This doesn't relate to me specifically, it relates to my boyfriend.
Due to his schedule (he works full-time), I'm up at his house Friday night-Monday morning. Every month his workplace provides him with a "Happy Hour" for a while and that usually continues at a nearby hotel.
He has recently discovered that the hotel he goes for drinks at has an app where if he checks in (via Facebook?), he picks up free points. Those points can later be redeemed for free drinks. The points DO NOT EXPIRE (I had to follow up on this). He's been able to manipulate the system a little bit so he can get those points while not being near the hotel.
He has also recently started studying via distance education. He originally planned his schedule out so that he'd be studying at least 3 nights per week plus attending tutorials on Sunday online. This left Wednesday nights free (his medieval fighting and work-related function) as well as Fridays free (typically the time when him, one of his mates, sometimes one of my girlfriends and I would all meet up and muck around, sometimes with alcohol and sometimes without) and Saturdays.
Lately though, he's been using up those points I mentioned earlier to go out for drinks EVERY. FRIDAY. NIGHT. Now I wouldn't mind so much if he was sensible about it, but he'll end up coming in very late and fairly drunk. He does this every Friday night, without any of us involved. For two of the group, they work the following day and tend to use the Friday night at his house to get together without clubbing or drinking. I tend to use it as extra time I spend with him and his family.
I have tried to approach him on the issue. His responses have generally been along these lines:
-He needs to use the points otherwise they'll go to waste. (I suggested that he bank the points and stop checking in for a while so that whenever we DO go out as a group, he can actually use them then since they don't expire.)
-He doesn't get THAT drunk.
-He planned his studies for this. ("this" he originally meant hanging around with us, not getting shitfaced)
-(upon the suggestion that "when we all go out we can use them") When's the last time you went out to a pub? You always get tired or similar...(sidenote: alcohol makes me a tad sleepy if I've had a long day. If I am drinking, aside from doing it slowly, I tend to focus on drinking soft drink so I CAN stay awake)
I should point out that the last statement was said sober. With my girl friend in the room.
Now I am getting really concerned for him. He doesn't drink that much during the week, but it's more like he's ditching us for his workmates EVERY FRIDAY NIGHT. I wouldn't have minded so much if he wasn't studying, but it just hurts when he says that he's not going to study Friday nights to be with us, then turning around and going out drinking with his workmates. I didn't mind the once-a-month shebangs with his coworkers either, since he'd usually return home having had a couple of drinks, but not to the point of yelling, hurling SOME abuse at us (mostly when one of us points out some aspect ie time, long day, how much he's had to drink etc.) and basically not spending time with his friends.
Of course it doesn't help when said girl friend offers to go along with him...of course she'd have no problem with it, she's skinny, beautiful and can hold her drink better than most.
What the hell should I do?!
Due to his schedule (he works full-time), I'm up at his house Friday night-Monday morning. Every month his workplace provides him with a "Happy Hour" for a while and that usually continues at a nearby hotel.
He has recently discovered that the hotel he goes for drinks at has an app where if he checks in (via Facebook?), he picks up free points. Those points can later be redeemed for free drinks. The points DO NOT EXPIRE (I had to follow up on this). He's been able to manipulate the system a little bit so he can get those points while not being near the hotel.
He has also recently started studying via distance education. He originally planned his schedule out so that he'd be studying at least 3 nights per week plus attending tutorials on Sunday online. This left Wednesday nights free (his medieval fighting and work-related function) as well as Fridays free (typically the time when him, one of his mates, sometimes one of my girlfriends and I would all meet up and muck around, sometimes with alcohol and sometimes without) and Saturdays.
Lately though, he's been using up those points I mentioned earlier to go out for drinks EVERY. FRIDAY. NIGHT. Now I wouldn't mind so much if he was sensible about it, but he'll end up coming in very late and fairly drunk. He does this every Friday night, without any of us involved. For two of the group, they work the following day and tend to use the Friday night at his house to get together without clubbing or drinking. I tend to use it as extra time I spend with him and his family.
I have tried to approach him on the issue. His responses have generally been along these lines:
-He needs to use the points otherwise they'll go to waste. (I suggested that he bank the points and stop checking in for a while so that whenever we DO go out as a group, he can actually use them then since they don't expire.)
-He doesn't get THAT drunk.
-He planned his studies for this. ("this" he originally meant hanging around with us, not getting shitfaced)
-(upon the suggestion that "when we all go out we can use them") When's the last time you went out to a pub? You always get tired or similar...(sidenote: alcohol makes me a tad sleepy if I've had a long day. If I am drinking, aside from doing it slowly, I tend to focus on drinking soft drink so I CAN stay awake)
I should point out that the last statement was said sober. With my girl friend in the room.
Now I am getting really concerned for him. He doesn't drink that much during the week, but it's more like he's ditching us for his workmates EVERY FRIDAY NIGHT. I wouldn't have minded so much if he wasn't studying, but it just hurts when he says that he's not going to study Friday nights to be with us, then turning around and going out drinking with his workmates. I didn't mind the once-a-month shebangs with his coworkers either, since he'd usually return home having had a couple of drinks, but not to the point of yelling, hurling SOME abuse at us (mostly when one of us points out some aspect ie time, long day, how much he's had to drink etc.) and basically not spending time with his friends.
Of course it doesn't help when said girl friend offers to go along with him...of course she'd have no problem with it, she's skinny, beautiful and can hold her drink better than most.
What the hell should I do?!
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