*nothing in particular inspired this, just something that I've been feeling a lot lately and I'm not sure how to go about expressing it.
I suppose my question would be.......is there a tactful way to tell my mom that I feel like she wants/expects me to be just like her (or at least similar), and that is NOT what I want? Not that Mom is a horrible person or anything, but just to give a few examples of what I mean:
- she's always had a weight problem, gripes about it/realizes it affects health, but won't stick to a diet and work-out plan. Instead, Mom seems to prefer blaming everyone else for her inability to lose weight.
- my father died almost 30 years ago. Mom has never re-married or even tried to date, and because she's apparently fine with being single, she doesn't fully get why I might not want that.
- Mom really has no social life or activities outside of the house unless it involves church.......either Sunday mornings or committee meetings during the week. In the past, she's made several references to my being similar with this, which is not true, and it bothers me.
I suppose my question would be.......is there a tactful way to tell my mom that I feel like she wants/expects me to be just like her (or at least similar), and that is NOT what I want? Not that Mom is a horrible person or anything, but just to give a few examples of what I mean:
- she's always had a weight problem, gripes about it/realizes it affects health, but won't stick to a diet and work-out plan. Instead, Mom seems to prefer blaming everyone else for her inability to lose weight.
- my father died almost 30 years ago. Mom has never re-married or even tried to date, and because she's apparently fine with being single, she doesn't fully get why I might not want that.
- Mom really has no social life or activities outside of the house unless it involves church.......either Sunday mornings or committee meetings during the week. In the past, she's made several references to my being similar with this, which is not true, and it bothers me.
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