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So my birthday was last week. one of my aunt invited me to her house the day before my birthday, and when she found out the next day was my birthday, she told me "happy birthday, why don't you come by for lunch tomorrow." Now I'm not close to this aunt, and I try not to visit her anymore then 2x a month. So I told her "no, my friends and I have plans." So day of my birthday, she called and asked me why don't I have lunch with her the next day? I really didn't want to go but I'm bad at saying "no" so I said "ok".
So lunch is at her house, made up of beans, a salad (at least the salad has avocado) and some Mexican tamales (actually 3 tamales, which are small compared to tamales from my mom's homeland). She eats really healthy, but no matter how much I eat, I am hungry an hour latter. Usually I stay there for more than an hour, but I left in 30 min. in tears because she began asking if I feel lonely in my house (my parents house, which I lived in all my life; both my parents are dead) and escalated to her telling me how to live my life, and she was "frustrated that I don't change", and anyone passing by would think there was an angry argument. I told her I had to leave because I was getting stressed.
So the next day she sends me an email saying she will never tell me how to live my life and that she cared about me. So I reply, saying I just saw it as criticism so that is why I was upset, but I know she cared for me,
So today she sends another email that begins, "Unfortunately it was not criticism but a call to action. If you have not changed the...." I stop reading. That is the problem with my family, they don't know when to quit. Oh, and you said you weren't going to tell me how to live my life. *sigh* I should have just said, "no problemo," not tell her how I felt. Heck, I wasn't saying "I'm blaming you for the way I felt". ugh.
So today is monday and a relative I talked to last Wed and Sat (he wanted a favor, so Sat. was when I told him I would give a response). He said, "Friday was your birthday." I said, "yes" and he said, "I remembered Friday was your birthday. Listen, I need a favor..." Let's just say I'm not very socialized,* but if someone says, or knows, "it's your birthday" shouldn't they also say, "Happy birthday" or "Happy belated birthday"? It's like with a couple, if one person says, "I see there's no more toilet paper on the toilet paper roll. Someone should change it," it's like they should get kudos for noticing the roll needs to be changed, instead of actually doing something about it.
*because dad didn't believe in letting me the house except with my mother, and mom didn't want me to make friends because "friends take advantage of you," though most times she thinks I should go out and make friends (in other words, she want me to spend time with her only, but thinks I should be a social butterfly like her).
So lunch is at her house, made up of beans, a salad (at least the salad has avocado) and some Mexican tamales (actually 3 tamales, which are small compared to tamales from my mom's homeland). She eats really healthy, but no matter how much I eat, I am hungry an hour latter. Usually I stay there for more than an hour, but I left in 30 min. in tears because she began asking if I feel lonely in my house (my parents house, which I lived in all my life; both my parents are dead) and escalated to her telling me how to live my life, and she was "frustrated that I don't change", and anyone passing by would think there was an angry argument. I told her I had to leave because I was getting stressed.
So the next day she sends me an email saying she will never tell me how to live my life and that she cared about me. So I reply, saying I just saw it as criticism so that is why I was upset, but I know she cared for me,
So today she sends another email that begins, "Unfortunately it was not criticism but a call to action. If you have not changed the...." I stop reading. That is the problem with my family, they don't know when to quit. Oh, and you said you weren't going to tell me how to live my life. *sigh* I should have just said, "no problemo," not tell her how I felt. Heck, I wasn't saying "I'm blaming you for the way I felt". ugh.
So today is monday and a relative I talked to last Wed and Sat (he wanted a favor, so Sat. was when I told him I would give a response). He said, "Friday was your birthday." I said, "yes" and he said, "I remembered Friday was your birthday. Listen, I need a favor..." Let's just say I'm not very socialized,* but if someone says, or knows, "it's your birthday" shouldn't they also say, "Happy birthday" or "Happy belated birthday"? It's like with a couple, if one person says, "I see there's no more toilet paper on the toilet paper roll. Someone should change it," it's like they should get kudos for noticing the roll needs to be changed, instead of actually doing something about it.
*because dad didn't believe in letting me the house except with my mother, and mom didn't want me to make friends because "friends take advantage of you," though most times she thinks I should go out and make friends (in other words, she want me to spend time with her only, but thinks I should be a social butterfly like her).
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