need cat help please!!!

[violiavampyr]

I once had a cat the tormented the other so much that whenever she walked around the house she would do low to the floor, also she was stunted. Until my sister moved out with her in 05. After that she gained weight and stopped slinking around the floor.


ETA: that same cat also tormented my dog.

[MoonCat]

The others have given some good advice. I can't add much except that I think you're doing everything you can. Cats are VERY territorial. Sometimes all you can do is keep the less-aggressive one away from the others.

There is a product called Feliway that you can buy at pet stores. It's a synthetic hormone that helps cats to calm down. You can spray it here and there in the house, in the places where she spends most of her time (not directly on the cat). It can be pricey but is usually less expensive if you get the plain bottle...there's a kit that comes with a video but that's the more expensive version. Your vet should be able to tell you about this and might even be able to sell it to you.

She defiintely needs a place to call her own where the other cats won't bother her, and her own litter box and food bowls, if possible placed where the other cats can't get at them.

And I agree that if possible, you might try sitting down with the menfolk and explain that what they are doing is cruel to the cat, and it hurts you as well. Be nice but be firm. If they care for you at all they will at least listen and hopefully change this behavior.

[Midnight12]

thank you all for the help. posting the update at the bottom of the first post

Pixilated
I had a talk with FIL and hubs this morning and finished with FIL this evening a while ago as he had to get to work in the morning
they really did mean the best of intentions and were not trying to.
as i said in the first post, they are not cat savy, in fact they often react to her as if she were a dog because they are dog people. they have Chaos, the first and dominant cat because the youngest sis in law couldn't take her when she moved.

SO i told them that i know they meant well and its NOT what they are saying or doing but to Fluffy their actions are saying to her they don't want her. either in this place or that place or at worst we don't want you here. which i know is not true and they know is not true but she doesn't as she is a cat. and for me i treat her like she needs that daily reassurance and give loves very often.
so they are trying now

MoonCat
just like i told Pixilated, i sat down and talked and did convey how i felt. they are trying
if i can find it in my area i will try to get the spray. she doesn't do well with things sprayed on her even if its to help. she thinks its punishment or water

i do have some paste that tastes like fish or tuna that i put on her paws so she can lick it off that helps calm. but again if its a digestive system blockage its pointless right now

[Midnight12]

dis mah kitty
almost five years old and if you can't tell stuck in the middle phase of growing from a kitten to adult size. the teen size i suppose. and thats as big as she will ever get and due to this she is about sensitive to alot of things. outside especially even though she wants to go out alot

[retailworker7]

Midnight,

You might want to check out the a forum I am a member of called the catsite. You can do a yahoo search for catsite forums. You have to register but it is free and you can post and ask questions immediately after you register. Perhaps someone on that site could give you some advice. There are some products I have read about on that site that might help your kitty. You may want to try Feliway which I belive is a plug in difuser or a spray. Another product I have seen mentioned is Rescue Rememdy which I think is put in the cat's water. The people on this forum are very helpful and there are a lot of people that have multi-cat households. They may also be able to give you tips on other things that you can do at home to help your cat get that hairball out of her system. This forum also has a search function so you may be able to use that to find some answers.

I have a multi-cat household but I have not personally had experience with the level of dominance issues you are dealing with. I would post a link to the forum here but I am not sure if the moderators would approve.

Good luck to you and your babies in trying to get these issues resolved.