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It was bad enough when I had to put my foot down with my mom about my uncle. He turned out to be very creepy. Unfortunetly this happened right after the family actually started spending time together again. Mom's all thrilled with the family being close again and I get to explain that I won't go to any gathering that he's at. Considering it was the type of situation where most moms would be getting very pissed at the uncle, she seemed to be more upset about the family not being close again. That was fun to deal with. She even tried to argue that they'd make sure I wasn't alone with him which I wasn't willing to go for. To clarify, nothing physically happened just a lot of him talking about stuff he shouldn't have. Honestly though the way the conversation went I'm surprised that he didn't try something physical and if I hadn't freaked out I have a feeling that would have been his next step.
Now I'm dealing with a situation with my brother in law. He has a temper and goes off on people before he thinks it through. I've never been a big fan of him but I tolerate him because I sort of have to. Last month, my sister decided that the compliment I was trying to give her because she was upset was actually me insulting him. This leads to me being outside with their baby an hour or so later and him storming out of the house yelling at me and saying if I insult him again, he's going to kick my ass. Seeing as how this isn't the first time my sister has told him about something that she knows will get him all angry and then aimed him in my direction, it's safe to say I've had enough. I'm pissed at both of them really. I talked to my mom and explained that while I didn't think he'd take a swing at me in one of his calm moods when he's actually thinking things through, I don't trust him not to try something in the heat of the moment. To head off any comments, I already talked to my boss (a police chief) and also talked to an officer in the appropriate juristiction. There's not really much that can be done at this point which I get.
I currently am refusing to be over at the house when he's there (he and my sister currently live there which makes that tricky). It's not just out of worry of him trying anything, it's also because I've just had enough of dealing with him. Of course, while this time my mom at least sounded understanding, it hasn't worked out so great. I've only been over there once since all that happened. About an hour and a half in or so, my sister and her husband suddenly show up. Apparently my mom didn't tell them that I was going to be over because she thought my sister was working later and usually he isn't home when she is at work. Considering he could have stopped by at any point anyway or that she could have gotten off work early (which is what happened) it would have been nice for her to have actually said something to them instead of just assuming they wouldn't show. I've hit a point where I'm feeling more and more willing to stop making efforts. I don't mean I'll write her out of my life, but I'm tired of making efforts and feeling like she doesn't care enough for it to register in her head how serious I am. I'm just getting very frustrated with the whole thing.
Now I'm dealing with a situation with my brother in law. He has a temper and goes off on people before he thinks it through. I've never been a big fan of him but I tolerate him because I sort of have to. Last month, my sister decided that the compliment I was trying to give her because she was upset was actually me insulting him. This leads to me being outside with their baby an hour or so later and him storming out of the house yelling at me and saying if I insult him again, he's going to kick my ass. Seeing as how this isn't the first time my sister has told him about something that she knows will get him all angry and then aimed him in my direction, it's safe to say I've had enough. I'm pissed at both of them really. I talked to my mom and explained that while I didn't think he'd take a swing at me in one of his calm moods when he's actually thinking things through, I don't trust him not to try something in the heat of the moment. To head off any comments, I already talked to my boss (a police chief) and also talked to an officer in the appropriate juristiction. There's not really much that can be done at this point which I get.
I currently am refusing to be over at the house when he's there (he and my sister currently live there which makes that tricky). It's not just out of worry of him trying anything, it's also because I've just had enough of dealing with him. Of course, while this time my mom at least sounded understanding, it hasn't worked out so great. I've only been over there once since all that happened. About an hour and a half in or so, my sister and her husband suddenly show up. Apparently my mom didn't tell them that I was going to be over because she thought my sister was working later and usually he isn't home when she is at work. Considering he could have stopped by at any point anyway or that she could have gotten off work early (which is what happened) it would have been nice for her to have actually said something to them instead of just assuming they wouldn't show. I've hit a point where I'm feeling more and more willing to stop making efforts. I don't mean I'll write her out of my life, but I'm tired of making efforts and feeling like she doesn't care enough for it to register in her head how serious I am. I'm just getting very frustrated with the whole thing.