blas
11-24-2007, 03:46 AM
I am shocked. Not speechless, but shocked.
I posted a new blog on my myspace, a rant sprouting from an ongoing problem I have with Yahoo messenger. The problem I have with strange older men contacting me and instant messaging me, propositioning me to meet them and have sex with them.
As my usual rants go, I threw in a few too many "fucks" and "bastard"s. Yes, it was over the top. I was seething angry when I wrote it.
Once again, I was just trying to talk to my mom on Yahoo messenger, and she doesn't understand that you can be invisible yet talk to people. So I let myself Online so she'd believe I was truly there so we could talk. I was just chatting with her when AS USUAL, a message popped up "Hey there, 35/m/my city, wanna meet up and have some fun?"....although a lot less gross than the usual "Hey baby, 40/m/my city wanna fuck?" I was still engraged.
I have made all my Yahoo aliases invisible. I have made my profile almost blank. They can't see any pictures or my age. Just my gender and location. I guess I better delete those, too. It's this Yahoo Directory they find me on. These local horny guys look for local girls online and there I am. Rrrrrr.
I made a blog pretty much dedicated to how angry I am. Calling these men perverts. Trying to make it clear that they need to be aware of who the hell they are talking to before they go about propositioning women for local sex. Trying to make it clear that there are designated sites for locals to meet up and do whatever. In a way yes, accusing them of being middle aged men living in their mother's basement, desperate for a lay from an online chick.
So I got this message from someone. I recognized him as the "photographer" from this "modeling agency" who had added me as a friend and tried to talk me into modeling. I remember the first cardinal rule of modeling: If someone wants YOU, they will sponser YOU. You will not have to pay thousands of dollars to be sponsored. So I called him a fake and phony and we hadn't spoken since.
His message to me was disgusting. Practically telling me I was a foul mouthed young lady (ok, that's true, I'll admit it), that back in his day, women did not use such words and if they did, they were shut up (wow, what a sexist piece of shit he must be!) and that I am slapping a horrible label on these men. That they are not all perverts and that I should be ashamed for calling them "sick bastards". That I am just as guilty as they are of being deceitful by not showing my age or any pictures. That instead of calling them out, calling the cops on them. That they have every right whatsoever to troll online for local sex. That I am part of the problem, not the solution. That's right, me doing what I do makes it more impossible for the police and other networks to put the real bad guys behind bars. And apparently, the guys propositiong me are not the bad guys.
Well excuse me, but it's deceitful of me to not show my age or picture because I want to protect myself? Because I am of legal age and really have no leverage to call the cops and have them jailed because yes, I REALIZE they can contact me and try their luck, but at the same time, they have no clue if I am a 14 year old girl or if I am of age. They don't know if someone may have stolen my password and it may be my boyfriend. Yeah, I'll call the cops.....we'll find out who they are really quick, right? I'm not saying I want them all thrown in prison for bugging me, I was just harshly trying to point out that I want to be left ALONE while I try to chat to family and friends.
Look, I have nothing against online dating. I've tried it before. Or even people who go online to look for a quick booty call. I know people get lonely and sometimes even desperate. I know all about that. But there ARE websites for that type of thing, where you can meet who you want and do whatever you want, knowing who that person is. It's safer that way than to message a random alias on Yahoo. A big place where men get busted for stuff like this are chatrooms and messenger services because they messaged the wrong girl. The wrong little girl or the wrong parent of a little girl.
I just want to be left alone by these perverts. I was angry. I wrote a hateful, angry blog. I never said they COULDN'T look for sex with local girls online. I just don't want to be propositioned when I'm on a messenger service with no desire for that stuff. I don't like words being put in my mouth and I don't like being told that hating the attention and writing about how angry I am is being part of the "problem".
All in all, I know we're all going to be bugged online by perverts and such. I know I can't stop it. I was venting, releasing some anger in a way better than vandalism, hurting someone else, or destroying my apartment. Is that too bad to do?
