Roommate Dilemma

[Jester]

As y'all know, I have been looking to fill a room in my apartment, as one of my two roommates is leaving.

After getting very little response to my ad, I showed the apartment over the last few days to four prospectives.

The first guy was pretty much a tool. I don't need to elaborate, but suffice it to say that of the four, he is my fourth choice.

Second guy was pretty cool, but seemed a bit intense, was not sure how long he is going to be living in KW, but thinks it will be a while, and has yet to get me the three personal references I asked him for....twice. Not a good sign in my book.

Number three was a pretty laidback, cool dude, and his references were glowing. Yeah, I know, you'd be an idiot to provide references that weren't great, but everything seemed pretty on point about this guy.

Number four was a very stable, really cool chick, and her references were equally glowing. One was actually the ex-boyfriend whose place she is moving out of....if you get a glowing reference from your EX, how cool must you be?

So I am trying to decide between Number Three and Number Four, and basically they are tied. Each has one completely irrelevant factor in their favor. My friend Little Red wants me to choose Three, because I told her he would be a great guy for her to meet, and is her type. I found Four to be rather attractive myself.

But of course neither of those factors has any bearing on this decision, which is in essence a business decision, and must be treated as such. Mr. Anti-Social could give two shits, as long as they are stable, have steady jobs, and pay their shit on time. Both Three and Four give off that very vibe.

I called them both tonight, both times getting their voice mail, and basically told them that, if they were interested, it was down to the two of them. Obviously if one has procured another residence, it would make things easier.

Barring that, though, I still have to make a decision. If anyone has any suggestions on how I go about doing this, feel free to throw it my way.

Knowing my luck, though, both of them have found other places, leaving me with a guy who still has not provided me the requested references, and a tool.

[Greenday]

Do they both have the money to pay rent?

If one doesn't, choose the other.

If they both do, then...

Quoth Jester

I found Four to be rather attractive myself.

You have your answer.

[ApolloSZ]

Quoth Jester

Knowing my luck, though, both of them have found other places, leaving me with a guy who still has not provided me the requested references, and a tool.

All I can think right now is in this case... Use the tool to work the information out of the guy who hasn't provided any. If its not the right tool your not using it right


Hmmm... I'd say the good looking one too. /

[iradney]

The chick might have gotten a glowing ref from her ex because he wants her out of there, stat! Just playing devil's advocate

[Jester]

Quoth Greenday

Do they both have the money to pay rent?

If one doesn't, choose the other.

If they both do, then...

You have your answer.

If they didn't have the money to pay rent, they would not even be considered, period.

As for Four being attractive, that is not a viable factor, period, nor will I allow it to be. My goal is and has to be the best possible situation for Mr. Anti-Social and myself, period. Having a good-looking roommate does not factor into that. And frankly, if she lived her, trying to get involved with her would be rather stupid. As they say, you don't shit where you eat.

Quoth ApolloSZ

All I can think right now is in this case... Use the tool to work the information out of the guy who hasn't provided any. If its not the right tool your not using it right.

Um, no, since the tool is the first candidate. He was a bit of a tool. An ass. A jerk. You know....tool.

[ottid]

Quoth Jester

As they say, you don't shit where you eat.

Or... Don't screw the crew

[Seshat]

Flip a coin.

If you find yourself disappointed by the result, choose the other one. If you find yourself pleased by the result, choose that one.

You have a subconscious gut preference. Using a random selector can help you identify that preference.

If you don't have a subconscious preference, using a random selector gives you a result. You win either way.

[Magpie]

Let them both know that you've shown the place to another good prospect. At that point it's a race. I know it's a little unfair, (and I'm still bitter about losing an apartment that goes below 20 in the WINTER and has a balcony because of that), but it's actually the best for you.

Let's say person 3 responds first. You want to give a good chance, so you give person 4 a week to reply. In this week, person 3 has been looking at other places (which is wise, just in case). By the time person 4 replies with "sorry about the delay, found another place, offer it to person 3", person 3 has already jumped on an opportunity which was only available right then. Result: you have no roommate.

[r2cagle]

Pick #3. Just because....

Plus, I think you'll have less drama with him than with the female.

[KiaKat]

Quoth r2cagle

Pick #3. Just because....

Plus, I think you'll have less drama with him than with the female.

Why do you think that?

The worst drama I've had has been with MALE roommates. Hetero ones, at that. Maybe because I'm pickier about my female roommates, or because the female ones have been in committed relationships and haven't given me shit over my wiling ways (in some ways, they contributed to said ways...), nor have I had to ask them to clean their crap up from the kitchen/bathroom/ceiling/corner of the TV.

I'm personally a very low-drama female. I tend to give people crap only when they really deserve it, or when I'm joking around (and everyone KNOWS I'm joking). I don't overreact to situations, preferring to get all the information before reacting. There's been some drama in my life, mostly centering around a drama-filled friend of mine and his bitch of an ex, but that's mostly because of THEM, not me. And I don't drag it home to my fiance, or my family.

Gender is not an indication of whether there will be drama. Whether or not the person is laid back, comfortable, and generally drama-free is the only indicator.

Jester, you've let them know that there's competition. Has there been any response? Are either of them upping the ante?