More stupid teen angst from me!

[Gawdzillers]

So, if anyone recalls, and I don't mind if you don't, I had some trouble asking a girl I liked out.

Well, I finally did it, and we went out to a school dance. We had a great time. We're even going on a second date. :p

However, I feel that I was being a little too overbearing, and at times, "handsy". I didn't touch her inappropriately or anything, but I think I might have put my arm around her shoulders a little too much.

Here's the kicker (and hang on, it gets confusing): I explained this to her a week later, that I felt I was being a bit rude, and then she says she didn't think I was being rude, but she says that I'm being kind of creepy by explaining it to her. :confused:

I don't think I'm being creepy. In fact, I think I'm being downright polite by doing that.

Guys, I need some help here. Am I self-sabotaging myself for apologizing for my actions, or is she crazy?

[Rapscallion]

By apologising, you are showing a lack of confidence. Girls like confidence.

Rapscallion

[Gawdzillers]

By apologising, you are showing a lack of confidence. Girls like confidence.

Rapscallion

Of course, it's so simple. :doh:

Thanks.

[Rapscallion]

Oh yes, and they can smell fear.

Rapscallion

[unholypet]

Oh yes, and they can smell fear.

Rapscallion

Some of us like that smell, not everyone has to be Mr.I Pull Up My Pants All Day =p



She may have thought it was creepy, or just weird, that you were apologizing. If she never looked at your arm or shrugged you off it, no worries. She may not have noticed the gentleman's approach you tried.

[Bright_Star]

You're thinking too much. Just breathe easy & relax.

[Greenday]

Oh yes, and they can smell fear.

Rapscallion

Understatement.

As my girlfriend says, girls like it when their guy is being feisty.

Some girls are different. Some girls like getting treated like crap. A couple don't. Some will flip out over you touching them at all. Some flip out over you not touching them at all. Weirdos.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Understatement.

As my girlfriend says, girls like it when their guy is being feisty.
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Yeah, but not usually on the first date...;)

I'm with Bright Star...you're overthinking. Just relax. (And don't go trying to apologize for apologizing :D)

[Crazeyal]

Yah.. What Raps said.

The "creepy" part was that you were finding fault in things she hadn't noticed and didn't think was a problem. The proper response would be "Oh.. so you are ready for another date..GREAT! Pick you up friday!"

:lol:

[Igorina]

Oh yes, and they can smell fear.

Rapscallion

And desperation.

Relax Gawdzillers.

Like others said, if she didn't mention it, move your arm off her shoulders, than don't worry about it. Take it as a compliment, your touch didn't freak her out, nor were you sweating all over her in your nerovusness.

Good luck on your next date.

[MCSledgehammer]

Methinks her use of the "creepy" appellation may have been from the insinuation that you had been analyzing your actions and her reactions for a week. Probably not really the choicest of words for her to use... But I definitely support what's been said so far. If you just relax and treat her like any other person, you'll be just fine

[Gravekeeper]

My only advice would be that the second you follow any kind of "What girls like" advice you will immediately, without fail, discover you are with the one girl that does not like that. ;p

Treat her as a human being and don't over analyze yourself. You already answered your own problem with the thread title. It's just angst. Relax.

[blas]

I can smell fear, arrogance, and insecurity as easily as I can smell cookies baking in the oven.

I wish guys weren't so scared of girls, or convinced that girls aren't afraid of guys. To be honest, I'm petrified of them. If I see a good looking guy looking my way, I get scared that I have chocolate on my face, that my bra is showing, my boob popped out, that my hair is out of control, that I'm walking funny............we girls analyze stuff too. In fact, one of my downfalls is that I have spent months of my life analyzing every single thing guys have said/done.

[Gravekeeper]

I can smell fear, arrogance, and insecurity as easily as I can smell cookies baking in the oven.


I can only smell fear, discomfort, idiocy and emotional instability. -.-

I make it a point to never be the cause of the first two and to try and avoid anything that displays the latter two.

But on the upside I don't have to worry about a boob popping out. The day I do is the day I sign up for a gym membership...

[blas]

Be glad you never have. It's rather embarrassing....

[Gawdzillers]

Man, I didn't think you guys would be this supportive. :)
I've relaxed since the OP, and I think she really likes me. She even called me yesterday, just to chat.