I think this guy was totally out of line. Don't you?
I posted a new blog on my myspace, a rant sprouting from an ongoing problem I have with Yahoo messenger. The problem I have with strange older men contacting me and instant messaging me, propositioning me to meet them and have sex with them.
As my usual rants go, I threw in a few too many "fucks" and "bastard"s. Yes, it was over the top. I was seething angry when I wrote it.
Once again, I was just trying to talk to my mom on Yahoo messenger, and she doesn't understand that you can be invisible yet talk to people. So I let myself Online so she'd believe I was truly there so we could talk. I was just chatting with her when AS USUAL, a message popped up "Hey there, 35/m/my city, wanna meet up and have some fun?"....although a lot less gross than the usual "Hey baby, 40/m/my city wanna fuck?" I was still engraged.
I have made all my Yahoo aliases invisible. I have made my profile almost blank. They can't see any pictures or my age. Just my gender and location. I guess I better delete those, too. It's this Yahoo Directory they find me on. These local horny guys look for local girls online and there I am. Rrrrrr.
I made a blog pretty much dedicated to how angry I am. Calling these men perverts. Trying to make it clear that they need to be aware of who the hell they are talking to before they go about propositioning women for local sex. Trying to make it clear that there are designated sites for locals to meet up and do whatever. In a way yes, accusing them of being middle aged men living in their mother's basement, desperate for a lay from an online chick.
So I got this message from someone. I recognized him as the "photographer" from this "modeling agency" who had added me as a friend and tried to talk me into modeling. I remember the first cardinal rule of modeling: If someone wants YOU, they will sponser YOU. You will not have to pay thousands of dollars to be sponsored. So I called him a fake and phony and we hadn't spoken since.
His message to me was disgusting. Practically telling me I was a foul mouthed young lady (ok, that's true, I'll admit it), that back in his day, women did not use such words and if they did, they were shut up (wow, what a sexist piece of shit he must be!) and that I am slapping a horrible label on these men. That they are not all perverts and that I should be ashamed for calling them "sick bastards". That I am just as guilty as they are of being deceitful by not showing my age or any pictures. That instead of calling them out, calling the cops on them. That they have every right whatsoever to troll online for local sex. That I am part of the problem, not the solution. That's right, me doing what I do makes it more impossible for the police and other networks to put the real bad guys behind bars. And apparently, the guys propositiong me are not the bad guys.
Well excuse me, but it's deceitful of me to not show my age or picture because I want to protect myself? Because I am of legal age and really have no leverage to call the cops and have them jailed because yes, I REALIZE they can contact me and try their luck, but at the same time, they have no clue if I am a 14 year old girl or if I am of age. They don't know if someone may have stolen my password and it may be my boyfriend. Yeah, I'll call the cops.....we'll find out who they are really quick, right? I'm not saying I want them all thrown in prison for bugging me, I was just harshly trying to point out that I want to be left ALONE while I try to chat to family and friends.
Look, I have nothing against online dating. I've tried it before. Or even people who go online to look for a quick booty call. I know people get lonely and sometimes even desperate. I know all about that. But there ARE websites for that type of thing, where you can meet who you want and do whatever you want, knowing who that person is. It's safer that way than to message a random alias on Yahoo. A big place where men get busted for stuff like this are chatrooms and messenger services because they messaged the wrong girl. The wrong little girl or the wrong parent of a little girl.
I just want to be left alone by these perverts. I was angry. I wrote a hateful, angry blog. I never said they COULDN'T look for sex with local girls online. I just don't want to be propositioned when I'm on a messenger service with no desire for that stuff. I don't like words being put in my mouth and I don't like being told that hating the attention and writing about how angry I am is being part of the "problem".
All in all, I know we're all going to be bugged online by perverts and such. I know I can't stop it. I was venting, releasing some anger in a way better than vandalism, hurting someone else, or destroying my apartment. Is that too bad to do?
I think this guy was totally out of line. Don't you?