Work has been a huge stress lately. So I don't need this additional shit.
My two sisters went to Shenandoah Nat'l Park and then to Myrtle Beach with our oldest friends. I had a feeling this trip was a bad idea, but I knew they wouldn't be able to do this again so we managed to pull it together money-wise.
Wow. BIG mistake.
Friend X (let's call her Xena) had a birthday the day after the trip started. Sis I and Sis II for some reason didn't get around to wishing her a happy birthday. Let me stress that this is the FIRST and ONLY time in our long acquaintance that this has happened--we send cards every year, we get gifts when we can; whereas Xena & her husband never remember when ANY of our birthdays occur unless we happen to mention it in a conversation. To be fair, they have always been generous when they do actually remember one of us is having a birthday. But we don't expect gifts or cards or anything from them. We're all adults, it's no big deal.
Except apparently Xena was upset & offended that my sisters didn't say anything. But did Xena say anything? Nope. So they all had a pretty good time down at Shenandoah. Xena was a little testy during the drive to Myrtle but she tends to be that way anyway.
The first night in Myrtle, Xena announced that SHE was going to a certain seafood restaurant and everyone else (including her husband) could come as well, or eat somewhere else. My one sister is a vegetarian. Xena & her husband KNOW this, and Sis told them the day they proposed this trip. They assured us it would not be a problem. Except that Xena threw what I can only describe as a pre-emptive fit, apparently assuming that Sis would somehow prevent her from going to eat at this place--saying that a big reason she comes to Myrtle Beach is "for the food" (??) and there was a Friendly's the others could walk to if they didn't want to eat at this other place. Yes, she told two women they could walk alone, at night, in a strange city, to a place whose location they weren't even sure of. And then she told my other sister that the first one (veg) was "inconsiderate"--even though sis had never even had a chance to say she did or didn't want to eat there.
They smoothed that over. Despite the rooms being crappy (flimsy doorlocks, no closets, wobbly toilet, roach, in-room coffee pot still holding last guest's old coffee...) and Xena being prickly & testy the whole rest of the trip, my sisters enjoyed themselves. Came home, week goes by, la la la...
We get the mail today and there's a note from Xena's husband, detailing the many ways my sisters were "rude" and bitching about them forgetting Xena's birthday. I won't get into all the details except to say that I am gobsmacked. We've known these people for over 20 years. They are not perfect. Hell, neither are we. My sisters came home vowing never to travel with them again. In light of this nasty note, we are not sure whether we should bother trying to salvage the friendship. Should I respond by letter? Call them? Send them gas money (one of the things they bitched about in the letter)? Or give them the kiss-off?
Questions?
My two sisters went to Shenandoah Nat'l Park and then to Myrtle Beach with our oldest friends. I had a feeling this trip was a bad idea, but I knew they wouldn't be able to do this again so we managed to pull it together money-wise.
Wow. BIG mistake.
Friend X (let's call her Xena) had a birthday the day after the trip started. Sis I and Sis II for some reason didn't get around to wishing her a happy birthday. Let me stress that this is the FIRST and ONLY time in our long acquaintance that this has happened--we send cards every year, we get gifts when we can; whereas Xena & her husband never remember when ANY of our birthdays occur unless we happen to mention it in a conversation. To be fair, they have always been generous when they do actually remember one of us is having a birthday. But we don't expect gifts or cards or anything from them. We're all adults, it's no big deal.
Except apparently Xena was upset & offended that my sisters didn't say anything. But did Xena say anything? Nope. So they all had a pretty good time down at Shenandoah. Xena was a little testy during the drive to Myrtle but she tends to be that way anyway.
The first night in Myrtle, Xena announced that SHE was going to a certain seafood restaurant and everyone else (including her husband) could come as well, or eat somewhere else. My one sister is a vegetarian. Xena & her husband KNOW this, and Sis told them the day they proposed this trip. They assured us it would not be a problem. Except that Xena threw what I can only describe as a pre-emptive fit, apparently assuming that Sis would somehow prevent her from going to eat at this place--saying that a big reason she comes to Myrtle Beach is "for the food" (??) and there was a Friendly's the others could walk to if they didn't want to eat at this other place. Yes, she told two women they could walk alone, at night, in a strange city, to a place whose location they weren't even sure of. And then she told my other sister that the first one (veg) was "inconsiderate"--even though sis had never even had a chance to say she did or didn't want to eat there.
They smoothed that over. Despite the rooms being crappy (flimsy doorlocks, no closets, wobbly toilet, roach, in-room coffee pot still holding last guest's old coffee...) and Xena being prickly & testy the whole rest of the trip, my sisters enjoyed themselves. Came home, week goes by, la la la...
We get the mail today and there's a note from Xena's husband, detailing the many ways my sisters were "rude" and bitching about them forgetting Xena's birthday. I won't get into all the details except to say that I am gobsmacked. We've known these people for over 20 years. They are not perfect. Hell, neither are we. My sisters came home vowing never to travel with them again. In light of this nasty note, we are not sure whether we should bother trying to salvage the friendship. Should I respond by letter? Call them? Send them gas money (one of the things they bitched about in the letter)? Or give them the kiss-off?
Questions?
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