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I've been meaning to make a thread about this for awhile. This is about whether my husband should stay or get out of the military.
He isn't up yet for reenlist to make the call. Instead, it's the PRT. For those who don't know it's the physical readiness test, to keep our sailors health in check. If you fail it three times in a three year span (or three in a row, don't remember), you get discharged medically.
As you can guess this next PRT, if he fails, it will be his third and he will get booted.
Now, he is actually debating whether to just fail and get out or pass. As the command he's under have douchey officers that didn't make time during the drydock schedule to PT (like they were supposed to, in the rule book as husband stated). Their excuse "Make your own time to workout!" Which isn't possible because they're aren't enough hours in the day with work hours he's had and to work out and it's only gotten worse. That excuse caused his 2nd PRT fail last fall.
I wouldn't be making a thread if there's a reason to why he would want to fail.
If he does pass, then he has to go overseas to Bahrain for a year. He doesn't want to leave me by myself and this would be the first time I would be living in the house by myself for a very long period.
While this doesn't seem like a big deal, here's another factor: I'm as of now, 21 weeks pregnant with our first child (a boy). If husband passes, he goes to Bahrain and misses the birth and most of our son's first year of his life.
Husband never liked sea duty, I remember how depressed and distant he became when he was in Japan and when he deployed in Bahrain the first time. He almost lost his mind from the stress of sea duty and he promised himself he would do everything in his power to always find orders to avoid as much sea duty as possible.
He doesn't want to leave me by myself or miss the beginning of his son's life as I do have some difficulties functioning by myself or an extended period of time when not working. (Work put me on maternity leave) But he also knows that if he does fail, we will have to move and lose our benefits. Possibly during the most financial crunching time which would be RIGHT before I give birth.
I have urged him that he needs to pass or try because if he doesn't, they might think he really did fail on purpose and will nail him with something worse and possibly not have the medical discharge.
It's a tough call. He knows what he signed up for 8 years ago but things have changed for him. I know it's supposed to be tough for military who have families, I'm ready to do my best and put up with that along with raising a child when he's not around. I'd be lying if I wasn't scared. But I'm more scared of what will happen if he fails.
Thoughts? Hugs are nice too.
He isn't up yet for reenlist to make the call. Instead, it's the PRT. For those who don't know it's the physical readiness test, to keep our sailors health in check. If you fail it three times in a three year span (or three in a row, don't remember), you get discharged medically.
As you can guess this next PRT, if he fails, it will be his third and he will get booted.
Now, he is actually debating whether to just fail and get out or pass. As the command he's under have douchey officers that didn't make time during the drydock schedule to PT (like they were supposed to, in the rule book as husband stated). Their excuse "Make your own time to workout!" Which isn't possible because they're aren't enough hours in the day with work hours he's had and to work out and it's only gotten worse. That excuse caused his 2nd PRT fail last fall.
I wouldn't be making a thread if there's a reason to why he would want to fail.
If he does pass, then he has to go overseas to Bahrain for a year. He doesn't want to leave me by myself and this would be the first time I would be living in the house by myself for a very long period.
While this doesn't seem like a big deal, here's another factor: I'm as of now, 21 weeks pregnant with our first child (a boy). If husband passes, he goes to Bahrain and misses the birth and most of our son's first year of his life.
Husband never liked sea duty, I remember how depressed and distant he became when he was in Japan and when he deployed in Bahrain the first time. He almost lost his mind from the stress of sea duty and he promised himself he would do everything in his power to always find orders to avoid as much sea duty as possible.
He doesn't want to leave me by myself or miss the beginning of his son's life as I do have some difficulties functioning by myself or an extended period of time when not working. (Work put me on maternity leave) But he also knows that if he does fail, we will have to move and lose our benefits. Possibly during the most financial crunching time which would be RIGHT before I give birth.
I have urged him that he needs to pass or try because if he doesn't, they might think he really did fail on purpose and will nail him with something worse and possibly not have the medical discharge.
It's a tough call. He knows what he signed up for 8 years ago but things have changed for him. I know it's supposed to be tough for military who have families, I'm ready to do my best and put up with that along with raising a child when he's not around. I'd be lying if I wasn't scared. But I'm more scared of what will happen if he fails.
Thoughts? Hugs are nice too.
for you, CC.
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