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DarthRetard
02-18-2008, 07:32 PM
I've had a rough last week. I lost my job, lost a close friend, and then this happened, all within a week of each other:

Last thursday, February 14, 2008, I lost a dear relative to me. My Aunt Carol, died of pneumonia in a hospital in Nashville, TN. She and I were as close as a mother and a son, because she was not physically able to have children. So, instead of adopting, she chose to focus on her nieces and nephews, I being one of the oldest, and her adoring my mother, she raised me in my mother's time of need.

Friday when we arrived to the house and everything, most of the environment seemed normal. It hadn't quite sunk in for me yet, that I'd never see her again. I'd never hear her laugh, cry, anything. Her husband Carl, whose sense of humor is nearly parallel to mine, had us laughing most of the day, and I dont know if it's quite sunk in yet for him.

Saturday was the funeral, and I figured by all accounts that even though I was upset over this, that my father would be needing me there for emotional support. She was, after all, his oldest sister, and one of his closest relatives and friends. I will maintain to this day that I haver never liked open casket viewings, never have, never will.

I walked in, thinking I was completely prepared for what was going to happen. I wasn't even close. I've never cried that hard in my life. IN fact, I was broken up to the point where I couldn't breathe, and I hyperventilated right there in the viewing area.

I hope everyody's weekend was a little better than mine, and God Bless my Aunt Carol, may she rest in peace.
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iradney
02-18-2008, 07:34 PM
*HUGS* I'm so sorry. PM me if you need anything.

Gabrielle Proctor
02-18-2008, 07:47 PM
*HUGS* I'm so sorry. PM me if you need anything.

Seconded.:(

Amethyst Hunter
02-18-2008, 07:48 PM
*offers a :hug:* I'm very sorry for your loss. I hear you on the open casket viewings - I can't stand those either. I understand that some people prefer them as their way of mourning, but it doesn't work for me.

air914
02-18-2008, 08:12 PM
I am so sorry for all of your losses. Take time to grieve over each one and I pray that things start to get better for you.

I'll never understand open caskets either - I'd rather see pictures of the person surrounding the casket or something - show me what they looked like ALIVE - not covered in bad makeup and laying in a casket - I think it's disturbing. I wouldn't want to look at anyone after they were dead and in that state - celebrate their life instead.

Irving Patrick Freleigh
02-18-2008, 08:17 PM
When my grandmother died 2 years ago, I went to view her body in the open casket. I don't care if I never have to do that again.

Terribly sorry for your loss. We'll be your shoulder to cry on if you need it.

LadyBarbossa
02-19-2008, 02:12 AM
*big hugs*

I'm very sorry, DR :( I know what it's like to lose the person you call "Mama" even though she's not.

And I'm with you and just about everyone else on the open casket thing. One time I went to a viewing and ended up in hysterics from it. Never again.

myswtghst
02-19-2008, 02:17 AM
Big hugs and lots of good thoughts being sent your way.

DarthRetard
02-19-2008, 03:19 AM
Thanks guys, I really appreciate it. Things have gotten worse, now my mother is in the hospital, and I'm losing myself.:cry:

XCashier
02-19-2008, 03:23 AM
:( Aw, Darth, it really sucks that you're being hit by everything at once. I wish I could be there to give you a real hug. :hug: I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Cutenoob
02-19-2008, 04:31 AM
DR:

Hugs. It's gotta be hard as hell. I hope things get better for you soon.

Cutenoob

DarthRetard
02-20-2008, 01:37 AM
Just as an update, nothing's really gotten better, just at a plateau right now.

justZu
02-20-2008, 01:58 AM
:hug:

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.