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Rahmota
03-15-2008, 03:26 AM
Well I wanted to wait to make sure that this was for real before I talked about this. But we have finally got some good news, several pieces of it in actuality goign on right now.

First off even though we had to sell all the equipment, and clear cut the backwoods to pay off the lawyers and the danegeld of retribution that my exstepson claimed and the bail and legal costs. I am not going to loose the farm. More than likely at least. It is goign to be a very very tight year and definately no frills but we can work through that. And one of the neighboring farmers is more than happy to cash rent the land which now that I'm looking at it is a lot better deal for me in the long run as I dont have the equipment upkeep and fuel and seed costs and the hassle of dealign with harvest and everythign. The guy just cuts me a check 1/2 up front 1/2 at the harvest and win loose or draw I get the same money each year. So I'm not going to worry too much about getting any equipment back. But we still have our home and will be able to keep it. So that is excellent news.

Secondly even though my exstepson tried to get his own mother declared mentally incompetent and unfit the gestapo actually did come through and see thigns our way with the help of our defese and the doctors and so my wife has paperwork now that officially declares her to be mentally competent and fit to be a mother. So in his face! And I think this has been the worst par tof all this that he would use the gestapo to try and attack his own mother because she would not leave me. I mean attack me if he must but leave the rest of the family out of it.
I wish dueling wasn't out of fashion. Either blades or flintlocks at 20 paces or just plain ol bare knuckle knockem down drag em out fisticuffs. Just me and him. Much simpler, easier, and a lot more honorable than trying to get other agencies to do his dirty work for him and attacking others that are innocent.

Thirdly. He is being investigated for insurance fraud. Apparently his insurance company somehow noticed that the pictures and damages he submitted to them did not mach the pictures and damages that where in the police report. Sicne the amount of the damages he submitted is over 500$ (the amount between a felony and a misdemeanor in ohio) he is looking at potential felony fraud charges if the insurance company presses it. Now that would be quite ironic. Somehow I dont quite think he would do as well inside the joint as I did. Especially if he gets into the pod where i was and some of the people who where a guest of the county when i was there are still there. As the one guy does not like cocky, arrogant young punks who think they are all that jazz and whipped cream too. Which my exstepson definately thinks he is.

also on a related note it came out in counseling with my daughter that apparently she was abused at his house. The exstepson's wife had served dinner and when my daughter didnt like what she was served instead of letting her go without dinner or making a PB&J or somethign his wife grabbed my daughter's jaw, forced her mouth open with her thumb and tried to force feed the daughter. Then refused to let her leave the table for 4 hours. to the point of holding her there. Then apparently "convinced" our daughter that it was in her best interest to not tell us as we would be mad at her for not cooperating with them. So when the gestapo foud out about this they decided that investigating the exstepson and his wife would be a good idea. somewhat. i foud out that all they got was a slap on the wrist but still at least the gestapo actually did the job they are supposed to do instead of persecuting innocent people as they usually do.

And yes I know I am referring to Children Services as the Gestapo but that is how they operate in this county. They persecute people judging them guilty until they proove themselves innocent. they use intimidation and threats against people to get them to cooperate. They do not have very good oversite. their people are not trained in proper evidenciary procedure or other legal procedures other than call the sheriff to pull people's kids away from them if they do not jump through their petty little hoops. I mean when my exstep son was pushing for my wife to be declared unfit he told them about her being bi and in this county according to the gestapo just being bi or homosexual is grounds for your children to be removed fom the home. Fortunately there was no proof of my wife's sexuality and the lawyer was able to get them to go take a flying leap about the sexuality as while their guidlines may say that unless you are hetero there is nothign in the laws that say it. And they wonder why they are a half million dollars in the hole but no one will give them a tax levy. Most of the people of this county would just like for them to all go away. Permanently away if possible. And I know that CS doesnt condone violance against people but the gestapo does not count as humans. Sub-human proto-scum is more accurate.

