Would it be rude?

[CrimsonEmber]

A little background on this one...
I've always had a pretty high metabolism. My whole adult life I've fluctuated between a size 1 and a size 3, depending. I eat CONSTANTLY, and don't work out really all that often. It's just the way my body is.
About seven months ago, I moved away from home. Since then, I've given up almost all fast food (can't afford it, and cooking at home is healthier anyway), and I walk to work everyday, whereas I used to drive, so I've lost weight. I'm sitting at or just below a 0. However, I still eat CONSTANTLY, and still don't really work out much.
Lately, a lot of people who know me have been making comments about my weight, telling me I should eat more, that I should eat more junk food, that I look anorexic, etc. It's nice that they think about me, but I'm starting to get really irritated. Not only am I definitely NOT anorexic, but I sort of feel like it's not their business what I weigh, unless I start to get really sick and they want to help. Would it be rude for me to ask them to cease and desist?

[Luna]

Tell them (politely, of course) to shove it. I can't stand where people get of telling you how to run your life.

If you know that you aren't hurting yourself, and you know that you are eating a lot and eating as you should - don't worry about it. Thank the Gods you have a great body and high metabolism b/c it does go away as you get older. ;)

In my case - I think my metabolism shut off. Heh.

If you're concerend at all, have a check up with a doctor to make sure everything is in order, bloodwork is okay and all that important stuff. If it is, then tell them to leave you alone.

[Dreamstalker]

Lately, a lot of people who know me have been making comments about my weight, telling me I should eat more, that I should eat more junk food, that I look anorexic, etc.
:eek: More junk food? Seriously?!

I don't think it would be rude at all. Unless you decide to make it so, it's none of their business as long as you're happy with how things are.

When I was younger, I had people telling me I needed to eat more. I ate like a horse, but have very little body fat.

I lost about four pounds since I've been home because I walk practically everywhere (weather permitting). The nurse for my physical seemed surprised that I was technically underweight (I always have been), but the doctor said not to worry about it as I'm otherwise healthy.

[Broomjockey]

Tell them to stuff it.
And feel good too.
I don't have a metabolism. Seriously, I can get by on a regular sized meal a day as long as it's not a constant thing, and I haven't moved a clothing size since high school.

[ArenaBoy]

Tell them to do what we have all said. It's not their business.

[Coconut]

I know what you are going through - I have been the same way my whole life. I have never understood why it is often socially acceptable to comment on someone being underweight or "skinny" (as I have been called many times).

I've learned to ignore it. I usually just smile and turn away.

[One-Fang]

They're blatantly telling you you look anorexic and you're worried if *YOU* are being rude?!

It is absolutely NOT rude to ask them to cease and desist. How you ask might be rude, but I suspect they've not given you the same kind of consideration you're giving them, when they made their comments.

Unfortunately, extremes of both sizes are up for attack. It's socially acceptable. Doesn't make it right. Tell them it's none of their business. If you suspect they're just being concerned for you, go so far as to tell them you're healthy anyway, it's your metabolism, but if they're just being rude, don't even justify anything to them. It's none of their freaking business, even if you *were* anorexic.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

"Eat more junk food???" :eek:

I would have to ask these people if they knew what just came out of their mouths. "Eat more junk food. " That's mind boggling. :confused:

[Greenday]

Some people just don't gain weight. Look at my best friend from back home. Kid is about my height, 5'11", 6' and he weighs a whopping 120 pounds. Skinny as hell. This kid can go to a chinese buffet and actually get his money's worth and then some. Besides my step-dad, I don't know too many people who could out-eat him. Kid just can't gain weight. And then theres me. I weighed about 165 all summer. I got to college, I'm walking around all the time, not spending that much money on junk food so I'm eating somewhat healthier, and I've lost five pounds. Go me. I just wish I could pack down the junk like other people and still be skinny.

