I currently live with a guy that I am completely platonic with. We've been living together for 5 or 6 years now and things were made very clear from the start. He has parties sometimes where it's mostly guys over and alcohol is involved to the point of people sometimes crashing over. My bathroom is the one in the hallway so mine also often doubles as the guest bathroom and none of the rooms have locks on them. Honestly, I've never had a problem. But then again I also have known him for almost ten years now. He's respectful and even his friends who don't like me are polite and friendly.
That being said, I don't think I could ever move in with a guy I didn't know. Granted I'm very very picky about who I'm willing to live with but still, I would see it as a safety issue. Hell, my best friend would throw a fit if he heard about me doing something like that even if I had run background checks.
I would say be careful about how you approach this with her. Offering to do the background checks for her might not be a bad idea if it's feasible or if you can talk her into doing it herself. I've been lucky so far in that no guys have thrown a fit about me living with a guy and his new girlfriend hasn't raised a fuss about me. I can see how it could make people uncomfortable but for me personally, I would be pissed if ever told that it wasn't ok. I do understand that you aren't forbidding it or anything, just something to keep in mind as this progresses that that could make things rough. I can see why the situation would make you nervous though and you wanting her to be safe isn't a bad thing. Maybe look around online for ideas on good ways to do checks on people as like you said, personal references might not mean anything. References from past landlords/roommates might not be horrible though.
That being said, I don't think I could ever move in with a guy I didn't know. Granted I'm very very picky about who I'm willing to live with but still, I would see it as a safety issue. Hell, my best friend would throw a fit if he heard about me doing something like that even if I had run background checks.
I would say be careful about how you approach this with her. Offering to do the background checks for her might not be a bad idea if it's feasible or if you can talk her into doing it herself. I've been lucky so far in that no guys have thrown a fit about me living with a guy and his new girlfriend hasn't raised a fuss about me. I can see how it could make people uncomfortable but for me personally, I would be pissed if ever told that it wasn't ok. I do understand that you aren't forbidding it or anything, just something to keep in mind as this progresses that that could make things rough. I can see why the situation would make you nervous though and you wanting her to be safe isn't a bad thing. Maybe look around online for ideas on good ways to do checks on people as like you said, personal references might not mean anything. References from past landlords/roommates might not be horrible though.
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