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My brother (let’s call him ‘Mike’) is a fucking idiot.
My parents divorced when we were very young. We reacted in different ways- I turned inward, he acted out. Because of our very different natures, we were never close. Mike often demanded our mom’s attention because he needed more help with school and got in trouble a lot. My mom recently said she’s surprised I didn’t act up more in order to get my share of attention, but really I always felt like she had enough to do without me causing trouble. Aside from a couple fights and a couple teenage car accidents, I guess I never really did anything all that bad.
My brother went to live with Dad when we were teenagers (another reason we’re not close). He had trouble in school there and barely graduated, but eventually found work as an electrician’s apprentice. He is now a full-fledged electrician and is very good at it. Since then though he has had problems with drinking, fighting and multiple DUIs.
At 19 he got his girlfriend pregnant. Let’s call her ‘Brenda’. Brenda was also 19 and my brother even admitted he didn’t even like her all that much. Brenda claimed she’d had cervical cancer (via the HPV virus) and was told by her doctor that she couldn’t get pregnant because of that (which is, of course, total bullshit). At any rate, Nephew # 1 was born, Brenda and Mike tried to work things out but it was always on/off with N1 in the middle.
During one of the ‘on’ periods, Brenda got pregnant again. This time her excuse was that she was on antibiotics that made her birth control useless (this can happen, but then why did these morons have unprotected sex?). Nephew #2 was duly born during an ‘off’ period.
Eventually Brenda and Mike broke up for good. Brenda got another boyfriend, got pregnant, had a daughter, broke up with boyfriend, got back together with him etc. So basically her life is a train wreck (and the nephews don’t have many good role models). There were all kinds of issues ranging from unpaid child support to the fact that Brenda has lots of health problems and is always doped up on pain medication and can’t work. These issues seem to be ongoing, but at least she is always willing to let Mike see the boys (and get a weekend off to go party). She once left my 8-year-old older nephew home alone for 8 hours while she went out bar-hopping. Lovely girl.
Mike then met ‘Jerri’. Jerri seemed nice. At first. She was intelligent, but her parents had gotten into cocaine and because of that she did badly in school and got into her own drug problems. She swore she was off it and going to college. Mike swore she was ‘the one’. Brenda swore constantly at Jerri and hated her. Anyway, eventually Jerri got pregnant and had a daughter (Niece). Despite the fact that she had cervical cancer via HPV and was told by her doctor that she couldn’t have kids. The drama began. Once again they were on/off all the time. Jerri refused to get a job. More child support problems. Eventually, they broke up and Jerri has now shown her raging cunt-itude by cutting my brother off from his daughter and refusing to let any of our family see Niece. Let’s see how much she’s laughing when the parents’ lawyers sue for grandparent’s rights (which they’re working on).
5 years pass. Mike gets a job working for my Dad. Dad and Mike share a house. Mike has yet another girlfriend (can’t he just go gay already?) named ‘Bennie’. Bennie seemed like a nice girl. When she met my Mom, she told Mom that she knew of Mom’s concerns based on Mike’s past history. She assured Mom she was not a ‘breeder’ (which confused me when Mom told me about it because that’s usually a derogatory term for heterosexuals used by gays) and didn’t want children. Hope surfaced. Mike swore she was ‘the one’.
6 months after they met, Mike calls to tell me Bennie is pregnant. But he can’t figure out why because she had cervical cancer via HPV and was told by her doctor that she couldn’t get pregnant. I duly congratulate him but I can tell he is NOT happy. I think he called and told me first, hoping I would tattle to Mom and take some of the heat before she turned on him. Sorry buddy, I’m 30 years old and this is ALL YOU.
Bennie sees Mom last week while Mom is visiting the area and tells her how her Daddy bought all this nursery furniture and how she doesn’t plan to work after the baby is born (she’s a part-time waitress at the moment). And, amusingly, how it’s going to be a girl and how much she wants a girl- uh, you don’t get to choose, honey. Mom calls me, livid, to bitch about how these girls are lazy and don’t want to work and she and Dad are agreed that Bennie deliberately got pregnant because my brother makes good money and she wants to mooch off him.
