Male Attention

[unholypet]

Not like that, if you thought it sounded that way.

I'm not exactly ugly, but through a lot of years in my life I was basically ignored by the opposite gender (minus my still-boyfriend).

Its strange to think that after I turned 18, male co-workers pay more attention to me, and store clerks tend to make sure I'm comfy.

Just a wierd observation, and it literally changed overnight so I was kindof o_0'' Kindof hit me today at the mall lol

[crazylegs]

Alas, it doesn't happen to the chaps (at least not to this one anyhow, in the vice verca situation) so unfortunately I can't relate, I do think its more of a girl thing. Rejoice and enjoy the attention!

[kerrisan]

It weirded me out when I started getting "male attention" after losing weight. Unfortunately, I tend to get the undesired kind of male attention. For example, a waiter at a restaurant decided to call me "babe" and touch my shoulder whenever he made a joke. If you're not a friend, family member, or my boyfriend, you don't touch me. And you certainly don't call me "babe." It may have just been because he wanted a good tip, but before I lost weight waiters were always strictly business.
He got the bare minimum tip - 15%. :rant:

[unholypet]

I'm more of an "obscure" person. I don't like being fawned over or followed or babied, but yeah!

After two years of it I just wish they'd ignore me again x_x' Its embarassing..

I undersand that a lot of people enjoy it, and of course anyone would take it as a compliment. Like Mr. Smelly-Good http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showthread.php?t=18677

:D

[crazylegs]

After two years of it I just wish they'd ignore me again x_x' Its embarassing..

I undersand that a lot of people enjoy it, and of course anyone would take it as a compliment.

I don't think its going to go away for a while yet (not until your a fair bit older, and no I'm not going to place an age else I'll get hung, drawn and quartered for that by anyone over whatever age I put!)

[BookstoreEscapee]

It weirded me out when I started getting "male attention" after losing weight. Unfortunately, I tend to get the undesired kind of male attention. For example, a waiter at a restaurant decided to call me "babe" and touch my shoulder whenever he made a joke. If you're not a friend, family member, or my boyfriend, you don't touch me. And you certainly don't call me "babe." It may have just been because he wanted a good tip, but before I lost weight waiters were always strictly business.
He the bare minimum tip - 15%. :rant:

Sorry, that wouldn't garner him any extra tip from me. Joke around, sure, but don't call me pet names and definitely don't touch me! (there, there's your "tip"!)

[crazylegs]

To be honest, that sort of behaviour with some of my female friends will end you up with *no* tip, regardless of how good the rest of the service is. Some may say rude, bt unsolicited physical contact is more so.

[Greenday]

It doesn't have anything to do with the fact that you are now legal, does it?

On a more serious note, I can't exactly tell why they haven't been given you all the attention in the world before you were 18.

[Bright_Star]

It may seem contradictory but I hate being the center of attention AND I hate to be ignored. Figure that one out...lol.

[unholypet]

To be honest, that sort of behaviour with some of my female friends will end you up with *no* tip, regardless of how good the rest of the service is.

That's totally true. If I felt "bombarded" (there's a better word but I can't think of it), I'd leave a written note XP

It may seem contradictory but I hate being the center of attention AND I hate to be ignored. Figure that one out...lol.
LOL Bright_Star..
We strong women want to be acknowledged, not patronized =p

It doesn't have anything to do with the fact that you are now legal, does it?

On a more serious note, I can't exactly tell why they haven't been given you all the attention in the world before you were 18.

I wouldn't think it was the legal thing (minus 1 or 2 co-workers). I tend to stay at home and have only one male friend, and he was never like that, just out of respect for myself and my boyfriend.

And thank you :o

[Killer Bees]

Ah yes, male attention. I remember that! :)

It's been a year since I've had any male attention at all (I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago). I've enjoyed the space and had time to get over being heartbroken, but in all that time, it's like I'm invisible.

I'm not complaining at all. It's nice not to have to worry about someone else's feelings all the time. But hey, I'm a girl and it would be nice to have just one cute guy smile at me and say hi.

I'm taking bets with my sister about how long it will take a guy to ask me out. Right now I'm saying it will take at least another 12 months, she reckons by New Years.

I think I'm going to win......

[ArenaBoy]

I don't know how I can explain this phenomenon but I think you could be exuding an air of confidence or something along those lines even though you keep to yourself when you're out and about.

[unholypet]

I don't know how I can explain this phenomenon but I think you could be exuding an air of confidence or something along those lines even though you keep to yourself when you're out and about.

Heh.. I had my warlock voidwalker aura going on X3

[ArenaBoy]

Heh.. I had my warlock voidwalker aura going on X3

Well that could explain it. :lol:

Speaking as a male I noticed that I've been getting some attention from some females and as of late there is this girl who keeps winking at me in one of my classes. It's weird as I usually do the initiating. (Get your heads out of the gutter!)

[unholypet]

Well that could explain it. :lol:

Speaking as a male I noticed that I've been getting some attention from some females and as of late there is this girl who keeps winking at me in one of my classes. It's weird as I usually do the initiating. (Get your heads out of the gutter!)

Maybe she's wanting you to? =3

[crazylegs]

It's been a year since I've had any male attention at all (I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago). I've enjoyed the space and had time to get over being heartbroken, but in all that time, it's like I'm invisible.

I'm not complaining at all. It's nice not to have to worry about someone else's feelings all the time. But hey, I'm a girl and it would be nice to have just one cute guy smile at me and say hi.



Being male and in the same situation (but for less time, three months) I'm getting exactly the same treatment from the girls, and I have no idea why...

[Boozy]

Being male and in the same situation (but for less time, three months) I'm getting exactly the same treatment from the girls, and I have no idea why...

You must be putting off a pretty strong vibe of "not ready".

I'd imagine that once your eye starts wandering again, women will pick up on it and start to express interest.

[crazylegs]

You must be putting off a pretty strong vibe of "not ready".

Evidently, well it was three years I was with psycho bitch from helltm so I'll give it a bit more time. (note to self, change mobile no)

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I don't know how I can explain this phenomenon but I think you could be exuding an air of confidence or something along those lines even though you keep to yourself when you're out and about.

Bet me to it. Confidence is the most powerful glamour you can have. A smile, an open demeanor, a friendly, fun outlook. Men AND women are drawn to such people.

[Andara Bledin]

There's nothing like having a boyfriend or girlfriend to get you noticed.

I can't tell you how many times I've heard the "if you weren't with... " line. And like as not it was from guys that I'd had crushes on and practically hit over the head with flirting.

Desperation is unattractive, however, and rarely gets you the kind of attention you'd like to have. For whatever reason, actively looking for a mate is about the best way to avoid finding one. Go figure.

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