Request for good thoughts and prayers

[SengaKitty]

A good friend of mine [the one who went with me to Georgia and supported me with all the custody issues] is going through a rough time. I'm copy pasting this for her [with permission]. Please any and all good vibes, prayers and thoughts are welcome

so here i am, at University of Iowa hospital. almost our entire family has been here for over 6 hrs now. we're all exhausted & i'm quite sure some of us have ran outta any kind of liquids to continue crying.

at 12:30 am some pathetic drunk fucking douchebag decided he was gonna go out for a whirl in his vehicle & rear-ended my aunt bonnie, cousin laci & her 21 month old daughter. they weren't doing anything wrong. they were at a stoplight for fuck's sake!

they say he must've been going at least around 50 mph. the back seat of their car was now their front seat & that's how Z got injured. my aunt & cousin r ok & they thought zaria would be too, but when they removed the front part of her skull to relieve the swelling they noticed things were worst than first thought. i walked in at the last minute but i believe they said that one half of her brain is already not functioning...dead & they expect the other half to do the same. these asshole doctors r not even saying "if" she goes brain dead, it's more like "when." they said that there's an extremely slim, if any, chance of survival & that it's rare that she'll make it. & i swear to bob if they talk to us one more time about her organs i'm going to jail tonight for killing a doc! they honestly want us to just give up, throw in the towel, possibly even pull the plugs....all so they can take her organs. does anyone else see a problem w/ this?! now is not the time to talk to us about that crap, u know? & he did it right over zaria!!! what if she heard it? what if she is still in there somewhere? r u seriously gonna encourage her to give up?...to stop fighting? what kind of human being does that?!

god, i can't even imagine the lil tyke being around. she's the smartest, fiestiest kid i know. i can't imagine not seeing her smiling face or seeing that twinkle she gets when she finds where i've hidden my cell phone from her (she loves cell phones, especially mine cuz of the way it flips lol) or how she dances & lights up when the doddlebops come on. i don't know what i'd do!!!! please lord let her be ok. i know they want us to give up but people spring back miraculously all the time. u alwayz hear about success stories where they weren't supposed to make it, right? RIGHT?! PLEASE TELL ME I'M FUCKING RIGHT!!!

god, i can't deal w/ this right now *sobs*

[iradney]

Sending happy thoughts!

I know she doesn't appreciate the docs asking about the organs, but they honestly wouldn't do it unless there was no light on the horizon. I personally know that if I were in a situation where I was braindead, they could take my organs so that my death could have a beneficial effect for the world. It's hard to think like that when you see someone that young and loved in so much pain and trouble though :(

[Ree]

Good thoughts going out.

What a tragic thing to happen. I am so sorry for all involved.

[persephone]

Oh no! That's horrible!

I'll send all the thoughts and prayers I can. I know there's not much anyone can do. I hope the guy that hit them is in jail and I hope they throw the book at them. That poor little girl. That poor family.

Give your friend some big hugs from us. And hugs to you as well.

[iradney]

Oh no! That's horrible!

I'll send all the thoughts and prayers I can. I know there's not much anyone can do. I hope the guy that hit them is in jail and I hope they throw the book at them. That poor little girl. That poor family.

Give your friend some big hugs from us. And hugs to you as well.

Oh, there's a special place in hell for that guy.

[One-Fang]

Sending good thoughts and vibes.

The time to talk about organs is once - and only once - when it's clear all hope is lost, away from the patient, and with the nearest family only. Anything else is highly inappropriate. The writer appear's to be the child's mother's cousin. She should not have been involved in this discussion at all, let alone so often as to be sick of it!

[SengaKitty]

Got an update today. They looked at a scan of her brain, and it looks like Z is completely brain dead. There is no chance of her waking up, even if she does survive. Please send any and all good thoughts you can to this family in need.

[and to One-Fang, my friend is the child's mother's cousin, but she has helped raise Z since she was born.]

[SengaKitty]

This is the news article posted about the crash... apparently the idiot didn't have a drivers license OR insurance...

Updated December 15. 2008 4:17PM
Hiawatha man charged with drunken driving in crash that injured child
The Gazette

CEDAR RAPIDS Twenty-one-month old Zaria Cox of Cedar Rapids was in critical condition Monday, two days after she was injured in a hit-and-run accident. A Hiawatha man was later arrested and charged, police said.

Zaria remained hospitalized late Monday at University Hospitals in Iowa City.

Zaria was riding in a car seat secured in the back seat of a car driven by her grandmother, Bonnie Sawyer, 47, of Cedar Rapids, when the accident happened a few minutes after 12:30 a.m. Saturday at Edgewood Road and 16th Avenue SW, according to Cedar Rapids police Sgt. Cristy Hamblin.

Sawyer, who was driving north on Edgewood Road, had stopped at the intersection's flashing red stop light when her car was struck from behind by a sport-utility vehicle whose driver then drove off, Hamblin said. Officers responding the scene found the vehicle at Edgewood Road and 20th Avenue SW and apprehended a man who tried to run off.

The SUV's driver, Travis Boyles, 31, of 193 Sunset Lane, Hiawatha, remained in the Jones County Jail Monday afternoon. He faces charges of drunken driving, causing serious injury by vehicle, driving without a license or insurance, and interference with official acts. Additional charges may be filed later.

Sawyer and Zaria's mother, Lacie Cox Sawyer, 21, were released from an area hospital after treatment for minor injuries.

[El Pollo Guerrera]

Damn...

Most heart-felt prayers going out to her and her family.

[One-Fang]

If the big decision is made, can he be charged with vehicular homicide?

[SengaKitty]

If the decision is made to take her off life support and feeding tubes, then, to my knowledge, he will be charged with vehicular manslaughter. Right now, she is apparently able to breath on her own, but she'll never wake up from this. She is brain dead...

[Dips]

I'm so, so sorry that this happened. There's absolutely nothing to be said that's going to make it better; just offer as much comfort and support as you can and let the family know how much you love Zania and love them. Keep doing it; they're going to need your love and support for a very long time.

We never had to make a decsion about organ donation because my son's organs were too damaged to donate to a living patient. We only made the decsion to allow an autopsy and donate his organs for research after he died. I can't even imagine how hard it must be for them to have to make that choice. I will be praying for them and for you. :(