Sorry folks, I need to vent this before it screws with me any more...
There is a back story...and I have to break this down into its separate parts
1)I am on my second marriage to a wonderful woman who makes me happy and does for the most part understand me and loves me for me.
2)I have 3 children(4 including my step son who I raised since he was 6, he is now 21, but he isn't at issue right now) My oldest daughter was born out of wed lock and is now 23, and from my first marriage I have a son and daughter 21 and 17
I am guilty of doing a lot a stupid and selfish things, and have worked very hard to make myself a better person not only to myself but to others.
Towards the end of my marriage, I began an online relationship with the woman who is now my wife. I dont make any bones about it and I know it hurt my ex. Both She and I were not happy, we had grown apart and it was not working any more. We both wanted out and so we did.
During the time we separated and divorced I found out that my daughter was being molested by a family member. my ex'x solution was to sweep it under the rug and say we will deal with it(it was someone on her side of the family). I lost it and called family services and got my daughter for several months. By this time I had married my now wife and were were getting on with life. No matter what we did, my daughter was miserable and did everything she could to make us as well. He new step brother was (and still is) disabled and took great delight in tormenting him. After so much torment and pain, I told her mom, that I couldnt do it any more and let her go back to her.
Family service said that my ex was in the wrong and that my daughter needed therapy, we even found free services for her, no not happening is what my ex said.
This was and still is a fucked up situation.
BTW, this is just part one of two
After a year of truly emotional heart ache, My wife finally loses it and says she is done. and that my daughter was a waste and to give up. This was the worst part, because my support was gone. I did my best for another year to be involved with my kids and do what ever I could. My daughter was becoming vengeful because she had been taken away from her mother. And she was taking it out on me.
I basically had a emotional break. It wasn't fun, I thought I was dying, I don't want to ever go back to that place again. So I told my ex, I wouldn't be calling any more because I cant handle this any more, and we packed up and moved to branson. it was close enough to see family, but far enough to make everyone happy.
I have heard from my daughter several times a year, always asking for something.
Please dont think I am a deadbeat dad, I pay my child support and have good health insurance for my kids. I guess I can best say that I am a good provider, but a lousy father.
My youngest daughter just emailed me to berate me because she didnt hear from me on her birthday or get a gift.
It is tearing me up....
There is a back story...and I have to break this down into its separate parts
1)I am on my second marriage to a wonderful woman who makes me happy and does for the most part understand me and loves me for me.
2)I have 3 children(4 including my step son who I raised since he was 6, he is now 21, but he isn't at issue right now) My oldest daughter was born out of wed lock and is now 23, and from my first marriage I have a son and daughter 21 and 17
I am guilty of doing a lot a stupid and selfish things, and have worked very hard to make myself a better person not only to myself but to others.
Towards the end of my marriage, I began an online relationship with the woman who is now my wife. I dont make any bones about it and I know it hurt my ex. Both She and I were not happy, we had grown apart and it was not working any more. We both wanted out and so we did.
During the time we separated and divorced I found out that my daughter was being molested by a family member. my ex'x solution was to sweep it under the rug and say we will deal with it(it was someone on her side of the family). I lost it and called family services and got my daughter for several months. By this time I had married my now wife and were were getting on with life. No matter what we did, my daughter was miserable and did everything she could to make us as well. He new step brother was (and still is) disabled and took great delight in tormenting him. After so much torment and pain, I told her mom, that I couldnt do it any more and let her go back to her.
Family service said that my ex was in the wrong and that my daughter needed therapy, we even found free services for her, no not happening is what my ex said.
This was and still is a fucked up situation.
BTW, this is just part one of two
After a year of truly emotional heart ache, My wife finally loses it and says she is done. and that my daughter was a waste and to give up. This was the worst part, because my support was gone. I did my best for another year to be involved with my kids and do what ever I could. My daughter was becoming vengeful because she had been taken away from her mother. And she was taking it out on me.
I basically had a emotional break. It wasn't fun, I thought I was dying, I don't want to ever go back to that place again. So I told my ex, I wouldn't be calling any more because I cant handle this any more, and we packed up and moved to branson. it was close enough to see family, but far enough to make everyone happy.
I have heard from my daughter several times a year, always asking for something.
Please dont think I am a deadbeat dad, I pay my child support and have good health insurance for my kids. I guess I can best say that I am a good provider, but a lousy father.
My youngest daughter just emailed me to berate me because she didnt hear from me on her birthday or get a gift.
It is tearing me up....
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