That’s a possibility, but I think it’s more likely they are just fucking idiots. I think what the doctor actually told all three of these young women was that were they to get pregnant, they might experience complications due to the HPV, and they just heard what they wanted to hear. Or maybe they all saw the same lying doctor. And my brother is unable to think with his brain when he sees a pair of tits. I also wonder how many more innocent girls he’s infected with HPV by having unprotected sex with them.
So at the moment everyone is unhappy except Bennie.
Meanwhile, I use the past 10 years to graduate from college, work retail, marry the most wonderful man in the world and am set to deliver our first (and likely only) child a week before our 4th wedding anniversary.
Bennie’s due date is exactly a month after mine.
I know this is immature and petty, and I know the timing could not have been deliberate, but I feel like they are trying to steal some of the attention me and my husband and our son will be getting when he is born. All my life my brother has gotten more attention than me, usually for bad reasons. The only time I felt that I had both my parents’ full attention was on my wedding day. And I know that they’re far more excited about my son than they will be Mike’s kid. So my resentment is stupid, and I’m ashamed of it, but I’m trying to get over it.
My baby shower is at the end of May, in the state where Dad and Mike and most of my extended family live. Mom is not planning to invite Bennie, which is fine as I’ve never met her and I don’t think my baby shower would be a good place for it.
Sorry for the length, but this rant has been a long time coming. People make mistakes, sure, but how can you make the same mistake four fucking times? I think the second time catapulted him from ‘young and dumb’ to ‘chronic moron’. He’s 28 now and it’s time to grow up. I love my nephews and niece but they are not in good home situation and I worry that they will have trouble conducting relationships when they get older because they’ve never seen a normal one. How stupid can he possibly be? How can Bennie think he’s a good catch when she’s fully aware of his situation? What’s wrong with these people?
>deep breath< OK, I'm done.
My parents divorced when we were very young. We reacted in different ways- I turned inward, he acted out. Because of our very different natures, we were never close. Mike often demanded our mom’s attention because he needed more help with school and got in trouble a lot. My mom recently said she’s surprised I didn’t act up more in order to get my share of attention, but really I always felt like she had enough to do without me causing trouble. Aside from a couple fights and a couple teenage car accidents, I guess I never really did anything all that bad.
My brother went to live with Dad when we were teenagers (another reason we’re not close). He had trouble in school there and barely graduated, but eventually found work as an electrician’s apprentice. He is now a full-fledged electrician and is very good at it. Since then though he has had problems with drinking, fighting and multiple DUIs.
At 19 he got his girlfriend pregnant. Let’s call her ‘Brenda’. Brenda was also 19 and my brother even admitted he didn’t even like her all that much. Brenda claimed she’d had cervical cancer (via the HPV virus) and was told by her doctor that she couldn’t get pregnant because of that (which is, of course, total bullshit). At any rate, Nephew # 1 was born, Brenda and Mike tried to work things out but it was always on/off with N1 in the middle.
During one of the ‘on’ periods, Brenda got pregnant again. This time her excuse was that she was on antibiotics that made her birth control useless (this can happen, but then why did these morons have unprotected sex?). Nephew #2 was duly born during an ‘off’ period.
Eventually Brenda and Mike broke up for good. Brenda got another boyfriend, got pregnant, had a daughter, broke up with boyfriend, got back together with him etc. So basically her life is a train wreck (and the nephews don’t have many good role models). There were all kinds of issues ranging from unpaid child support to the fact that Brenda has lots of health problems and is always doped up on pain medication and can’t work. These issues seem to be ongoing, but at least she is always willing to let Mike see the boys (and get a weekend off to go party). She once left my 8-year-old older nephew home alone for 8 hours while she went out bar-hopping. Lovely girl.
