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Background: My sister and I don't get along very well - the last time she called me was in Feb 09.
I have not spoken voluntarily to my mother for over 3 years; I believe I was abused as a kid and both she (mother) and father were responsible for it. I don't trust this woman.
So, today.
I called my sister to say hello. I am trying to talk to her occasionally, to chat and say hello. Not much depth between us, tbh. I called C. today to say hi and to chat a little bit about my pregnancy.
I asked her some questions - can a dr. guestimate the baby's size/weight at birth? She said "I didn't carry the baby to full term."
I said, "Yes, I know, but can a dr. measure these things and guess?"
She said, "We just wanted to see if she was normal we didn't ask that"
She was getting irritable.
I asked her if she'd heard from Dad. She said yeah, I have, haven't you called?
I said, "Yes, I have, but he's never home, just answering machine."
"Oh, he'll be back in town next week."
She asked me if I was going to tell my mother about the upcoming kid.
I said, "Probably not."
She asked why? I told her, "I don't talk to her, haven't done that for a long time, it's my choice."
C. said "so you're going to deprive your mother of a grandchild? Why aren't you going to see/tell her?"
I said - what I feel - "I don't trust her"
and then C. says I gotta go and hangs up.
Isn't it my business on what I do with my mother?
Why is my sister so pissy about this?
For a long long time I've been not talking to my relatives - due to the child problems I've had. I spend a little bit of time with Dad - he yells and repeats behavior and I had some flashbacks. Interesting. I spent time with mom a few years ago - and have grown to dislike the views she has and the behavior she does - stay away.
So is it so bad that I try to talk to some people occasionally, and just chat about basic low level things? Am I expecting too much for people to be cordial and polite here?
Am I smoking some weird shit and not knowing it?
Cutenoob
Background: My sister and I don't get along very well - the last time she called me was in Feb 09.
I have not spoken voluntarily to my mother for over 3 years; I believe I was abused as a kid and both she (mother) and father were responsible for it. I don't trust this woman.
So, today.
I called my sister to say hello. I am trying to talk to her occasionally, to chat and say hello. Not much depth between us, tbh. I called C. today to say hi and to chat a little bit about my pregnancy.
I asked her some questions - can a dr. guestimate the baby's size/weight at birth? She said "I didn't carry the baby to full term."
I said, "Yes, I know, but can a dr. measure these things and guess?"
She said, "We just wanted to see if she was normal we didn't ask that"
She was getting irritable.
I asked her if she'd heard from Dad. She said yeah, I have, haven't you called?
I said, "Yes, I have, but he's never home, just answering machine."
"Oh, he'll be back in town next week."
She asked me if I was going to tell my mother about the upcoming kid.
I said, "Probably not."
She asked why? I told her, "I don't talk to her, haven't done that for a long time, it's my choice."
C. said "so you're going to deprive your mother of a grandchild? Why aren't you going to see/tell her?"
I said - what I feel - "I don't trust her"
and then C. says I gotta go and hangs up.
Isn't it my business on what I do with my mother?
Why is my sister so pissy about this?
For a long long time I've been not talking to my relatives - due to the child problems I've had. I spend a little bit of time with Dad - he yells and repeats behavior and I had some flashbacks. Interesting. I spent time with mom a few years ago - and have grown to dislike the views she has and the behavior she does - stay away.
So is it so bad that I try to talk to some people occasionally, and just chat about basic low level things? Am I expecting too much for people to be cordial and polite here?
Am I smoking some weird shit and not knowing it?
Cutenoob
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