Hauntedhead's metaphysical conundrum (or, "Psychics! To me!")

[Lvl_9_Gazebo]

Okay, here's the deal.

For the past four months I've been talking with a nice guy from Oklahoma who finally came out here to visit me for the first time this past weekend. I find that most of my relationships end up being long-distance things that start out online. This is frustrating, and they don't work out.

When it became apparent that this one wouldn't work out either, because we have absolutely nothing in common despite how nice a guy he is, I kept remembering something that happened to me over the summer.

One day last summer I was with two friends downtown when I saw the most beautiful man I have ever seen before in my life in the store where we were browsing. A few weeks later, I saw that same guy in the newspaper, in an article about the lack of minority teachers in this area (he is one), and learned his name. His name practically dropped me to the floor, because I realized I had dreamed about his name before, in the spring, before I ever saw him or knew who he was.

And so, when things didn't go as well as I'd hoped with the guy from Oklahoma, I kept thinking about that name and what it could have meant to dream about it before I could put the name in context, and before I found out who it belonged to.

What does it mean? What should I do? Why was he all I could think about as yet another relationship was falling apart?

Help!

[Saydrah]

I've had a similar experience, but nothing really came of it. However, I was also really really young at the time.

My personal opinion is that metaphysical/paranormal phenomena can happen for no reason whatsoever, or for every reason. There's no harm in pursuing the idea as long as you don't act like a stalker. You've seen him around town, you know he's a teacher, and the newspaper article probably tells you what school he teaches at.

How about volunteering at the school? Again, don't be a stalker, but I don't see volunteering at a school in hopes of meeting this teacher as harmful- you do some good for the kids, and it's not exactly shadier than any of the NORMAL wacky behavior people engage in while courting. Volunteer to read to kids or something, enjoy the kids, and if you see him around, introduce yourself, shake hands, and tell him that you recognize him from the paper and really enjoyed the article, and admire him for speaking out for diversity in schools (provided you do, in fact, believe in and support diversity in schools). If anything comes of it, then it was meant to be. If not, try to focus your psychic abilities better :D

[Lvl_9_Gazebo]

Today my emotions have been bouncing around all over the place and I reread an old email I exchanged with a very good local psychic. She said first off that the relationship with the guy from Oklahoma had long-term potential provided he and I could get past the transition from long-distance to face to face. I also asked her about the dream and she said that that guy represented the prototype of the mate I need and desire, and that she doubts anything would come of that, but that his presence prepares me for upcoming opportunities.

She also said that, what the hell -- should I see him again, strike up a conversation and see what happens because something very well might. There actually is chemistry there, but she thinks it may be from a past life connection.

I don't know how to find the guy aside from his email addresses that came up when I googled him. I'm not sure how well that would go over to have a real, live secret admirer pop up in your inbox.