Very Very Not Happy....Actually Friggen Pissed

[tropicsgoddess]

Kisa, do you have a smartphone? If so, there's apps that you can load where you can put his number on the block list. Some non-smartphones may have an internal reject list where it'll block the call but not necessarily the texting. Former Calling Card Rep has a good point in the call block with AT&T too. As for the creepy dude, don't meet him. Don't have a damn thing to do with him. Don't even respond to his texts and calls.

[Shangri-laschild]

Once you send him the text telling him not to talk to you anymore, no matter what he texts back, don't respond. This is very important. The police have less ground when dealing with him if you contact him any after that even in response. From what I understand, it can invalidate your statement for him to not talk to you anymore because you are continuing to converse with him. Not sure the technical bits about it other than it's important to not respond at all after you send the message.

Be very careful with a guy like this. It would not be a bad idea to tell him sooner than Friday, especially with him thinking the two of you will be hanging out (it sounds like he was convinced it's going to happen before even telling you) on Friday. Avoid hanging out with him at any point even in groups.

[RayvenQ]

I'm with lupo, he's sounding like a guy who will be spurred on by even the tiniest shred of attention, hell, probably be spurred on by the lack of attention too, but cutting him off is, in my opinion, the best course of action.

[lupo pazzesco]

No. No. NO. DO NOT go meet this guy. I'm with mytical, every alarm bell just went off with that text. Send him the message NOW. Tell him "Please stop texting me, I do not feel comfortable talking to you and if you keep messaging me, I will go to the police."

Keep it to the point. And follow through. Please don't meet with him. Thinking about it, only causes this sick feeling of dread at the thought. Don't go. Mytical with all due respect, I don't even think she should go with friends, or in public, I don't think she should go at all.

Just my two cents. Good luck, Kisa

[FormerCallingCardRep]

Kisa, if you go to AT&T and explain that you are getting harrassing calls and texts they will change your number for free. Trust me, my Oldest has had troubles with an ex-boyfriend and we have had to change her number several time due to him getting her new number.

[Mytical]

Kisa, every fiber of my being is shouting..whatever you do do not go to 'talk it out' with this guy unless you have like 12 friends with you. People you KNOW you can trust. Or in a very very public place IF at all. Cause..my creepy meter has went off the charts on this one.

[Canarr]

Kisa, I've had to report someone for telephone harassment and he won't get sent back to jail right away.

That's a pretty daring claim to make without knowing

a) the conditions of his parole
b) the local and state laws where Kisa lives

don't you think?

Still, I agree with the sentiment of sending one last text and then contacting the police if the harassment doesn't stop. And, no: don't meet him, don't visit him, don't talk to him on the phone. Cut all further contact, and leave it cut.

And possibly forward some of his texts to your friend, his cousin, so they know what he's been doing that prompted you to contact the police.

[RayvenQ]

Send him that text now, warning him to leave you alone, and as Kagato said, don't let him sucker you back in.

[BexieSchmexie]

Text him back, once, and tell him you want nothing more to do with him, and that he is not to contact you again. Then ignore him and block him. You can do it without having to pay $5 extra on your plan. Go sign up for youmail.com. It's free, and you can block his number through there. Works like a charm.

[Kagato]

Most important thing is to STICK BY YOUR DECISION. Don't let him push you around, don't let him guilt trip you, all he has been doing up until this point is playing mind games with you and you deserve FAR better than that.

I'd say do what notlovinit suggested, make one txt warning him that you want no further contact with him, keep the text, if he continues pestering you then follow up with the cops on grounds of harassment.

Also with regards to the $5 cost, depending on your budget it may be in your interests to invest in it even temporarily, if he circumvents it by phoning you on another number you can potentially get him in a LOT of trouble AFAIK

[notlovinit]

Kisa, I've had to report someone for telephone harassment and he won't get sent back to jail right away. What will happen is that you have to tell the guy you no longer want contact with him and save that text message. You will have to show the police that you told the guy that and that he continued to contact you further than saying "ok". They will call him and tell him not to contact you, but will not charge him. If he continues to contact you after the police have been contacted then you will have to report this to them and then they will charge him with harassment. Then when he goes to court for this the judge might also find him in violation of his parole/probation and either send him back to jail, assess him an additional fine, or extend his parole/probation.

You also might be able to find a way around the fee with AT&T. I know with Verizon when I went about blocking the number they said I had to pay a similar fee, but when I went online and logged into my account I found a place (after a lot of searching) where I could block up to 10 numbers for free for 3 months at a time.

[Kisa]

Just got a text reading, "I want you to come over friday or saturday; thats 3 days notice for you so do that; we'll talk and straighten shit out". A part of me wants to text back and say I dont want to see him ever but another part is sighing deeply because he's still acting like a spoiled little brat who can get whatever he wants.

"Are you free Friday?" = good; Asking someone if they want to do something and making sure it won't be inconveniant for them.
"I want you to come over...do that"= bad; Stating you want that person to do something without caring what they think and then telling them what to do.

[Talon]

I'm iffy about reporting him because, if I do, he will go straight back to jail...

Oh please, play him the world's smallest violin.
He chose to harass you, he can bloody well live with the consequences.

...and I'm not sure if my friend would be ok with that.

If he sees the texts you're getting and still gets mad at you, then he is no friend.

[Food Lady]

Good plan, Kisa.

[Redbeard]

It's kinda complicated... He's my best friend's cousin who just recently got out of jail for sexual assault. Everyone said he was innocent and he seemed nice so I started talking to him because he has no friends and he can't leave the house. Now my friend and many others hate him and no longer think he is as innocent as he claimed to be. I'm iffy about reporting him because, if I do, he will go straight back to jail and I'm not sure if my friend would be ok with that.

Report him. It's not a parole violation yet, but from his escalating reactions you need to make sure that it's out there. How much will it cost to change your number?