In Loving Memory - K

[Myra]

I know I don't post as often anymore since I'm thankfully out of retail. And I'm not trying to sound preachy, but this is one of those things you don't even think of until it's too late.

A good friend of Husband's (we'll call him B) came home last week to find his fiancee dead. She'd killed herself and no, she wasn't trying to "time it" so he'd be able to save her. She'd really obviously done it right after he left for work, knowing he'd not be home for at least 8 hours.

Thing is, she showed NO signs of depression. I'd seen her just the weekend before, smiling and laughing it up at a bar where Husband's band was playing. She and B came to see them play.

I'd only gotten to meet her a couple times, but she was always friendly and sweet. We swapped mom stories as we both have kids. I got some good advice for dealing with a teething baby from her.

If you, or someone you know needs help, this is a good number to call. (http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/default.aspx) And here are some signs and behaviours (http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewPage&page_id=0519EC1A-D73A-8D90-7D2E9E2456182D66) that someone may need help.

This girl left behind an unconsolable fiance and three kids. I myself am a daughter to a mother who commited suicide. I know what it feels like to be left behind and it pains me to see those I care about having to deal with what I dealt with and am still dealing with.

I just wanted to spread some information around. It helps me feel better about things I guess.

[Ree]

Thanks, Myra.
That's really good information, and I hope, if anyone is depressed and feeling that there is just no hope , the info you provided will allow them to find help.

I am so very sorry for your losses. :hug:

[PuckishOne]

People who have depression can develop excellent acting skills to mask what they're really going through...I can't agree more that if anyone is dealing with this, or thinks their loved one is suffering from this, please call for help.

My condolences to you, Myra, and your friend in this very sad time.

[JLRodgers]

I once knew someone that tried to kill herself. I had a friend that left her house and said how happy she was, bouncing around, cleaning the house -- really energetic. She even told him he could leave since she was just going to finish up and then head to bed.

I asked him why he left her since she was going to overdose on pills and that's why she had him leave.

Fortunetely she miscalculated and lived to tell about it. Next day he wondered how I knew she was going to. Seemed quite simple, she was too happy (too happy meant she knew she wouldn't be dealing with things anymore).

[Shards]

Holy shit... :eek:

I don't mean to make light of this, really I don't... but... holy shit!

I swear, every single one of the 'observable symptoms of extreme depression' describes the way I've been since my fiance gave me the ring back... {This does not mean she broke it off, and I've no intention of killing myself... We just have to hide it for a while, just so nobody gives me 'she isn't worth killing yourself over' speech...}

[Evil Queen]

Bump because it's important to know. :(

[tropicsgoddess]

Sorry for your losses. :hug: