.
So am I spoiled? Am I a spoiled brat?! Am I a bad daughter?! Are my brother and I equally spoiled and I should just be happy my parents are amazing?!
Does this mean when I have kids I have to pay their rent?!
If you need more information, or context just ask. OH wow, today is actually my dad's birthday! He is officially 65!
Some Background: My father is the main breadwinner in the family. My mother hasn't worked since she was hospitalized when I was 9. Despite being unable to work due to health problems, her doctor never gave her what she needed to get disability so my father supported a family of 4 on his own. He made okay money. I won't give you the numbers, but it was at the higher end of 5 figures. His company shut down in September 2011 so he was forced to take retirement. He currently lives on retirement benefits and a parttime security guard job. As of his birthday, today, he will be able to get old age pension. My mother started recieving early goverment pension in March of 2012.
- Dad bought my brother a car in hopes he would get a job. I protested that I had a job, so I deserved my own car. Dad bought a 2002 kia Rio, that he made me share with my brother. Eventually giving it to my brother when I went to school.
- Dad bought me my own car when I said I needed one for school because the taxis were too expensive to the grocery store and there was no public transit. This was actually econmically the best idea. When I moved back to Halifax parents made me leave the car at home. It is now driven by my brother and father thought they own a van and a truck respectively.
- Dad bought my brother a truck because after having a horrible accident involving a deer in 2009 my brother hasn't had his own vehicle.
- Dad has said he will trade in my car next year for one that has power locks and air conditioning, he will continue to drive it. But I can have it back when I graduate, and use it when I'm home.
- Dad provides me money for rent, bills, and groceries.
- When living at home, mom will wake me up several hours before i need to wake up for work in order to ask what kind of cookies I would like in the lunch she is preparing for me.
- All furniture in my apartment was either bought by my Dad, or came from the house.
- Dad refused to get me a new Macbook because it was the computer or the car. But when my laptop broke he instantly replaced it with a 400 dollar Acer.
- Mom and I once argued about whether I should use the 1000 dolalrs she gave me for tuition, or to pay my rent. This was her life savings, she does not expect me to ever pay it back.
- I asked for a PS3 for three years, but never got it due to how expensive it is. But parents give me name brand clothing for christmas of comparible cost
- Dad has offered to buy my brother land, so that he can start an alpaca and goat farm
- Parents have offered to by new bed for my room at home so that I will come home after having gallbladder surgery so that they can take care of my while I recover
- Parents have never bought me a new bike, and threatened to sell the one I bought for myself if I didn't use it.
- Parents let me live home rent free while taking a year off school. My brother has lived home rent free since he graduate high school in 2004. Only getting a part-time job recently
- Despite asking many times I never got horse riding lessons or a horse.
- Parents insist I lose 60lbs to 80lbs so I will be "happier" but refused to discuss who will replace my wardrobe. (Yes, I am like 75lbs overweight, I know I don't look it in my pictures)
- Never had a pet because my mother is afraid of animals, but my brother currently keeps 3 ferrets in the house
- Last time my dad visited he bought me a new toaster, two weeks worth of groceries, a bunch of cleaning supplies, a mop, and he took me to dinner at Montana's. Plus he gave me 200 dollars to pay my bills, and promises to send me in a few days.
So am I spoiled? Am I a spoiled brat?! Am I a bad daughter?! Are my brother and I equally spoiled and I should just be happy my parents are amazing?!
Does this mean when I have kids I have to pay their rent?!
If you need more information, or context just ask. OH wow, today is actually my dad's birthday! He is officially 65!
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