I want to make a request of the membership here.

[ArcticChicken]

I agree with Lupo and Pedersen, that was a seriously dick move. Whoever you are, you aught to be ashamed of yourself.

[lupo pazzesco]

I echo what pedersen said. And sadly, I find it eerily reminiscent of all the SC threads where the EWs of note scream "don't you know who I am?!" And demand special favors, by sheer virtue of who they are, and who they know.

I like to think I'm friendly with some mods. I'd like to think I'm actually friends with other mods. I in no way see why that would make it acceptable to expect special favors or treatment. I find that more than a little reprehensible, and like Pedersen, would only want to know who, so I could avoid association.

Kinkoid, I'm sorry this happened to you. You're definitely worth far more than simply someone for free favors, and the gall to claim it in the name of "friendship" is almost extra hurtful. I'm sorry, there are things I will ask my friends, but if they tell me they can't, as a friend I respect that.

I still think you're awesome, and love your way with words, for whatever that's worth.

[Pedersen]

Well, I know the specific incident in this post wasn't me, so I'm glad of that. And I understand that you can't tell us who it was, Kinkoid.

I still wish I knew. I'd like to add said person to my personal ignore list here and IRL. That is not at all acceptable behavior.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I want to make a request of the membership here.

Please don't put us in an awkward situation regarding our jobs as moderators here.

All of us here are forum members, just like everyone else here. This means we have friends here, folks we've connected with, people we talk to off-board, etc.

It's really, really hard sometimes to be unbiased and fair, especially when we're friends with someone we have to deal with as mods, or when we agree with something that should have not gotten said here. We're human. But we try very hard to be fair and unbiased.

I'm asking you all as friends and as fellow members of this board we love: Please don't ask us to abuse our moderator status by granting you special treatment. That's not cool. That's no different from your friends walking into your place of business and asking to be hooked up with free stuff.

In a nutshell. it's sucky.

You put us in an awkward and impossible situation when you do that. We do everything by consensus here, and it's not like any one of us can decide to let you break the rules "because we are friends with you." We can't do that. Literally, we CAN'T do that, and it's wrong to even ask.

It's happened to me. I don't appreciate being put in that position. I'm sad because now someone I like very much has decided to stop talking to me over something so trivial. I'm angry at being blamed for something out of my control.

And yes, I'm hurt that someone put me in an impossible situation, and then blew me off when I couldn't deliver. And they did it, ironically, because they considered me "a friend."

As for the rest of you, please think before you ask someone for a special favor you know damn well you're not entitled to. Be it here or elsewhere, that is what Sucky Customers do. So don't.

Thanks for listening,
Kink