Ok.. I gotta call on y'all for advice.. sorry if this is rambly because my brain is sort of fried.
My Fiance Chris just out of nowhere called me from work and said "let's get married in May"
for months now he's been saying "not until we move out of your parents' house" and now all of a sudden... May
The problem is, for one thing we have almost no money right now.. for another, my mom, every time the possibility of me marrying him comes up, says "you need to wait. You need to live with him longer." etc etc. because she married both her husbands 'too soon' and had problems due to it. (important conversations never had because they married quickly, and didn't discuss things like finances and how things will be run)
I have no idea how to break this to my parents. I mean, my stepdad K will be pretty easy, he already considers us married anyway, calls Chris my husband, me his wife, such as if I forget laundry in the dryer K will be all "Dammit Chris tell your wife to stop forgetting her stuff in the dryer!"
We had originally planned to wait until we moved out, but now with the financial problems my mom is having regarding taxes and stuff, and the fact that we are NOT willing to leave them in the lurch, and if we move out now, unless we continue to pay our rent to my mom, they will not be able to stay here, or anywhere else for that matter.
I know my mom isn't gonna toss me out on my ear for marrying Chris, especially since they NEED us right now, and I don't want to just do it in secret because that would hurt/upset her even more.. I just don't know how to tell her!
So.. any ideas? Also, if you haven't any tips on dealing with my mum, how about tips for a nice, cheap, not trashy wedding/reception? We don't wanna go big, white-dress, church, etc scene.. but we don't want just a justice-of-the-peace's-office ok done deal either..
My Fiance Chris just out of nowhere called me from work and said "let's get married in May"
for months now he's been saying "not until we move out of your parents' house" and now all of a sudden... May
The problem is, for one thing we have almost no money right now.. for another, my mom, every time the possibility of me marrying him comes up, says "you need to wait. You need to live with him longer." etc etc. because she married both her husbands 'too soon' and had problems due to it. (important conversations never had because they married quickly, and didn't discuss things like finances and how things will be run)
I have no idea how to break this to my parents. I mean, my stepdad K will be pretty easy, he already considers us married anyway, calls Chris my husband, me his wife, such as if I forget laundry in the dryer K will be all "Dammit Chris tell your wife to stop forgetting her stuff in the dryer!"
We had originally planned to wait until we moved out, but now with the financial problems my mom is having regarding taxes and stuff, and the fact that we are NOT willing to leave them in the lurch, and if we move out now, unless we continue to pay our rent to my mom, they will not be able to stay here, or anywhere else for that matter.
I know my mom isn't gonna toss me out on my ear for marrying Chris, especially since they NEED us right now, and I don't want to just do it in secret because that would hurt/upset her even more.. I just don't know how to tell her!
So.. any ideas? Also, if you haven't any tips on dealing with my mum, how about tips for a nice, cheap, not trashy wedding/reception? We don't wanna go big, white-dress, church, etc scene.. but we don't want just a justice-of-the-peace's-office ok done deal either..
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