Fifth, my exstepson has been running his mouth to anyone and everyone he can about how I am some sort of dangerous violently psychotic homocidal offender that tried to break down his doors and kill him while he heroically held me off and tried to innocently save his mother and siblings from my madness. Fortunately I have lived in this county my entire life, my family has been in this county since the late 1700s in one sort or another. So he is not having much success as painting me out to be the villan. most of the people I have heard thorugh the grapevine have had one of the following responses to him: 1: What did you do to provoke him? 2: BS! 3: OR How sad you are to treat your family that way. And all he has really succeeded in doing is burning every bridge he had with the people who know me and pretty much all our mutual friends have chosen sides. Those that where closer to him than me are if not on his side at least they are not talkign to me very well but the ones closer to me have all told him to bugger off until he grows up. And I mean his own mother has said he has dug a deep hole with her and if he wants to come back he'll have to work for it.

But anyhow things are stabalizing. My kids are safely with us. We still have our home. We still have our family, at least the ones that count. My exstepson is in legal hotwater with some seriously bad potential for him. And life goes on. We can rebuild structures, we can replant trees, but the rift in the family cannot be so easily healed. He has chosen his path. He has to live with his decisions and his choices. Its just he'll have to work harder if he wants to walk with us. His mother and I are grieving as if he had died for in many ways the person he was has died when he betrayed us.

The past tempts us, The future frightens us
and here we are trapped in the eternal present. As our lives drift away
moment by moment.

Der Cute
03-15-2008, 07:00 AM
Rahmota:

Isnt it funny, how everyone's seeing the real Dork in this kid? As I said before, when crap happens, you truly see who's on your side. And as you're hearing, the town people have chosen theirs.

His crap is coming back to him in spades. Yeah I"m cheesy. So what. I'm seeing this work, right here....

And I'm glad your farm isn't gone - people are helping you already.

If you plant a tree, please plant a Bing Cherry one for me. I WUB Bing Cherries..and they're soooo good. May want a Lemon tree, too, so you can throw lemons at him if he ever crosses the property line again.

Cutenoob

tropicsgoddess
03-15-2008, 02:26 PM
Thankfully that ex-stepson of yours will be getting what's coming to him soon with that insurance fraud case and then some from karma. It sucks that people are choosing sides, but now you know who's for real and who's not. I'm glad you still have your home and farm, so I know that despite all this chaos, you'll have some positive stuff along the way.

BookstoreEscapee
03-15-2008, 09:27 PM
Hey Rahmota! I'm glad to hear you are not going to lose your home after all. The family is what matters, so take care of them. Here's hoping all the rest works out soon. Things sound much more promising than the last update I read, so Yay :)

crazylegs
03-15-2008, 11:02 PM
Good to hear things are going right for a change, chin up as they say!

blas
03-16-2008, 12:09 AM
Thank goodness things are getting better for my buddy Rahmota.

My mom says things always have a way of working themselves out.

Rahmota
03-16-2008, 02:37 PM
Thanks everyone. Its just been one roller coaster ride recently. But I think things are mellowing a bit. At least right now. Everythign officially gets reviewed by the court in August so thats the last major hurdle. If everythign is copacetic by then then life is totally and officially back to normal.

Yeah its not peaches and cream right now but its decent enough. Sad and painful and frustrating about the exstepson and the way that all turned out but you cant win them all. And you cant make decisions for other people even when they hurt you. One of the bad thigns of free will. But the good parts of it outweigh them.

And yeah it is sad that people are being forced to take sides. That he has developed a real attitude of me vs him. Doesnt understand his part in all the pain and forgets that the whole trigger event was my depression and not dealing with stress well in the first place. But thanks to therapy and work and family and friends I'm dealign with that.

And yeah we'll still have our home. And while the concept of moving and getting someplace else was kinda neat in a way. I'd like to do it because we want to do it. Not because we have to do it.

And yeah things do eventually work out. one way or the other. Having faith and keeping your head up and doing your best is one good way to get through it and help thigns settle out for the best. Having good friends and people to help either spiritually, emotionally or physically is a good thign too.

:hug: Thank you all!