Disclaimer: I have no kids.
Having said that, the incident with the frogs sent up a HUGE red flag to me. She would've been gone out of my yard so fast she'd have left a hole in the air, and she would be prohibited from ever coming back ... and if she did, I would be looking very quickly for legal options to make sure her return was a one-time-only event. Her giggly delight in torturing animals is a seriously scary sign. She's already manipulating your kids and doesn't hesitate to do things -- repeatedly -- that make them cry. I can't imagine it will be long before she graduates to something even worse.
I'm not sure why you think standing up to her will make your family the "bad guys" in the neighbourhood, if this sort of thing is normal behaviour for her. Is her family well-to-do, or perhaps just really pushy and bossy, and has just intimidated everybody else into looking the other way?
As tough as it may be, your kids' safety has to come first, and that includes their mental safety. If she is allowed to keep coming back, that tells your kids that, whatever you may say, you are actually OK with what she's doing. You don't want to go down that road.
Having said that, the incident with the frogs sent up a HUGE red flag to me. She would've been gone out of my yard so fast she'd have left a hole in the air, and she would be prohibited from ever coming back ... and if she did, I would be looking very quickly for legal options to make sure her return was a one-time-only event. Her giggly delight in torturing animals is a seriously scary sign. She's already manipulating your kids and doesn't hesitate to do things -- repeatedly -- that make them cry. I can't imagine it will be long before she graduates to something even worse.
I'm not sure why you think standing up to her will make your family the "bad guys" in the neighbourhood, if this sort of thing is normal behaviour for her. Is her family well-to-do, or perhaps just really pushy and bossy, and has just intimidated everybody else into looking the other way?
As tough as it may be, your kids' safety has to come first, and that includes their mental safety. If she is allowed to keep coming back, that tells your kids that, whatever you may say, you are actually OK with what she's doing. You don't want to go down that road.
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