it is not a competition

[Cathi]

well anyway I am 21 weeks pregnant with my first child...yay :)

anyway my younger sister has recently started seeing this guy now I dont know much about him (she lives about a 20 hour drive from me) except that he is 35 and still lives at home with his parents and has no money.

and she wants to have a baby with him.??????

she is living with a friend and she told her friend that if she hadn't found a partner by a certain time she would just go and get herself pregnant and this was not long after she found out I was pregnant.

hello it is not a competition. you don't decide to have a baby because your sister is having one !!!!

it just really irks me that she has put no thought into it at all I mean they arent even living together.

I really do hope she puts it off until they are at least living together.

but in the end they are both adults and well I guess there isnt much I can do.

[NightAngel]

It's too bad she doesn't live closer then you could have her stay with you for a few weeks right after the baby is born. That would allow you to drag her out of bed every time the baby needs fed/changed, etc in the middle of the night.
OR! You could call and wake her up for "company" everytime you get up with the baby.
:devil:

[Cathi]

lol I like that idea although she does tend to go to bed during the day rather than at night (she doesnt work).

I wonder if I email her after baby is born and say how I have had only 2 hours sleep and my baby keeps crying and I cannot settle baby no matter what I do if it would put her off...least for now :P

[Soulstealer]

Why wait? Send her an email about the 'fun' of pregnancy. Leave out the cool parts about the baby kicking and seening a sonogram for the first time. The email should include morning sickness, nausea from foods you used to like, the tapdance on your bladder, and how many people's arms you ripped off for touching you without permission.

[BlaqueKatt]

don't forget the stretch marks, backache, swollen ankles, hot flashes, heartburn, constipation, hemorrhoids, itchy skin-can you tell I hated pregnancy....:roll:

[XCashier]

Or how about the baby kicking you in the same spot in your ribs, over and over and over and over...boy, was I glad when he finally "dropped"!

[Kiwi]

ok for the non pregnant females around here.... please dont be so graphic with US!!!! I dont need to know all the horrors of pregnancy!

I hope your sister comes around to a resonable point of view, before she has a bun in the oven so to speak.

[Jester]

lol I like that idea although she does tend to go to bed during the day rather than at night (she doesnt work).

That is even better. Invite her to stay with you to "help out" for a bit once the baby is born. Make sure she gets there about a month or so before you are due so she can see just how much "fun" a woman has in her last month of pregnancy. Then, once the baby is born? Even more fun. You say she sleeps during the day and is awake at night? Great, at night she can help out, as you'll be sleeping....and during the day, what are the odds that you and the baby going through your day won't wake her up? :devil:

By the way, did I understand you correctly? Her boyfriend doesn't work and lives with his parents, and your sister also doesn't work and is staying with a friend?

And she wants to have a baby?!?! :eek: Just how in the name of Kirsten Dunst does she expect to support said baby?

[NightAngel]

lol I like that idea although she does tend to go to bed during the day rather than at night (she doesnt work).

The daytime is as much fun as the night. Call her during the day and tell her the baby is crying, spit up on your fave shirt, etc.

Added bonus if you can work up a good fake cry and blubber about how tired you are and you feel like the baby never sleeps. :devil:

[Jester]

Added bonus if you can work up a good fake cry and blubber about how tired you are and you feel like the baby never sleeps. :devil:

Better yet, call her up when you really ARE crying about something to do with the baby. That is even more evil. :devil:

[Emrld]

you are right it isn't a competiton . . .but siblings tend to make things that way.

I am the younger sister (not the one being mentioned - but a younger sister none the less) Growing up I had to find things that my sister wasn't doing/ into on a regular basis . . .because as long as I was good at something - she wanted to be better.

When we got older and finally started to find our own ways . . .I was still local to our parents, and joined the family business, and got licensed in it.
She not to long after moved back to town and became preggers (by her husband of over 5 years at that point) In turn she also got her license in the same business and once again tried to make it a competition.

Anyway - there are just some things that siblings hear their parents talk about with joy in their hearts and they want to give the same joy to their parents. (yes children and jobs are different things) And they want to do a bigger and better job at it.

I totally understand your frustration with you sister. I think you should also in phone calls or e-mails talk about the money you are having to spend . . .on diapers, clothes, strollers, car seats, furniture . . .let alone some of the things your body is doing to you - and the more TMI/ someone who hasn't had kids would want to hear - the more you need to tell her.

Outside of this all I can do is offer hugs and support . . .let your sister do what your sister is going to do. At this moment you need to be enjoying all the wonderful things that are happening and get prepared for this bundle of joy that is on its way.

[XCashier]

Added bonus if you can work up a good fake cry and blubber about how tired you are and you feel like the baby never sleeps. :devil:
Or when you're light-headed and having mild hallucinations from sleep deprivation.