As you may or may not know, in October of last year my mother kicked my father-by-law out of the house and filed for divorce. He has kicked us around and treated us like dirt for 15 years. He is manipulative, mean, rude, and lazy. As if that isn't enough, he cheated on my mom several times and molested both my sister and myself. He also threatened to kill my mom multiple times. Since moving out of the house, he has been acting crazy and irrational.
One day, he came into the house to leave a card on my mom's pillow. Another day, he was driving up and down our street at 6am. Later that same day, he showed up at my mom's work and demaded that HE will drive her home. He has been calling both the house and mom's cell phone over 20 times a day and he texts her constantly even though she ignores them and told him several times not to call or text her. One day, he took her phone out of her pocket and started going through her messages until she snatched it back. On multiple occasions, he came into the house to get one item he decided he needed and lingered for half an hour or more. My mother had to physically remove him from the house a few times. On a near daily basis, he calls my mom demanding to know what she is doing and who she is doing it with. He decides things based on no facts whatsoever and uses them to yell at my mom.
Example:
Sociopath: Good morning how was your day yesterday with the girls? (Sat 8:00am)
Mom: (doesn't answer because she told him not to text her)
Sociopath: HOW DARE YOU!!! You're sleeping with someone else already?!! Did I even mean anything to you?! I love you so much and I always will forever and ever! (8:03am)
Mom: (ignores but is confused about how he came to this conclusion)
Sociopath: I'm sorry honey I'm just so hurt and I miss you so much (8:06am)
It's pretty much this every other day. The three of us are scared of him, so my mom told him he isn't allowed to come into the house anymore. The first day, I told him he can't come in and he pushed past me and came in anyway. The next time, mom met him on the porch and physically blocked him from coming in. He lost it. He went on a long winded rambling saying he didn't have to move out in the first place, his name is on the loan too, it's his house and he can move back in whenever he wants to. The final divorce hearing is on May 5th, but until then, he is legally allowed to move back in. I'm terrified. If he comes back, we can't move out or we will be giving up the house to him after the divorce.
By now, you're probably thinking, "but Kisa, if you're so scared, why not get a restraining order? Surely that will stop him". Well, I did. In fact, all three of us did. And all three were denied. We can choose to fight the denials and take the case before a judge, but we have to serve the Sociopath with the papers a week before the hearing. For that week, we will be unprotected.
Is there anything at all that we can do to keep him out for the next three months? I live in Michigan if that helps anything...
One day, he came into the house to leave a card on my mom's pillow. Another day, he was driving up and down our street at 6am. Later that same day, he showed up at my mom's work and demaded that HE will drive her home. He has been calling both the house and mom's cell phone over 20 times a day and he texts her constantly even though she ignores them and told him several times not to call or text her. One day, he took her phone out of her pocket and started going through her messages until she snatched it back. On multiple occasions, he came into the house to get one item he decided he needed and lingered for half an hour or more. My mother had to physically remove him from the house a few times. On a near daily basis, he calls my mom demanding to know what she is doing and who she is doing it with. He decides things based on no facts whatsoever and uses them to yell at my mom.
Example:
Sociopath: Good morning how was your day yesterday with the girls? (Sat 8:00am)
Mom: (doesn't answer because she told him not to text her)
Sociopath: HOW DARE YOU!!! You're sleeping with someone else already?!! Did I even mean anything to you?! I love you so much and I always will forever and ever! (8:03am)
Mom: (ignores but is confused about how he came to this conclusion)
Sociopath: I'm sorry honey I'm just so hurt and I miss you so much (8:06am)
It's pretty much this every other day. The three of us are scared of him, so my mom told him he isn't allowed to come into the house anymore. The first day, I told him he can't come in and he pushed past me and came in anyway. The next time, mom met him on the porch and physically blocked him from coming in. He lost it. He went on a long winded rambling saying he didn't have to move out in the first place, his name is on the loan too, it's his house and he can move back in whenever he wants to. The final divorce hearing is on May 5th, but until then, he is legally allowed to move back in. I'm terrified. If he comes back, we can't move out or we will be giving up the house to him after the divorce.
By now, you're probably thinking, "but Kisa, if you're so scared, why not get a restraining order? Surely that will stop him". Well, I did. In fact, all three of us did. And all three were denied. We can choose to fight the denials and take the case before a judge, but we have to serve the Sociopath with the papers a week before the hearing. For that week, we will be unprotected.
Is there anything at all that we can do to keep him out for the next three months? I live in Michigan if that helps anything...
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