Despite promising myself that I was going to stay single for a while, I have been in a relationship for the past two and a half months. And, as far as I was aware, the relationship was going great. We got on well and were the annoying type of people who called and text each other constantly. Everything was going great until last Friday/Saturday.
The two of us went out for drinks with some friends of mine. It was a good night and we all got a bit tipsy. I took her to a 24 hour shop and bought her the new Twilight movie (I HATE Twilight, so that goes to show the lengths I was going to go to to make her happy) and went back to hers where I stayed the night.
The next morning she had to go to work. She works in a pub down the road from mine. Everything was fine. She offered to leave me her key just in case I wanted to stay in bed longer, but I declined and said I would walk with her to her work. We said goodbye at the door and she said she would text me when she got her break.
I never got a text. Oh well. She works in a pub. I know what it’s like, a lot of the time you don’t get breaks so it wasn’t unusual. I decided to call her once her pub had closed. No answer. I text and asked how her night went. No reply. I need to stress that this was very, very unusual. She normally picks up or replies right away. I tried a couple more times and still had no luck and I spent a very restless night worrying that something may have happened to her.
Early in the morning I try to call again. No answer. I am a bit freaked out now. I decide to wait an hour for her pub to open, and then I was going to call them to make sure she got home safe. About five minutes before that she calls.
GF: Sorry, I was really tired and fell asleep as soon as I got home.
Me: Oh well, that’s OK then. As long as you’re OK.
GF: Yeah. *hangs up*
OK, now I’m confused. I message her and ask if she’s OK. I get bland one word answers. She is adamant she is fine. OK. I offer to go meet her as she is off work.
GF: No. Not today.
I don’t hear a word from her for the rest of the day. I tried calling her on the night, but again, she is being extremely frosty towards me. I ask her what is wrong and she says everything is fine. I ask if she wants to meet the next day for lunch.
GF: No.
Right. So I’m left feeling really confused by this behaviour. I decide to leave it alone and not push the issue.
The next day I go into school and I am informed that I have just been given a new class and a promotion. It’s nothing huge but a step in the right direction. I decide to call GF and tell her the news.
GF: Oh. *hangs up*
I didn't expect her to jump for joy, but I didn't expect that reaction. Regular readers of my post will know that I am a very stubborn person. I decide at that point I’m going to let her come to me and I am not going to call or text until she snaps out of whatever it is.
It’s two days later and I still haven’t heard a word. It’s just so unusual that someone goes from being in pretty much constant contact to blatantly ignoring you.
I’ve thought over and over about my actions, and there are only three things I can think of that I have done “wrong”.
1. I had a couple of text messages on my phone from a friend of mine. The texts were full of male-type banter in which we discussed a woman we ran into that looked like a supermodel. So that could mean she is annoyed at me because I made a comment about another woman. That, however also means she has been going through my phone. It also doesn’t explain how her behaviour was normal towards me in the morning.
2. When I left her at work, she asked if I was going for the bus home and I said yes, however I didn’t walk off in that direction. This was because my bus wasn’t for ten minutes and I wanted to have a quick look around some shops. Could she be thinking that I lied to her?
3. I am going away this weekend without her. However, the only reason she is not going is because she is working. I am going to see some university friends for a birthday party, but she said she was OK with it, and even offered to pay for my ticket there.
Seriously, I’ve thought over everything and that’s all I’ve got. No inappropriate comments when we were out drinking, no her feeling left out among my friends. We actually had a really good night and the two of us were the last to leave.
Do you guys think this is some weird passive aggressive way of her wanting to break up with me, but with the hope that I will do the breaking up? Should I try calling her again? Or be stubborn and wait?
Also worth saying that I’m OK guys. I am not crying, moping and sitting around. I’m just feeling very confused.
The two of us went out for drinks with some friends of mine. It was a good night and we all got a bit tipsy. I took her to a 24 hour shop and bought her the new Twilight movie (I HATE Twilight, so that goes to show the lengths I was going to go to to make her happy) and went back to hers where I stayed the night.
The next morning she had to go to work. She works in a pub down the road from mine. Everything was fine. She offered to leave me her key just in case I wanted to stay in bed longer, but I declined and said I would walk with her to her work. We said goodbye at the door and she said she would text me when she got her break.
I never got a text. Oh well. She works in a pub. I know what it’s like, a lot of the time you don’t get breaks so it wasn’t unusual. I decided to call her once her pub had closed. No answer. I text and asked how her night went. No reply. I need to stress that this was very, very unusual. She normally picks up or replies right away. I tried a couple more times and still had no luck and I spent a very restless night worrying that something may have happened to her.
Early in the morning I try to call again. No answer. I am a bit freaked out now. I decide to wait an hour for her pub to open, and then I was going to call them to make sure she got home safe. About five minutes before that she calls.
GF: Sorry, I was really tired and fell asleep as soon as I got home.
Me: Oh well, that’s OK then. As long as you’re OK.
GF: Yeah. *hangs up*
OK, now I’m confused. I message her and ask if she’s OK. I get bland one word answers. She is adamant she is fine. OK. I offer to go meet her as she is off work.
GF: No. Not today.
I don’t hear a word from her for the rest of the day. I tried calling her on the night, but again, she is being extremely frosty towards me. I ask her what is wrong and she says everything is fine. I ask if she wants to meet the next day for lunch.
GF: No.
Right. So I’m left feeling really confused by this behaviour. I decide to leave it alone and not push the issue.
The next day I go into school and I am informed that I have just been given a new class and a promotion. It’s nothing huge but a step in the right direction. I decide to call GF and tell her the news.
GF: Oh. *hangs up*
I didn't expect her to jump for joy, but I didn't expect that reaction. Regular readers of my post will know that I am a very stubborn person. I decide at that point I’m going to let her come to me and I am not going to call or text until she snaps out of whatever it is.
It’s two days later and I still haven’t heard a word. It’s just so unusual that someone goes from being in pretty much constant contact to blatantly ignoring you.
I’ve thought over and over about my actions, and there are only three things I can think of that I have done “wrong”.
1. I had a couple of text messages on my phone from a friend of mine. The texts were full of male-type banter in which we discussed a woman we ran into that looked like a supermodel. So that could mean she is annoyed at me because I made a comment about another woman. That, however also means she has been going through my phone. It also doesn’t explain how her behaviour was normal towards me in the morning.
2. When I left her at work, she asked if I was going for the bus home and I said yes, however I didn’t walk off in that direction. This was because my bus wasn’t for ten minutes and I wanted to have a quick look around some shops. Could she be thinking that I lied to her?
3. I am going away this weekend without her. However, the only reason she is not going is because she is working. I am going to see some university friends for a birthday party, but she said she was OK with it, and even offered to pay for my ticket there.
Seriously, I’ve thought over everything and that’s all I’ve got. No inappropriate comments when we were out drinking, no her feeling left out among my friends. We actually had a really good night and the two of us were the last to leave.
Do you guys think this is some weird passive aggressive way of her wanting to break up with me, but with the hope that I will do the breaking up? Should I try calling her again? Or be stubborn and wait?
Also worth saying that I’m OK guys. I am not crying, moping and sitting around. I’m just feeling very confused.
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