Mike then met ‘Jerri’. Jerri seemed nice. At first. She was intelligent, but her parents had gotten into cocaine and because of that she did badly in school and got into her own drug problems. She swore she was off it and going to college. Mike swore she was ‘the one’. Brenda swore constantly at Jerri and hated her. Anyway, eventually Jerri got pregnant and had a daughter (Niece). Despite the fact that she had cervical cancer via HPV and was told by her doctor that she couldn’t have kids. The drama began. Once again they were on/off all the time. Jerri refused to get a job. More child support problems. Eventually, they broke up and Jerri has now shown her raging cunt-itude by cutting my brother off from his daughter and refusing to let any of our family see Niece. Let’s see how much she’s laughing when the parents’ lawyers sue for grandparent’s rights (which they’re working on).
5 years pass. Mike gets a job working for my Dad. Dad and Mike share a house. Mike has yet another girlfriend (can’t he just go gay already?) named ‘Bennie’. Bennie seemed like a nice girl. When she met my Mom, she told Mom that she knew of Mom’s concerns based on Mike’s past history. She assured Mom she was not a ‘breeder’ (which confused me when Mom told me about it because that’s usually a derogatory term for heterosexuals used by gays) and didn’t want children. Hope surfaced. Mike swore she was ‘the one’.
6 months after they met, Mike calls to tell me Bennie is pregnant. But he can’t figure out why because she had cervical cancer via HPV and was told by her doctor that she couldn’t get pregnant. I duly congratulate him but I can tell he is NOT happy. I think he called and told me first, hoping I would tattle to Mom and take some of the heat before she turned on him. Sorry buddy, I’m 30 years old and this is ALL YOU.
Bennie sees Mom last week while Mom is visiting the area and tells her how her Daddy bought all this nursery furniture and how she doesn’t plan to work after the baby is born (she’s a part-time waitress at the moment). And, amusingly, how it’s going to be a girl and how much she wants a girl- uh, you don’t get to choose, honey. Mom calls me, livid, to bitch about how these girls are lazy and don’t want to work and she and Dad are agreed that Bennie deliberately got pregnant because my brother makes good money and she wants to mooch off him.
That’s a possibility, but I think it’s more likely they are just fucking idiots. I think what the doctor actually told all three of these young women was that were they to get pregnant, they might experience complications due to the HPV, and they just heard what they wanted to hear. Or maybe they all saw the same lying doctor. And my brother is unable to think with his brain when he sees a pair of tits. I also wonder how many more innocent girls he’s infected with HPV by having unprotected sex with them.
So at the moment everyone is unhappy except Bennie.
Meanwhile, I use the past 10 years to graduate from college, work retail, marry the most wonderful man in the world and am set to deliver our first (and likely only) child a week before our 4th wedding anniversary.
Bennie’s due date is exactly a month after mine.
I know this is immature and petty, and I know the timing could not have been deliberate, but I feel like they are trying to steal some of the attention me and my husband and our son will be getting when he is born. All my life my brother has gotten more attention than me, usually for bad reasons. The only time I felt that I had both my parents’ full attention was on my wedding day. And I know that they’re far more excited about my son than they will be Mike’s kid. So my resentment is stupid, and I’m ashamed of it, but I’m trying to get over it.
My baby shower is at the end of May, in the state where Dad and Mike and most of my extended family live. Mom is not planning to invite Bennie, which is fine as I’ve never met her and I don’t think my baby shower would be a good place for it.
Sorry for the length, but this rant has been a long time coming. People make mistakes, sure, but how can you make the same mistake four fucking times? I think the second time catapulted him from ‘young and dumb’ to ‘chronic moron’. He’s 28 now and it’s time to grow up. I love my nephews and niece but they are not in good home situation and I worry that they will have trouble conducting relationships when they get older because they’ve never seen a normal one. How stupid can he possibly be? How can Bennie think he’s a good catch when she’s fully aware of his situation? What’s wrong with these people?
>deep breath< OK, I'm done.
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