Parasite

[Rapscallion]

I have a brother, sort of. He's legally my brother. I see him approximately every christmas, and he never buys anything for anyone. Many people are new here, so I'll have to explain what happened by pointing to this (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showthread.php?t=3246).

Things have been quiet for a long while since he moved out. He's got a Belgian girlfriend via WoW, as far as I know, and I think they're still 'together' (for a given value of living in other countries). Back when he was living in the bedsit he ruined at the state's expense, he was able to sustain himself on minimal income by eating really cheap crap and playing WoW on a broadband connection he afforded by not spending much.

The situation now? Our parents are both able to retire - in fact my mother has. Pater is doing his best to get an income by working his arse off as a courier driver. He's putting in violently illegal hours, but I didn't tell you that. Since they had a (well-deserved) holiday in February on a cruise, he didn't earn anything, and they knew things would be tight this month.

Parasite phones up, won't speak to pater, and wants to borrow money. Mater obliges, even though he hasn't paid off the last loan, and he really needed a new (to him) car. He's up to his bum in debt from spending time on games, his credit cards are maxed, and he doesn't seem to have an idea of how to budget, or even that budgetting needs to be done.

He's been written out of the will some time back (something to do with not being able to take a joke and throwing a ladder at pater whilst pater was up another ladder - only a few feet off the ground, but...), so he'll get nothing from the house. Bugger probably doesn't know this, but he seems to be trying to get it all now.

In short, I'm fuming. I forced him to get a job and not be a drain on society. His response? He's fucked it up, been totally irresponsible, and is bleeding our parents dry.

I'm not amused.

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[Alfie]

It's sad when parents financially support siblings who have decided to take on no responsibility in the world.

I just found out today that my mum paid for my brother's rent when he was living out of home automatically from her bank account, and he was meant to pay her back. It took him all of a couple of months until he stopped paying her back. I don't know why mum was so stupid to put herself in that situation. And then she offered to do the same for me. I will be able to afford rent, so why would I need mum to pay for my rent out of her bank account? It's not even slightly logical.

[Shangri-laschild]

I've noticed it's hard for parents to say no even when the offspring is being an ass. Took me a while to get the hang of biting my tongue when my best friend's brother was doing stuff like that (though not as bad) to his mom. Luckily he's shaping up though. Hope things get better for you.

[Rapscallion]

My mother doesn't know that I know. From what pater told me yesterday, though, my instinct to lend him money would just result in it going to feed the scumbag's obsession with MMORPGs. Last I heard, he was just on WoW, but...

I don't have that much spare, though.

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[PCGameGuy]

I feel your pain. Ours is backdoored though, in that the parents are in financial hardship and are still supporting the wayward child. :(

We are in debt to our eyeballs now, and have actually started having troubles monthly for the first time in years, mostly due to a poor choice loan to bail out the parents. I'd do it again in a heartbeat, as parents are the reason we are all here, but it pains me to see them spend the money on something other than their own needs. Young healthy people should be out working and making as much as they can, so that old unhealthy people can finally relax a bit before shuffling off the mortal coil as it were.

In our case, they are now almost as bad off as they were before we gave them the help, and now we are sinking too.:eek:

Good luck, and I hope it helps to know you aren't the only one suffering in the world. :)

[Slytovhand]

Crap man!

I used to bludge seriously when I was about 17/18 or so, and was on the dole for years - but I still took care of myself and wasn't a burden on people (others may think so, but it's hard to argue when I was unemployed and had working people borrow money off me :P). I also didn't wreck stuff - just kept to myself and paid my way (mostly :P... ah - kids, hey...).

But I would never go back and try to rip people like that.

But I did know someone who would sort of do the same sort of stuff. About 10 years later, I met her mother. She (said person) was still pulling the same stunts, and mother (and father) was still saying the same things - even after putting down the deposit on a house!! All I could say to her mother when she bitched about her again (and saying 'that's it, no more..' etc) was - yeah - you were saying that 10 years ago.. what's changed?

I also knew someone who went through some pretty serious emotional stuff - but kept herself in denial. Til one day, she (literally) collapsed in a heap on the floor and just bawled her eyes out. It was her who gave me the advice - sometimes you've got to let people hit the bottom - so that they can push themselves back up. And everyone has a different level of bottom...


Good luck with it all Raps.. I hope (although, doubt) that things will get better - at least for you :D

And look at it this way - if it wasn't for the suckies in the world, this site wouldn't exist :D

[Slytovhand]

Oh yeah - I just remembered a quote someone told me many years ago... It takes a driver's license to be allowed to drive a car, but any asshole can become a parent. while it may not make much sense in this context - assholes do have to get born to a parent somewhere - even Hitler had a mum....

[Saydrah]

Eeek. When I saw this thread title after reading NSI's thread , my first thought was "RAPS is pregnant TOO!?"

[Rapscallion]

I only look it.

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[Rapscallion]

I moved out to my own place around a year back. The parasite doesn't know where, and I intend to keep it that way. He actually lives in a flat somewhere semi-close to my work.

He has a job - he's just got champagne tastes on a beer budget. Well, in Internet terms that is. I suspect he's running multiple WoW accounts.

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