*Something which has come up with my daughter, Heather recently.....it's not anything negative towards her but it's kind of concerning to me because we are trying to get her to expand her social circle*
To give some brief background - I may or may not have some degree of high-functioning autism. I've never been officially diagnosed with anything, but I do recall that when my younger brother was in high school, he complained about not wanting to bring friends home because of how "weird" I acted. (I also remember our sister asking me to "fix" myself before we went to Georgia to visit family members during one spring break)
Flash-forward to recently......Heather told me that anytime she's brought a friend over, that person asks what is "wrong" with me. I don't know if it's something which comes up immediately, and Heather said nobody ever asked that in a negative way, but she didn't specify anything I might have said or done that would inspire a friend to ask that.
I do think part of it is that at 36, I'm a lot younger than most of her friend's parents, and maybe because I don't drive or date. (neither is really by choice, but it's hard to explain that) And I guess what I'm needing advice on is......how do I handle this situation? I don't want to be unfriendly or make any of Heather's friends feel unwelcome in the house, but at the same time, it gets frustrating being told people notice something is "off" about me but I don't get told specifics.
To give some brief background - I may or may not have some degree of high-functioning autism. I've never been officially diagnosed with anything, but I do recall that when my younger brother was in high school, he complained about not wanting to bring friends home because of how "weird" I acted. (I also remember our sister asking me to "fix" myself before we went to Georgia to visit family members during one spring break)
Flash-forward to recently......Heather told me that anytime she's brought a friend over, that person asks what is "wrong" with me. I don't know if it's something which comes up immediately, and Heather said nobody ever asked that in a negative way, but she didn't specify anything I might have said or done that would inspire a friend to ask that.
I do think part of it is that at 36, I'm a lot younger than most of her friend's parents, and maybe because I don't drive or date. (neither is really by choice, but it's hard to explain that) And I guess what I'm needing advice on is......how do I handle this situation? I don't want to be unfriendly or make any of Heather's friends feel unwelcome in the house, but at the same time, it gets frustrating being told people notice something is "off" about me but I don't get told specifics.
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