Last March, I was sitting at my desk at work. I do data entry, which is generally a low-risk work environment. But I work for USPS, and we make just enough money to keep operating and pay everyone, and our chairs are 20 years old and many are held together by thread and bubblegum. So imagine my surprise when I suddenly went from sitting upright to falling backward because the chair back popped out of place and took me with it. I managed to grab the desk to keep from falling completely backward to the floor, but in the process I tore a muscle in my back and herniated two discs in my spine, one of which is has been cuddling up next to a cluster of nerve roots ever since. After slipping a disc nearly a decade ago in a car wreck and tearing something a few years ago, I think my back has finally had enough. I've been in near constant pain ever since. Most days are manageable, but I have sporadic episodes lasting several days where I can barely manage to get out of bed. I've been in physical therapy, I've tried several pain medications, I've had an injection my spine and a couple weeks ago two injections on either side of the affected nerve cluster itself. Nothing has resulted in much success, and I was down all of last week because I couldn't even sleep for more than two hours before being in one position for too long put me in agony. Then I picked up a respiratory infection, and the coughing didn't help my pain at all.
I had a followup Thursday, and my doctor said we're done trying injections because they don't seem to be working, and he put me on a new medication that hopefully won't make me nauseous or knock me out like the last few. And then he brought up the subject of disability, which I've been trying not to think about. I can't afford to live on 60% of my income, I can barely live on 100% of my income since my fiancee isn't working right now. Plus, I don't feel disabled. Sure, I have to take it easy most days, I can only do light housework if I can even manage that much, and I can't ever get comfortable for more than a few minutes, but until now I at least had some hope that the problem would just work itself out eventually. And I know there are far worse disabilities to have, but I just hadn't considered that this could be it and the damage to my back is irreparable. The only thing holding my doctor back from making the recommendation right then and there is that he doesn't want to se me go down a "dark path" like he has seen in other cases like mine, where the label of disability and the pain consumes someone's life and they can't think of anything else. I have my fiancee, my novels, my writer's group, and my incredible support group of friends (many right here from CS) to keep me going. But it's not a step I'm willing to take right now.
And the icing on the cake is that I'm in for a major bitch-out from the powers-that-be this week, where I am sure to be facing disciplinary action for "abusing" leave. I've missed a ton of work in the last month, and it wasn't like I've been out having a great time when I was supposed to be keying the mail at work. I've got doctor's notes, but they're going to insist (again) that I get FMLA. My doctor has cautioned me against FMLA because he's seen employers manage to get out of their worker's comp cases as soon as an employee's FMLA case was approved. And while FMLA would make work happy, I need worker's comp because I couldn't possibly afford all the treatments I've already had in the last year, nor can I afford whatever happens next. Plus, my fiancee worked at the same place and her supervisor was able to get HR to cancel her FMLA, which they can apparently do at their discretion. Which is another reason they want me to get FMLA, because they can make the determination that I'm abusing it, cancel it, and fire me. They've been trying to fire me since I had the audacity to get hurt on their busted chairs, and they will never, ever stop trying to fire me as long as I work there. They already tried to suspend me last summer for attendance, but the Union was able to get it thrown out. It's not that this job is worth going through all this fighting and drama, it's that I'm probably unemployable since I'm now damaged goods and I can't afford to lose it.
On one hand, I'm not going to let management walk all over me and am not ready to admit defeat yet. On the other hand, going on disability wouldn't be ideal but would relive a great deal of stress (aside from the financial stress). Realistically, I have no idea what to do.
I had a followup Thursday, and my doctor said we're done trying injections because they don't seem to be working, and he put me on a new medication that hopefully won't make me nauseous or knock me out like the last few. And then he brought up the subject of disability, which I've been trying not to think about. I can't afford to live on 60% of my income, I can barely live on 100% of my income since my fiancee isn't working right now. Plus, I don't feel disabled. Sure, I have to take it easy most days, I can only do light housework if I can even manage that much, and I can't ever get comfortable for more than a few minutes, but until now I at least had some hope that the problem would just work itself out eventually. And I know there are far worse disabilities to have, but I just hadn't considered that this could be it and the damage to my back is irreparable. The only thing holding my doctor back from making the recommendation right then and there is that he doesn't want to se me go down a "dark path" like he has seen in other cases like mine, where the label of disability and the pain consumes someone's life and they can't think of anything else. I have my fiancee, my novels, my writer's group, and my incredible support group of friends (many right here from CS) to keep me going. But it's not a step I'm willing to take right now.
And the icing on the cake is that I'm in for a major bitch-out from the powers-that-be this week, where I am sure to be facing disciplinary action for "abusing" leave. I've missed a ton of work in the last month, and it wasn't like I've been out having a great time when I was supposed to be keying the mail at work. I've got doctor's notes, but they're going to insist (again) that I get FMLA. My doctor has cautioned me against FMLA because he's seen employers manage to get out of their worker's comp cases as soon as an employee's FMLA case was approved. And while FMLA would make work happy, I need worker's comp because I couldn't possibly afford all the treatments I've already had in the last year, nor can I afford whatever happens next. Plus, my fiancee worked at the same place and her supervisor was able to get HR to cancel her FMLA, which they can apparently do at their discretion. Which is another reason they want me to get FMLA, because they can make the determination that I'm abusing it, cancel it, and fire me. They've been trying to fire me since I had the audacity to get hurt on their busted chairs, and they will never, ever stop trying to fire me as long as I work there. They already tried to suspend me last summer for attendance, but the Union was able to get it thrown out. It's not that this job is worth going through all this fighting and drama, it's that I'm probably unemployable since I'm now damaged goods and I can't afford to lose it.
On one hand, I'm not going to let management walk all over me and am not ready to admit defeat yet. On the other hand, going on disability wouldn't be ideal but would relive a great deal of stress (aside from the financial stress). Realistically, I have no idea what to do.
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