Shopping, the good the bad and the wtf?

[Magpie]

Except in baba ghanoush. For some wacky reason I can tolerate mayonnaise if it has roasted eggplant in it, even if I can see it.

And you're going to have to share this recipe. I've never seen a baba ganouj recipe with mayo in it, so now I'm curious.

[Shalom]

Re: the bad - good grief. That's the sort of server who gives the rest a bad name. A nice server I'd have let the mistake go, but that one, making cracks about needing light mayo? That'd be when I'd (politely) kick up a fuss, refuse to accept anything except the sandwich I ordered, & if necessary talk to the manager about her attitude.

Oh hell yes. I'm a bit on the pudgy side, I'll be the first to admit it. But if someone tells me (or someone else in my hearing) that I ought to be eating light anything, they will be informed that it's not any of their damned business what I eat, except insofar as that it's their business to deliver what I ordered.

Especially when what was delivered was not what I ordered, and when what I actually did order didn't have any goddamned mayonnaise in it to start with. It was entirely their idea, so they have no right get on my case for it.

I just hate the stuff. Embarrassed the hell out of my wife once when I was eating by her mother's and reacted to seeing a blob of mayo in the avocado salad by instinctively recoiling from the plate. I couldn't help it, that's just what mayonnaise does to me. To each their own, I guess, but my own has no mayo in it if I can help it.

(Except in baba ghanoush. For some wacky reason I can tolerate mayonnaise if it has roasted eggplant in it, even if I can see it. Go figure that one out, I can't. Sometimes potato salad is OK too, depending on the recipe. Otherwise, no. I'll put condensed cream of mushroom soup in my tuna salad instead. Or celery soup, even better. Yum.)

It's not the taste per se, since if it's so thoroughly blended in that I can't tell it's there, it doesn't bother me that much. De gustibus non est disputandam, I guess.

[superhotelworker]

Kink> I really should have.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Again, we are not debating on if use of a child leash constitues sucky parenting or not.

I mean, ya'll can if you want. Just not here.

Also, if someone said I needed "light" anything in front of me, they would be wearing the foodstuff in question. I am not even joking.

[MoonCat]

Bleah, light mayo tastes like it's gone stale, no matter how fresh it actually is. And they were incredibly rude.

[greek_jester]

to use the leash as a means of 'correction' or to lift, oh hell no, that's much like whipping them-painful and unnecessary.

That depends on the leash. The one I wore in the late 70's/early 80's was exactly like a climber's harness minus the straps around the legs, with a double-ended leash clipping on each side of my waist. Getting lifted up by it wasn't uncomfortable at all (particularly since mum always made sure I was at least wearing a cardie), & if I started getting fractious in a queue she'd pick me up with the leash a few inches & let me swing gently - I'd be squealing with laughter within seconds, since I loved to 'fly', & would sometimes go into a strop when she had to put me down to pay!

I was the worst possible combination as a child, being a bit deaf, overly intelligent & insatiably curious. I'd get distracted by things & stop or wander off at the drop of a hat, so going leashless, particularly since my little sister is less than 18 months younger than me & was in a pram at the time wasn't an option.

Re: the bad - good grief. That's the sort of server who gives the rest a bad name. A nice server I'd have let the mistake go, but that one, making cracks about needing light mayo? That'd be when I'd (politely) kick up a fuss, refuse to accept anything except the sandwich I ordered, & if necessary talk to the manager about her attitude.

[chainedbarista]

i'm not a fan of the leashes, but there are times when i wish they'd have existed when babychains was little; he was a fast little bugger, and after work, i had low/no energy to chase him down, but for the most part, he wasn't a difficult child, just had his moments.

to use the leash as a means of 'correction' or to lift, oh hell no, that's much like whipping them-painful and unnecessary.

[Magpie]

SHW, I'm not sure you realise this, but they were actually trying to poison you at the sandwich place - light mayonaise contains colour. Clearly someone who had heard about the dangers of tartrazine (I'm still not sure that it's bad for everyone, just that some people are insanely sensitive), and misunderstood it. You were making her look bad by being a decent human being, and she thought that you should be taken out.

[iradney]

Let's ease up on the leash discussion, mk? It's something that's a little better suited to fratching.

[Sliceanddice]

there is a second benifit of a leash when in a crowded place like the mall.

A snatcher cant just wait for your child to wonder away from you to kidnap them, they would have to com within about 5 feet of you and either remove the harness (which you or others around you would notice) or cut the leash (most people would notice it the leash they are holding suddenly got looser especially if they had a runner) and your close enough that you would hear the child call for mommy.

Child leashes are great anti-kidnapping devices.

[InsanityInc]

I'm going to chime in with support for the leash. My daughter moves like the wind and I needed it to keep track of her. While I didn't use it in day to day life, I did use it at crowded places like the zoo. And she wanted it! I'd tell her we were going to the zoo, and she would find her monkey back back (the tail was the leash), she'd make sure it was in the car, she'd put it on, and she'd hand me the end of the tail.

I think it was like someone else said, and she was comforted knowing I was right there, and she had the independence of being able to wander, but still not get lost.

Although I would never have picked her up by it. Just the wrong way to use one, and likly to hurt the kid.

[superhotelworker]

I used to babysit and never had a problem keeping up with the kiddos. (Except maybe their mouth but kids know it all LOL)
I just.. DON'T pick your child up by that thing! It's not right. And it probably hurts.

[Cazzi]

I used the harness/leash with both mine as toddlers & was often complimented about how I was keeping my kids safe

I also held their hands while walking, with the end of the leash over my wrist, I can't move very fast either so it was a godsend for those moments when they just pulled away with no warning.

About the time my son was a toddler there was a nasty fatality in town. Parents were walking alongside a busy road, chatting, with their 2-3 year old trailing just behind them, or so they thought. She had no restraints & no one was holding her hand but they couldn't understand how she ended up under the wheels of a large van. Witnesses said the child was a good 20 feet behind them & they didn't notice

Yep. leashes may not look PC, but they give a small one a little bit of needed independence while keeping them safe, but I too wouldn't use out to pick a child up!

[Racket_Man]

I used a harness and leash on my son when he was little. Even with little toddler legs he could run like the wind and I, frankly, cannot. All it takes is a moment's distraction (and you cannot watch your kids literally every second) and your kid runs into traffic unless he's got the harness on. Unless you're one of the lucky ones who has an incredibly mellow and obedient child, you don't realize just how fast they can be and how quickly they can disappear from your sight.

Now picking a child up by the leash...no. You don't do that to a dog or cat, you certainly don't do that to a child.

my Ex and I had the same attitude. my parents however (very old school) disaproved UNTIL daughter pulled a fast one at about 2 years old.

we were all in a second hand store looking at couches for us. GM & GF were watching daughter. they get distracted for just a few seconds and like the wind daughter was SPRINTING for the store's open front door (which opened out onto a busy street) . you do not/can not realized HOW FAST a 2 year old can run when motivated. a harness and leash was soon purchased and used on a regular basis.

Yes we did get a LOT of nasty looks and some really snide comments (and a few threats of calling CPS on us) , but we ALWAYS had our daughter within reach AND she COULD not just take off after noticing something interesting or shiny or cute.

picking up a child by said leash is not right.

[Stormraven]

When I was younger, taking care of my three little brothers while my mom was working, I'd have killed for leashes. One child may not run very fast, but when all three are going in different directions, it can be difficult.