I've been going steady with Al for two years (as of 2 days ago) and have been fairly happy. Moved in with him when verbal abuse in my family's home went up to physical via my 60+ grandmother.
Everything was fine for a while. I had to quit my job, then I got work with a temp agency, etc etc.
This would all be tolerable if not for Al's sister.
Let's call her Sarah. (Watch any Youtube clip involving her and Ed Edd n Eddy. It's uncanny!)
She does a lot of shitty things, including:
- All but makes her mom split her monthly Perc prescription, and even steals more from her
- Leaves her daughter with her mom all the time, doesn't tend to the baby much except when her biyearly manfriend is around
- Gets ticked off about little nothings -- cans on the counter, and yells and screams for 1/2 hour+
- Yells and screams some more when you try to defend yourself
- Cries every so often about how hard she's had it (granted bad things HAVE happened, but....ugh!)
This would not normally be a BIG issue, except...
No one says a fucking thing to her. Oh, sure, Al will shout back, but Sarah will scream and push him to a point where HE shouts back, and then SHE doe things like try to cover his mouth. Even slapped him once! ("he looked like he needed it") (And he is a durn big boy, 200+ lbs)
And then after this happens, everyone else apologizes. She starts to apologize. Everything is forgotten.
No one ever stands up to her.
Her mother won't, because she lost two daughters (death of some sort) and has another that won't speak to her. Al won't, because, well--frankly, it IS his mother's place to do it. She is the only one Sarah'd listen to, and even then is frequently picking fights with her over perceived slights.
Am I unreasonable to want out of this? I don't like having to guess whether Sarah or Sybil is going to come out. I shy away from being near her at all.
Yet, I have no money because I have no job. The only job the staff agency HAS right now, is from Bottle Fillers and they won't take me without a doctor's note. (Long story)
Getting another job is also really not feasible because Sarah had a nasty habit (when I worked for Malmart) of waiting until 20 minutes before I had to clock in and saying she was sick or felt tired, and could I call a cab? I have no doubt she'll do this shit if I get another job.
College? The only one I can get into at the moment wants my parents' birth certificates before I can get financial aid. Next year I'll be 24. Waiting hopefully there.
I have somewhat of a talent for writing/proofreading, so if you can give me any advice as to where online I could get work on that, that would be great. I'm already working at little survey/rewards websites and such for entertainment stuff (since you can't move the money away from them, is why I use it that way) .
I'm also trying to work on my novels...but I've been so depressed lately I can barely cruise these and other forums. How do you make yourself get up and go?
On top of all this I actually become dizzy and nauseated when she's on one of her screaming spells...and not even eating something, which works for other "i feel like shit" moments, works well. I have to sit down. Relax. Hard to do with her.
.......okay, rant over. And advice asked for.
I feel a little bit better already.