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Old 12-24-2019, 05:26 PM
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I wear sweatpants daily for the same reason. Denim feels like fire on my flesh, and cotton sheets? Forget it.
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Old 12-25-2019, 05:36 PM
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I would like advice from anyone who is high-functioning on the autism spectrum, or who has a family member or friend who is.
Two best pieces of advice I can give you:

1. If you've met one autistic person, you've met one autistic person.
2. Read "The Complete Guide To Asperger's Syndrome" by Tony Attwood.

Other than that, maybe make what I call "focus cards". Small cards (smaller than a business card) that have images and one or two words on them that you can use to help redirect (or whatever).

Also, watch the movie "Inside Out". If you've already watched it, do so again. We had some pretty good results with our son after we watched it.
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Old 12-26-2019, 12:08 PM
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One more thing -- keep an eye on his reading material. Being able to parse and understand adult language is one thing, but doing so for adult emotional situations is... not in a young Aspie's wheelhouse.

In particular, there's certain books which qualify as "id fiction", which can seriously screw up a young spectrumite.
The science fiction versions include anything Gor, plus titles like "Time Slaves". Then you get stuff by Delaney and Butler that may not be id fiction as such, but they're certainly dealing with relationships well beyond the normal adult level, let alone a kid's... and a spectrumite likely won't be able to filter out the fantastic concepts or libertine propaganda from the rest of the story.. Alas, much of Heinlein's adult work also qualifies there (his juvies are fine).

There's also distaff books that can be trouble -- aside from bodice-rippers and the like, watch out for books like Fear of Flying.... Not good for early exposure.

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Old 12-26-2019, 09:17 PM
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Gor...oh my goodness. Back in the day people used to cosplay characters from those books! They're awful though.

He can read adult level material but I keep track of what he's reading and right now on his own he chooses middle grade stuff. He still likes to be read to so things that might be challenging we read together (like right now we're reading His Dark Materials and we read Hitchhiker's Guide together...I might have skipped the line where they mention a famous triple-breasted whore, that's just an ugly word he doesn't need to know now).

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Old 12-28-2019, 11:12 PM
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Diane Duane has a wonderful series called the Young Wizards, The first one id "So You Want To Be A Wizard"
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We have my husband's old copy of the first one, bit I don't think Son has read it yet.

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Old 12-29-2019, 10:39 PM
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Terry Pratchett's Tiffany Aching books are quite good, if you're looking; it has some interesting things to say about growing up, and peer pressure, and adults trying to make you into something you're not, and working out who you are and who you want to be. Plus, the Wee Free Men will probably amuse him!
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Seconding both Tiffany Aching (for that matter, almost anything by Pratchett) and Young Wizards!

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Be aware that I Shall Wear Midnight has Tiffany dealing with a father that had just beaten his daughter so badly that she miscarried. Daughter and boyfriend were both 13.

Tiffany is trying to get him sober enough to realise what he had done and leave before the entire town came to seek small town justice aka string him up. (chapter 2)

In chapter 4, the father tries to kill himself but Tiffany manages to cut him down.

There is a scattering of talk about the daughter recovering from the abuse and there is some talk with the mother/wife lightly touching domestic abuse (hitting, slapping).

As much as I love the Tiffany books, I've had a few parents being blindsided with this one. Tiffany is 15 at this point and the situations she is dealing with are a lot more mature than the first books.
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Old 01-06-2020, 01:09 PM
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That is an excellent point. I haven't read the Tiffany books in a few years (hard-backs + dodgy wrists + the beginnings of arthritis in my hands = saving up to buy them on Kindle) so I had forgotten that story-line.
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