[Dreamstalker]

I know what you are going through - I have been the same way my whole life. I have never understood why it is often socially acceptable to comment on someone being underweight or "skinny" (as I have been called many times).
Interesting, as the twig look seems to be the fashion norm (or did; there seems to be a swing in the other direction now, but I still can't find women's pants in my size that actually fit).

[Barefootgirl]

What kind of stupid person tells ANYONE they "need to eat more junk food"? To be honest, I think that line alone tells you everything you need to know about the sort of person with whom you're dealing.

Its as rude to call someone anorexic or skinny as it is to call them a big fat whale. Either way, you'd know the person saying such things is a rude a*se. Just give them The Look, say "how sweet of you to say that", and walk away.

[draftermatt]

My sister-in-law has the same "problem"

When I was a teen I was told I was too skinny and losing too much weight. (I went from 225 to 160 in 7 months once).

Now I'm 250 and people don't hesitate to tell me how fat I am, how horrible I look, and I need to lose weight. I'm aware of this. But if I do lose like I did In High School, I'd be "annorexic" again.

[MystyGlyttyr]

I've got a wrestler friend who's about 5'7" and weighs 130 pounds. He's a TINY little dude to be getting in there with people as big as most wrestlers are. And you would never know to look at him that he regularly puts away whole pizzas in a sitting and comes back for ice cream. His metabolism is also royally through the roof...he's told me that during a three-day stint with a stomach flu, he managed to lose TEN pounds. I mean, YIKES.

He put it to me like this. "You watch those eating contests on TV. The winner is ALWAYS some skinny little person. We tiny folks HAVE to eat all the time or else we will get all bony. That's why we're so good at it!"

His usual answer to people asking him about his size is to reply "Well, if I weighed more, I couldn't get thrown as far!" :lol:

I myself, weigh 230 pounds and most people guess my weight to be 140 or 150 pounds. I'm one of about ten people on EARTH who must actually be big-boned since my frame is, to quote "like someone took a six-footer and crushed them down about six inches."

[Rapscallion]

How many people are actually telling you that you need to put weight on?

Feel free to ignore your friends, but since you post that 'a lot' of the people who know you say this, I'd be inclined to go to the doctor and get your weight checked there. If the doctor says you need more body mass, they may have a point. If not, tell them to bugger off - and wave his comments in their faces. Without seeing you, I wouldn't be able to make any other judgements.

Rapscallion

[One-Fang]

I know what you are going through - I have been the same way my whole life. I have never understood why it is often socially acceptable to comment on someone being underweight or "skinny" (as I have been called many times).

Because, as opposed to us fatties, skinny people have "obviously" been following the fashion trends, but have taken it 'too far'. Thus, while we have "let ourselves go" or "don't care about our figure", you have "tried too hard" or "take it far too seriously".

It's apparently okay to care about your figure - but not too much. If you're skinny, you're seen as desperate to conform to a norm (rather than just happy to), you're seen as someone who would gladly abuse their body just in the name of fashion. While we fatties are merely lazy, skinnies are seen as almost as bad as the mythical rib-removers.

Or, more simply, it's always 'socially acceptable' to comment on anything about a person seen as a choice. Too fat, too skinny, too many piercings, weird tattooes, bizarre fashion sense, odd coloured hair, etc etc etc.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I think people need to mind their own business when it comes to other people's dietary habits.

I'm a long time low carber. I am slim and healthy and I feel great. I get told my diet is killing me all time, usually by people who are in rotten shape and worse health. It really ticks me off. I mean, if you don't like my lifestyle, fine, eat what you want, I'm not telling anyone what to do. Why do people care what I eat or don't?

I've actually said to people, "Okay, what are you saying? I need to eat some fries and drink a beer to save my life? A nice big cola and some wonder bread is all that's standing between me and and early grave? Do you HEAR yourself????"

Gaaah....

My husband does the same and was warned how unhealthy he was by an obese SMOKER. :wtf: Really, I just don't get why everyone is obsessed with what everyone else is or isn't eating!:soapbox: