Am I offensive?

[Misanthropical]

I have notice that lately people will either turn away from me, walk away from me or direct answers to my husband when I'm speaking to them.

First one, I went to the doctor on Tuesday and my husband went for moral support. The doctor kept talking to him about my condition, answering my questions to him, till I finally yelled at her that I was in the room, could she discuss my condition with ME?

Second, I had to go to my little guy's school and ran into one of our local politicians. He never speaks to me, turns away from me, or looks over my head. He has never even said "hello" to me.

He does this every time I have gone near him. I would think he would want to know who is talking to his daughter, while she is holding his hand. His daughter and my little guy are in the same class and have been since Kindergarten. They have a crush on each other.

His daughter is a very sweet, very polite little girl. This guy's wife is also a very sweet person and we have talked on numerous occasions, but he acts like I'm not worth even looking at, so of course, I NEVER vote for him nor will I ever vote him. I don't bring him up when talking to his wife.

Third, while I'm at the school, I went to talk to my little guy's teacher and she walks away from me while I'm trying to introduce myself and talk to her about my little guy. I wasn't interrupting her, she was there to talk to the parents. I was the only one in the room with her at the time. When I did corner her to talk to her she turned away from me.

I asked my husband if I smelled, dressed inappropriately or what? He says I never smell, and I always dress pretty conservatively. I am always polite when I'm speaking to another person, unless they are rude to me first.

I just don't get it.

[lordlundar]

Possibly you have the "flamethrower eyes":lol:

just a thought.

[RogueOne]

Do you eat onion sandwiches on garlic bread, perhaps?:D

[Misanthropical]

I don't have bad breath. :p I brush my teeth at least twice a day and I carry mints in my purse.

[XCashier]

That seems to be a trend nowadays; blatant rudeness. As I mentioned in a previous post, I used to work at one place where my coworkers would walk away from me while talking to me. This caused no end of problems, as I wasn't able to hear what they were saying as they walked away.

I don't know what to say, except that I don't think it's you. I think some people just don't realize they are being rude. :shrug:

[ArenaBoy]

That seems to be a trend nowadays; blatant rudeness.

I've noticed that also. It boggles my mind that this is a trend at all.

[Rapscallion]

I could lend you some rather effectice deodorant.

Well, it works on me...

Rapscallion

[Erin]

Are you wearing a Cloak of Invisibility?

Maybe these people are having vision problems?

Or, in all likelihood, they're just being total asshats.

[COMINATCHA]

His daughter and my little guy are in the same class and have been since Kindergarten. They have a crush on each other.

Aaaww, that's so cute.

[Kiwi]

you dont seem like a pushover... but maybe in RL you are?

man those people wouldnt last two seconds with me... of course I would freak out afterwards and be all axnious afterwards and it would still ruin my day

but thats what I get for being completely impulsive and blurting out what im thinking too quickly

[Misanthropical]

Kiwi, no, I'm not a pushover in RL. I just have to think of the repercussions of what I say or do on other people or myself.

I did yell at the doctor, who then tried to avoid giving me a medication that I needed and acted like it was a hassle when she was called on it. Yes, I did get the medication.

I had a really good doctor for almost 3 years, we got along great, he treated me with respect, answered all my questions, never had a problem giving me a prescription for something he knew I needed, and called people on the carpet if he thought they treated me in a rude manner, but he moved away. :cry:

The politician, I would love to go off on, but you never know how far his reach goes and I have already gone through that when I took on a judge. I hear the judge still cringes when he hears my name.

The teacher, I don't know if she would take it out on my son, she probably wouldn't, but I have run into teachers who did take it out my child when I went off on them for rude or borederline abusive behavior.

[MystyGlyttyr]

I've had this problem, but then again, most of the time my reputation precedes me. I'm semi-well known in my neck of the woods (working for the paper newsroom makes you something of a celebrity in this podunk little town) and most everyone who hears my name knows of my tendencies to "pick on" the chronically stupid.

When I talked to one of my bosses about why people don't talk to me (a close friend who is so much like me, it's scary), she chuckled and said "Mysty, people don't like you because they know you're going to call them on their shit. No one likes to be made to feel like an idiot by an uneducated girl who has pictures of pro wrestlers on her desk." (She's not being rude, I dropped out of college because I got sick of always correcting my professors on their own subject matter. So, to most of these businessmen types, I am "uneducated". I'm quite proud of it, myself.)

Something to consider ;)

[Sunsetsky]

You seem nice to me. Those people are just rude. There's very little common curtesty among people today. It's rather sad.

With me...people out of the blue apologize to me when they're talking to me. I never understood why.

[Cia]

I hear the judge still cringes when he hears my name.



That would be a cool quote on a t-shirt. "Judges cringe at the sound of my name!"

I hope it wasn't a bad experience for you Mis for whatever the reason that you had to see the judge but I think it is hilarious that you have that kind of effect on him/her.

[Misanthropical]

Cia, it was just a traffic ticket, but the judge found me guilt of speeding even though the police officer was not in court and I had plead not guilty.

So, I took my case to every Senator and Congressman in the state of PA, asking how a judge could just toss the Constitution out of the window on whim. The judge got a lot of calls asking him what he thought he was doing.

The judge did not apperciate some pregnant housewife getting him into so much trouble. I guess he thought I would just pay the fine and move on.

Needless to say, he still doesn't like me much, even though we moved 50 miles away and we have no chance of crossing paths again.

[Cia]

Damn, he should cringe. What a frelling jerk.

[XCashier]

It could be that these people know you are not a doormat or pushover and won't let them dictate the terms of your life, so rather than face that fact like adults, they just try to avoid you.

[Munchkins]

Well, I am deaf and sometimes I bring my fiance along with me to resturants or to the doctor and the waitress or doctor will end up talking only to my fiance instead of me usually because I have trouble understanding them the first time. For most people, it takes a second chance for them to realize that they have to face me, talk clear and loud. But there are a few that don't want to bother taking their time and address my fiance instead of me.

And sometimes I understand them most of the time but there will be times they say something I don't understand, so I look to my fiance to tell me what they are telling me and then that result in them ignoring me the rest of the time.

[TNT]

So, I took my case to every Senator and Congressman in the state of PA, asking how a judge could just toss the Constitution out of the window on whim.

I had my own problems with a traffic ticket a few years ago. It was a bad rap, and it finally wound up in the Court of Common Pleas. The police officer managed to find two "witnesses." I asked one of those witnesses a question about what he said he'd seen. "Well, I didn't actually see it. I'm just saying what the police officer told me to say."

The stenographer gave me the most classic "WTF?" look I've ever seen. The prosecutor looked like he'd just been shot. We wrapped things up quickly and... the judge said, "Guilty as charged."

Huh?

I started writing letters. Before it was over, I had the commander of the State Police, Attorney General Fisher and Governor Ridge involved. It wasn't hard... the witness's statement was enough to get everyone's interest.

I called the court house one day to see what was happening...

Me: Hi, my name's TNT. A few months ago, I...
Courthouse: Oh, trust me, everybody in the courthouse knows you.

To this day, I have no clue what the fallout was. I still won't go back to that county. It's a silly place.

[LadyMage]

Mis, it's the exact same thing with me and one of my twin coworkers (I have two coworkers that each have an identical twin - long story) told me, "Well, people are scared of you because they know by looking at you that you don't f*** around and won't hesitate to call them out on whatever they're trying to pull. They just love their bull too much"

And you know, I found him to be right.

Seeing as the courthouse incident you've actually taken matters into your own hands and nearly got the judge kicked off the bench - and in NY, such a thing WOULD have happened - you have established youself to be A Powerful Woman. A Powerful Woman doens't sit and take it and doesn't buy into the quasi-misogynistic culture that seems to surround you and in all seriousness, who in the loving hell discusses a condition with the spouse when the patient - who SHOULD BE THE ONE ADDRESSED unless comatose - is right there?

And it's true, people do love to cling to their old ways of life a wee too much and as such, won't face the facts that there are people - many of whom are on this board - who would call them out if need be.