MadMike
08-15-2006, 05:45 PM
Some of the older members may remember some of the horror stories I posted about my evil ex. Basically, she was abusive, lazy, irresponsible, and a deadbeat parent (yes, there are actually a few women like that, and lucky me, I got mixed up with one of them.)
I observe the date she left as my own personal "Independance Day." That day was ten years ago today, and I remember it like it was yesterday. We were together a little over six years, which turned out to be about five years too long. I actually got fed up with her bullshit after about half that, and we were ready to go our separate ways then, but she turned out to be pregnant with our son, so we ended up staying together. Not that things got any better once he was born, though.
During the last year, things went from bad to worse, and she'd often vanish for hours or even days at a time, and when she was around, she was simply impossible to deal with. I kicked her out a few times, but being the too-nice idiot I am, I ended up letting her come back every time, except for the last time. It was one night, after a really horrible fight. We had both finally calmed down, and I starting thinking to myself, "What the fuck am I doing?" I finally told her that she needed to start looking for her own place, but didn't really give her any kind of deadline, and almost forgot about it, actually.
On this day, ten years ago, late at night, she told me she was going to visit some friends and stay there for a few days. I was fine with that, because I'd get some much-needed time away from her, and get to de-stress a bit. A couple days later, she called me from another state and told me she wasn't coming back. Now, a year ago, I probably would have been devastated, but after all the bullshit that had been building up, the only thing I felt was relief. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of me, and that I had a chance to finally get my life together.
Now, ten years later, I almost don't recognize myself from back then. I see myself in pictures from back then, and I looked like I had been run thru the mill. I'm 37 now, and I think I actually look younger now than I did in some of those pictures. In fact, just a few nights ago, I was talking to some guy at a bar, and he asked me, "What are you? 25? 26?" I could have kissed him, but I don't swing that way. ;) People who knew me back then even tell me I look so much better. I have some good friends, some of which used to be her friends, but like me, want nothing to do with her anymore. I have a good job, a nice house, and a family.
She, on the other hand, did not fare so well. She's been in and out of jail more times than I remember, has been diagnosed with mental disorders that she refuses to stay on medication for, can't hold down a job, and has lost the respect of her former friends and family, including our son who is now old enough to understand just what she's all about. In fact, about a month ago, he told me that "she never did anything for me, except give birth to me."
I feel like going out and celebrating. Sucks that it's a weekday. I'm sure my friends all have to work anyway. If any of our members can catch the CS bus out to my neck of the woods, we'll have a beer together. :D
I observe the date she left as my own personal "Independance Day." That day was ten years ago today, and I remember it like it was yesterday. We were together a little over six years, which turned out to be about five years too long. I actually got fed up with her bullshit after about half that, and we were ready to go our separate ways then, but she turned out to be pregnant with our son, so we ended up staying together. Not that things got any better once he was born, though.
During the last year, things went from bad to worse, and she'd often vanish for hours or even days at a time, and when she was around, she was simply impossible to deal with. I kicked her out a few times, but being the too-nice idiot I am, I ended up letting her come back every time, except for the last time. It was one night, after a really horrible fight. We had both finally calmed down, and I starting thinking to myself, "What the fuck am I doing?" I finally told her that she needed to start looking for her own place, but didn't really give her any kind of deadline, and almost forgot about it, actually.
On this day, ten years ago, late at night, she told me she was going to visit some friends and stay there for a few days. I was fine with that, because I'd get some much-needed time away from her, and get to de-stress a bit. A couple days later, she called me from another state and told me she wasn't coming back. Now, a year ago, I probably would have been devastated, but after all the bullshit that had been building up, the only thing I felt was relief. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of me, and that I had a chance to finally get my life together.
Now, ten years later, I almost don't recognize myself from back then. I see myself in pictures from back then, and I looked like I had been run thru the mill. I'm 37 now, and I think I actually look younger now than I did in some of those pictures. In fact, just a few nights ago, I was talking to some guy at a bar, and he asked me, "What are you? 25? 26?" I could have kissed him, but I don't swing that way. ;) People who knew me back then even tell me I look so much better. I have some good friends, some of which used to be her friends, but like me, want nothing to do with her anymore. I have a good job, a nice house, and a family.
She, on the other hand, did not fare so well. She's been in and out of jail more times than I remember, has been diagnosed with mental disorders that she refuses to stay on medication for, can't hold down a job, and has lost the respect of her former friends and family, including our son who is now old enough to understand just what she's all about. In fact, about a month ago, he told me that "she never did anything for me, except give birth to me."
I feel like going out and celebrating. Sucks that it's a weekday. I'm sure my friends all have to work anyway. If any of our members can catch the CS bus out to my neck of the woods, we'll have a beer together. :D