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JoitheArtist
12-22-2008, 04:14 PM
Yeah, yeah, I know, it's not even Christmas yet, who cares about New Years, right? :)

But I've been thinking lately. And I'm tired. I'm tired of feeling worthless, tired of not being able to handle compliments, tired of not trusting people, and tired of despising myself for every little mistake I make. I'm tired of fighting the urge to injure myself because I think I "deserve" it, and I'm tired of telling myself to suck it up because other people have had much worse things happen.

I want to change that, starting in the new year. I know it'll take a long time to make that kind of big change, and it's going to hurt like hell, but it's better than living like this. I don't know exactly how I'm going to do this, but I'm going to. It's VERY difficult for me to talk about the feelings that I'm always fighting, and the reasons why I feel that way, so I don't quite know how I'm going to start telling people. I'll probably start with my spiritual direction group, and work from there. I know so many people that have gone through abuse and real suffering, and I always feel that since my story is so much less tragic than theirs, I should just deal with it. But "dealing with it," unfortunately, seems to involve talking about it. So I'm just going to have to fight those voices in my head that scream at me that no-one wants to hear my crap, and just start talking.

Wow, sorry for that long post...But please keep me in your thoughts and prayers in the coming year, I'm sure as hell gonna need them. :)

persephone
12-22-2008, 04:22 PM
Just because someone else had "something worse" happen to them does NOT mean what happened to you is not a big deal and did not affect you.

By the way, I know this isn't much, but I'm proud of you. Realizing that you do NOT have to live like this is important. Realizing that letting your depression control your life is a bad idea is a BIG DEAL. I will be thinking about you and praying for you.

I've been where you are (not that I know your situation, but deciding not to let my mind control me anymore. And trying to tell my story to other people who might not think it "all that bad"). This is going to be hard. There are going to be times you think living with it will be easier and you want to give up but don't let yourself. People will probably surprise you and be much more supportive than you think. And you will be much happier once you are in control of your own life.

I'm here if you ever need someone to vent to. Feel free to PM me if you want to bounce anything off someone who does not have any preconcieved notions of you. Sometimes telling the story to someone you never have to SEE again and getting their feedback can make it easier to tell people you have to talk to face to face.

Like I said, I've been there. I'm proud of you. We will do everything we can to support you and I'm here if you want to PM me. Good luck and keep us posted.

:hugs:

blas
12-22-2008, 04:40 PM
That was not a long post, dear ;)

We are with you every step of the way!

JoitheArtist
12-22-2008, 10:17 PM
That was not a long post, dear ;)

We are with you every step of the way!

It's long for me, when talking about personal problems. :) But thanks. :)

BookstoreEscapee
12-22-2008, 11:25 PM
I'm sure there are several people around here who can relate and who would be glad to lend a (virtual) ear, if you want. Good luck :)

Cat
12-23-2008, 02:58 AM
Me for one :)

PM if you need to!!!!

Kheldarson
12-23-2008, 03:00 AM
You're also welcome to message me at any time.

Lots of luck on turning over a new leaf though. ^^ I'm sure it will go well.

Amethyst Hunter
12-23-2008, 07:13 AM
As I heard a comedian put it recently (don't remember who now), "How does someone else's suck make MY suck NOT suck?"

:hug: Best wishes to you. :)