Binky
07-02-2007, 11:10 PM
well so to speak.
I've finally had to stop trying to keep a friendship going. I've known this person for close to hmmm 18 years? and been friends with them basically the whole time. However, about 1-2 years ago I met my now Fiancée, and from then on things started going down hill, tho it was getting rocky about a year before that.
They stopped calling me, and while I didn't notice at first, it ended up with me always calling them. Then slowly it was me always organising things. Then it was lame excuses for them to leave early, or why they couldn't go out, like they had to clean the house (never been an issue for the last 16 years why is it now?) anyways. Basically we started to see each other once a week, then once a fortnight, then once a month, then every other month, then once every 6-7 months and so on. IF I didn't call them, I wouldn't hear from them at all. Now let me just note, that while this sounds like people just growing apart, in normal circumstances I can see that as the case, but where this "friendship" is concerned it wasn't. They were literally just jealous of the fact I had a partner and they didn't. Also, I was at uni and started hanging out a little with the friends I met there, instead of hanging out with my friend every day of the week.
This "friend" actually got pissed off at me for being sick and not being able to see them. an example would be when I was meant to go out, and went over to pick them up, but got really REALLY bad cramps and felt sick and had to turn around and go home, I was told basically "you can stuff going out, I'll just go out with someone else, I was waiting all day and looking forward to this and you've just gone and ruined it all for me" :eek::eek: the worst part is they actually think thats justified, and they were right to be annoyed I got sick and prevented them from going out.
So yes, I heard from another friend who's still in contact with them that they mentioned me, and basically said "I don't want to be friends with HER anymore" and if I ever call, or message on the off chance they will make some snide comment, like "OMG I can't believe she still trying to talk to me, how pathetic"
What did I do? I got a boyfriend and other friends. That is IT thats ALL I did, I did NOTHING else. OH right, except for occasionally being sick and unable to go out with them.
I just, I just ....yeah it's done and I'm not even going to bother with them. Its just sad that 18 year can be thrown away for something so damn petty and irrational.
I've finally had to stop trying to keep a friendship going. I've known this person for close to hmmm 18 years? and been friends with them basically the whole time. However, about 1-2 years ago I met my now Fiancée, and from then on things started going down hill, tho it was getting rocky about a year before that.
They stopped calling me, and while I didn't notice at first, it ended up with me always calling them. Then slowly it was me always organising things. Then it was lame excuses for them to leave early, or why they couldn't go out, like they had to clean the house (never been an issue for the last 16 years why is it now?) anyways. Basically we started to see each other once a week, then once a fortnight, then once a month, then every other month, then once every 6-7 months and so on. IF I didn't call them, I wouldn't hear from them at all. Now let me just note, that while this sounds like people just growing apart, in normal circumstances I can see that as the case, but where this "friendship" is concerned it wasn't. They were literally just jealous of the fact I had a partner and they didn't. Also, I was at uni and started hanging out a little with the friends I met there, instead of hanging out with my friend every day of the week.
This "friend" actually got pissed off at me for being sick and not being able to see them. an example would be when I was meant to go out, and went over to pick them up, but got really REALLY bad cramps and felt sick and had to turn around and go home, I was told basically "you can stuff going out, I'll just go out with someone else, I was waiting all day and looking forward to this and you've just gone and ruined it all for me" :eek::eek: the worst part is they actually think thats justified, and they were right to be annoyed I got sick and prevented them from going out.
So yes, I heard from another friend who's still in contact with them that they mentioned me, and basically said "I don't want to be friends with HER anymore" and if I ever call, or message on the off chance they will make some snide comment, like "OMG I can't believe she still trying to talk to me, how pathetic"
What did I do? I got a boyfriend and other friends. That is IT thats ALL I did, I did NOTHING else. OH right, except for occasionally being sick and unable to go out with them.
I just, I just ....yeah it's done and I'm not even going to bother with them. Its just sad that 18 year can be thrown away for something so damn petty and irrational.